4 Tricks To Make Her Orgasm

What You Need To Know Use the erogenous zones to your advantage - like the back to the right of the spine. Take your time when you're down below. It's scientifically proven that warmer feet lead to more orgasms. Shes arching her back, moaning and groaning, and giving Meg Ryan a run for her money. Youre impressed by your ability to make her squirm like that, but deep down your thoughts race between: "What if shes faking?" and "If not, how do I hit this magic button again?" If youve ever been there, or for that matter would like to find yourself in that enviable position, check out these four tricks to make her orgasm. Put on musky cologne Smell is the strongest of the five senses when it comes to sexual functioning for two reasons: First, since anything musky mimics testosterone, itll kick her libido into high gear. Baby powder can have a similar effect by activating her scent print, which links babies to procreation. Second, because smell, sex and memory centers share close quarters in the brain, the scent of arousal leaves the most lasting impression. The second she gets a whiff of your musky cologne, shell be transported back to the last time she smelled it on your body. Warm up her feet Every guy knows that when a woman hits the sack she loves to wedge her cold feet between his legs to warm up. Warm feet do more to make a woman physically comfortable than just about anything else -- even more so if you want her completely naked, which is not likely to happen if shes cold, even with the lights off. What most of you probably didnt realize was the importance of warm feet in increasing the likelihood of her experiencing an orgasm. According to Dutch scientists from the University of Groningen, the odds are increased by 30%. Maybe leaving the socks on isnt such a bad idea after all. If you want to try something sexier, a foot massage with a warming gel can do wonders, especially if you concentrate on the pads of her toes and the webbing in between, which are linked to her nether zones according to reflexology charts. Moreover, lips, hands, feet, and genitals get the lions share of brain space, where feet and genital centers are neighbors, making them share sexy information. Why else do you think women call shoe shopping retail therapy -- especially when theyre not getting any at home and feeling bummed out? So socks or stilettos, you choose, as long as theyre keeping her tootsies warm.

6 Female Libido Killers part 4

Sedatives: Medications like Xanex, Diazepam and Valium are known to lower ones sex drive and ability to be aroused. Occasionally, this may result in an inability to reach orgasm, which can be a terrifying and stressful experience. Most sedatives do exactly that -- sedate the body and mind. Having high energy levels and normal brain-body function is impaired significantly, leaving women feeling more like a lobotomized zombie than a sex goddess. It is hard to help things like this when the doctor seems to be in charge, and the reasons for being on sedatives are unique. Keeping the body as toxin-free as possible is always a good idea, so exercise, water and doing fun things will help her regain her health and well-being. Other prescription drugs: Antihistamines can effect lubrication and cause drowsiness; antipsychotic, anti-seizure, anti-cancer, and non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs can all effect libido in a negative way. Recreational drugs Ecstasy: This drug is great for making out, and her sex drive is likely to go through the roof when shes on it since her body is in the best mood ever, and everything feels great. The negative effects of ecstasy use are the after-effects of low serotonin -- depression of normal body functions while the body realigns itself chemically and physically. Ecstasy is an aphrodisiac, but regular use is bad news. Marijuana: Smoking pot has a depressant effect on the body, therefore, this drug is a libido killer. It also dries the vagina (and mouth) up, which is not helpful. If you want to have sex, dont get her stoned. Amphetamines (speed, crystal meth): Amphetamines are known to cause sexual dysfunction in both men and women. While speeding, sex is likely to be far from her (and your) mind, but talking a lot, and really fast, will not be. Opiates (seroin, cocaine): Opiates are linked with the inability to orgasm and low sexual desire. Men may find they cannot get an erection, and women can have problems with moisture. Most people who use heroin say that sex is very low on the list of important things to do. Cocaine can be good for confidence, and sometimes increase sensations, but overall it is a slack aphrodisiac. Illnesses and disorders Thyroid: Problems with the thyroid directly affect hormones, which in turn wreaks chaos with a womans sex drive. It is one of the most undiagnosed problems with low sex drive because it is not really talked about as a symptom. Adrenal glands: The adrenal glands are responsible for producing some of the testosterone in women, so when this gland is not performing to its peak, the amount of testosterone (the sex hormone) is lowered. This means shell experiences less desire to have sex at any time. This gland is what keeps a womans sex drive active after menopause (when the ovaries, which are responsible for the rest of the testosterone, cease to function). Hysterectomy: The removal of the uterus (and sometimes the fallopian tubes and ovaries) effects women differently. In studies, half the women experienced an improvement in their sex lives, with 21% seeing a decrease in desire and enjoyment. This shows that it could go either way. Depending on the circumstances of the hysterectomy, there will be many other factors influencing her sexuality and well-being. Because of the low levels of testosterone, she may end up with other problems, like thyroid deficiency, low energy levels and moodiness. long live the libido Defining the problem is the first step toward discovering why were not getting laid as much as we should be. Whether it's overuse of McDonalds or overuse of ecstasy, everything we put inside us effects our bodies and, therefore, our sex drives. If you can find the real problem, you can fix it. A word of caution: Approach things you think would benefit from a change with tact and sensitivity. You dont want to be booted out onto the sidewalk with teeth marks on your neck.

6 Female Libido Killers part 3

Female Libido Killers Testosterone is responsible for much of a woman's sex drive, so the loss of her already low levels is bad news. This can be a trade off, because we all love raw sex. Going off the pill may not be the best idea, so get her to ask her doctor for an alternative type of birth control. Depo-Provera injection: This injection is a high dose of artificial progesterone. This tricks the body into thinking it is already pregnant, but progesterone inhibits the production of estrogen, which is essential for the health of her reproductive system and, therefore, essential to her sex drive. The lack of estrogen can cause a problem called atrophic vaginitis, which can make sex painful and cause serious and uncomfortable problems with the urinary tract, vagina and vulva. This form of birth control has been linked with mental health issues, weight gain and vaginal problems that hinder sex by making it painful and uncomfortable. Aside from those symptoms, it decreases sex drive considerably in most women, which is obviously not good for you. Implanon implants: Similar to Depo-Provera, this implant is a slow release of progesterone that can last in the body for up to three years. The good news: Her sex drive may hit the roof (or the floor), taking you with it. If it works for her, it is a good (and sex-a-plenty) alternative to the pill. The bad news: This matchstick-size implant can wreak havoc with her body, resulting in a very high sex drive, but almost black-widow-like behavior (she'll hunt you down, screw you, then eat you alive). The side effects -- moodiness, obsessive behavior, acne, and depression -- can be very destructive. It also causes swelling of the brain. Every woman experiences different changes in libido, both positive and negative, while using this form of birth control. Prescription drugs Antidepressants: Some antidepressants can increase libido in women, while others, such as Prozac, reduce it significantly. There are some that have had fewer reported sexual side effects, so if one antidepressant doesn't work well, there are other options. Overall, antidepressants help encourage sex because she will be feeling better about life in general and will have more energy, but orgasm can often be delayed or not happen at all. In this case, good communication is essential because a chemistry problem can turn into a psychological problem very quickly. If you have to kiss and play around while she gets better, then so be it; pressure to have sex is also a libido killer. Blood pressure drugs: Most blood pressure drugs kill a woman's sex drive, so other drugs may be prescribed to counter this. The doctor may try a few different types of blood pressure drugs to find one that won't affect her sex drive. The reason for the high blood pressure needs to be addressed so she can get back to full health, and easy ways to help this are encouraging exercise and good diet, and doing fun, stress-free activities.

6 Female Libido Killers part 2

Better your sex life by ditching the burger and fries and avoiding these female libido killers... It can be an extremely stupid thing to suggest to a woman that she exercise more, so by suggesting physical activities you can do together (like going for jogs or rollerblading), you are improving your own sex life (and overall health and happiness) as well as hers. Poor diet Diet plays a major role in painful periods, and in overall happiness and well-being. Her diet can be stopping her from feeling her best, so taking a good look at what goes in will help to determine what her body dishes out. After all, we are what we eat. Again, suggesting she stop eating crap food is going to land you in the dog house, so make these changes to your own eating habits so she doesnt feel she is being picked on. Let her learn by your example. Swap the chips for a salad, the Coke for water, and both your energy levels will rise as a result. More energy for life means more energy for sex. Toxic overload If we dont help our bodies clear out toxins, they will build up and give us zits, odors and low energy levels. Helping our bodies rid the toxins will make us feel better quite easily and quickly. Smoking, pollution, lack of exercise, bad diet, and being overweight all make us feel less stellar than we should, and these factors also kill our sex drives. The best ways to rid our bodies of toxins are to drink plenty of water and antioxidants like green tea, and get exercise. PMT PMT can affect her in the week or days before her period. All women experience premenstrual changes, but some have what is clearly defined as a serious problem. You probably know of women who suffer from PMT: they are the women you refer to as The Bitch or The Psycho. Their behavior is irrational, illogical, emotional, and fraught with tension and anxiety. One minute they may seem perfectly fine, and the next they are a raging maniac, crying, yelling, and being irritable.This may be a bad time for trying to have sex, and saying something like, Have you got your period? will go over like a lead balloon. In saying this, sometimes increased premenstrual aggression means sex is especially vigorous and primal. Women are extra sensitive during this time because of high estrogen levels. The best way to deal with this is to avoid arguing back, and if you want to help fix the problem, encourage her to do some exercise and other stress-relieving activities (and yes, sex is one of these, but do try others). Birth control Oral contraceptive pill: The OCP is a small pill that controls the bodys hormones artificially to prevent pregnancy. The good news: The freedom gained from the pill is an aphrodisiac; knowing she wont get pregnant is liberating, and definitely encouraging for both of you. The bad news: The pill can be dangerous for a womans libido. Her hormones are leveled completely (and artificially), which rules out the sexual peak at ovulation (most birth control pills force the body to skip ovulation) and just before her period. It effects the body by increasing the levels of something called SHBG (sex hormone-binding globulin), which attaches itself to testosterone in her bloodstream, rendering it useless.

Women's sexual response

Do all women have the same sexual feelings? No they don't. In actual fact, women vary enormously in their sexual drive. Some don't feel very interested in sex at all whereas others are passionate and wild about it. But an extraordinary change has taken place in the last 50 years or so. Back in the mid-20th century, it was generally felt by doctors that most women fell into the 'not very interested' group - and that only a few were enthusiastically sexy. By the 21st century, all that had changed. Today, it is widely assumed by the media - and by many of the public - that most women are easily aroused by sexual stimuli and that only a minority have little interest in sex. In fact, that isn't really true. Our research indicates that although most modern females are much more 'open' about sex, and are keen to enjoy it; it takes them time to learn how to do this. Indeed, a small study which we completed in 2005 indicated that a considerable proportion of young women just starting at university have thus far developed very little interest in sex (or knowledge about it), and have not even learned to reach orgasm yet. However, many of them do become very much more sexually charged as the years progress. Learning how to reach orgasm We have found that younger females frequently have no real knowledge of the process of sexual arousal. In particular, women often need quite a lot of help to learn how to reach orgasm. Unlike males most of whom can 'come' easily from the moment they reach puberty females will often spend a couple of years experimenting with their sexual feelings before they eventually learn how to come regularly and reliably. But once women have learned to cast off their inhibitions and enjoy sex, they tend to respond to sexual stimuli in very much the same way. What are women's sexual reactions? A woman's first response to sexual stimulation is usually a nice, warm feeling all over her body as she begins to let herself go. At the same time her pulse rate starts to go up, and the pupils of her eyes get bigger. Incidentally, this widening of the pupils makes her more attractive sexually. In the olden days, drugs like belladonna ('beautiful woman') were used to produce this effect. What happens to her sex organs as she gets aroused? Laboratory studies carried out in Holland in 2004 show that as s soon as a woman starts thinking with interest about sex, her vagina begins to moisten. (This is the female equivalent of erection in men.) The reason for this moistening is to lubricate her vagina, in preparation for possible sexual activity. At the same time, various other things happen: her clitoris the most erotically sensitive part of her body swells up. her labia (the lips of the opening of her vagina) also swell up. The effect of this is to open up her vaginal opening slightly, in preparation for intercourse. inside her, her vagina opens up making room for the possible entry of a penis. What happens next? As she gets more and more aroused, her breasts will swell a little and her nipples will become more prominent. Her breathing gets faster and she starts to gasp. Her eyes tend to become glazed and she is likely to lick her lips - thus making them even more attractive to her partner. If she is fair-skinned, a faint pink 'rash' will develop at the base of her neck and over her breasts. And finally? And finally, she climaxes. What generally happens here is that she experiences a series of waves of ever-increasing pleasure, till eventually the last one is so mind-blowing that she nearly passes out. At that moment, nearly all women cry out sometimes very loudly! The muscles of their faces and bodies contract violently (but very enjoyably) and then after a while everything relaxes. So that's the end? No, not really. These days, most women can if they want to - go on to have further climaxes. But this will only happen if: they are happy and relaxed they are being skilfully stimulated they have learned how to have multiple orgasms. This is of course, a dramatic difference between the sexual response of females and males. Nearly all men have no chance whatsoever of enjoying multiple climaxes!

Exploring Female Sexual Fantasies

Freud once stated that only unsatisfied people have sexual fantasies. Well, the bearded shrink was wrong; studies of human sexual behavior have proven exactly the opposite. Sexual fantasies have been shown to be associated with high libido as defined by high sex drive and orgasm frequency. This was especially true for women: those who had more sexual fantasies also had higher sexual desire and sexual satisfaction. Pleasure fuels a desire for more pleasure. And while there exists a common false belief that men daydream about sex every seven seconds or so during their waking hours, women also frequently fantasize, especially after they have become aroused. Indeed, women who have sexual fantasies during arousal are much more likely to experience orgasms than women who do not. So don't feel guilty if you find yourself fantasizing about Angelina Jolie while making love to your girlfriend or wife. While you are humping away at your imaginary Angelina, she is probably dreaming about being ravished by Brad Pitt on some deserted island in a modern-day remake of From Here to Eternity. In fact, research has shown that women are just as likely as men to have sexual fantasies during intercourse; and just like men, women often fantasize about having sex with other partners.what does that say about her? Just because she is fantasizing about someone else does not mean she is unhappy with her man. For reasons similar to those that cause men to imagine themselves with other partners, the "spice" of the fantasy simply adds to her arousal and provides that extra "oomph" to bring her over the top. While she might be plenty happy with her man's performance, dreaming that it is Brad Pitt who is giving her that pleasure just enhances its orgasmic potency.what do women fantasize about? One person at a time Nevertheless, female fantasies are different from male ones in several major ways. Men tend to fantasize about a greater number of sexual partners, and many men like to "swap" their imagined partners, while women tend to "stay" with one specific person during their fantasy. Vivid fantasies, free of precise details Men tend to focus on activities and body organs during their fantasies, which led researchers to describe male fantasies as consisting of "sex acts and parts." Even though women's fantasies are just as vivid, they are frequently unable to provide the same descriptive details about the objects of their fantasy. Women's fantasies are also less explicit -- women are far less likely than men to visualize their imagined lover's genitals than men are. Instead, women appear to be more involved with their own emotional responses than with the characteristics of their imaginary partners. Their fantasies frequently include descriptions of their imagined selves, such as: "I look so sexy wearing my favorite blue lingerie that he can't take his eyes off me." Women are also more likely to describe feelings that their fantasies evoke: "I felt happy and free."

Sexual Problems in Men part 3

What Tests Are Used to Evaluate Sexual Problems? Several tests can be used to evaluate the causes and extent of male sexual problems. They include: Blood tests -- These tests are done to evaluate hormone levels. Vascular assessment -- This involves an evaluation of the blood flow to the penis. A blockage in a blood vessel supplying blood to the penis may be contributing to erectile dysfunction. Sensory testing -- Particularly useful in evaluating the effects of diabetic neuropathy (nerve damage), sensory testing measures the strength of nerve impulses in a particular area of the body. Nocturnal penile tumescence and rigidity testing -- This test is used to monitor erections that occur naturally during sleep. This test can help determine if a man's erectile problems are due to physical or psychological causes. How Is Male Sexual Dysfunction Treated? Many cases of male sexual dysfunction can be corrected by treating the underlying physical or psychological problems. Treatment strategies may include the following: Medical treatment -- This involves treatment of any physical problem that may be contributing to a man's sexual dysfunction. Medications -- Medications, such as Cialis, Viagra or Levitra, may help improve sexual function in men by increasing blood flow to the penis. Hormones -- Men with low levels of testosterone may benefit from hormone supplementation (testosterone replacement therapy). Psychological therapy -- Therapy with a trained counselor can help a person address feelings of anxiety, fear, or guilt that may have an impact on sexual function. Mechanical aids -- Aids such as vacuum devices and penile implants may help men with erectile dysfunction. Education and communication -- Education about sex and sexual behaviors and responses may help a man overcome his anxieties about sexual performance. Open dialogue with your partner about your needs and concerns also helps to overcome many barriers to a healthy sex life. Can Sexual Problems Be Cured? The success of treatment for sexual problems depends on the underlying cause. The outlook is good for dysfunction that is related to a treatable or reversible physical condition. Mild dysfunction that is related to stress, fear, or anxiety often can be successfully treated with counseling, education, and improved communication between partners. Can Sexual Problems be Prevented? While sexual problems cannot be prevented, dealing with the underlying causes of the dysfunction can help you better understand and cope with the problem when it occurs. There are some things you can do to help maintain good sexual function: Follow your doctor's treatment plan for any health conditions. Limit your alcohol intake. Quit smoking. Deal with any emotional or psychological issues such as stress, depression, and anxiety. Get treatment as needed. Increase communication with your partner. When Should I Call My Doctor About a Sexual Problem? Many men experience a sexual problem from time to time. However, when the problems are persistent, they can cause distress for the man and his partner, and have a negative impact on their relationship. If you consistently experience sexual function problems, see your doctor for evaluation and treatment.

Sexual Problems in Men part 2

What is Erectile Dysfunction? Also known as impotence or ED, erectile dysfunction is defined as the inability to attain and/or maintain an erection suitable for intercourse. Causes of erectile dysfunction include diseases affecting blood flow, such as atherosclerosis (hardening of the arteries); nerve disorders; psychological factors, such as stress, depression, and performance anxiety (nervousness over his ability to sexually perform); and injury to the penis. Chronic illness, certain medications, and a condition called Peyronie's disease (scar tissue in the penis) can also cause erectile dysfunction. What is Inhibited Sexual Desire? Inhibited desire, or loss of libido, refers to a decrease in desire for, or interest in sexual activity. Reduced libido can result from physical or psychological factors. It has been associated with low levels of the hormone testosterone. It also may be caused by psychological problems, such as anxiety and depression; medical illnesses, such as diabetes and high blood pressure; certain medications, including some antidepressants; and relationship difficulties. How Are Male Sexual Problems Diagnosed? To diagnose a man's sexual problem, the doctor likely will begin with a thorough history of symptoms. He or she may order other tests to rule out any medical problems that may be contributing to the dysfunction. The doctor may refer you to other doctors, including a urologist (a doctor specializing in the urinary tract and male reproductive system), an endocrinologist (a doctor specializing in hormonal issues), a neurologist (a doctor specializing in disorders of the nervous system), sex therapists, and other counselors.

Sexual Problems in Men

Introduction A sexual problem, or sexual dysfunction, refers to a problem during any phase of the sexual response cycle that prevents the individual or couple from experiencing satisfaction from the sexual activity. The sexual response cycle has four phases: excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. While research suggests that sexual dysfunction is common (43% of women and 31% of men report some degree of difficulty), it is a topic that many people are hesitant to discuss. Fortunately, most cases of sexual dysfunction are treatable, so it is important to share your concerns with your partner and doctor. What Causes Sexual Problems? Sexual dysfunction can be a result of a physical or psychological problem. Physical causes: Many physical and/or medical conditions can cause problems with sexual function. These conditions include diabetes, heart and vascular (blood vessel) disease, neurological disorders, hormonal imbalances, chronic diseases such as kidney or liver failure, and alcoholism and drug abuse. In addition, the side effects of certain medications, including some antidepressant drugs, can affect sexual desire and function. Psychological causes: These include work-related stress and anxiety, concern about sexual performance, marital or relationship problems, depression, feelings of guilt, and the effects of a past sexual trauma. Who is Affected by Sexual Problems? Both men and women are affected by sexual problems. They can occur in adults of all ages. Among those commonly affected are seniors, which may be related to a decline in health associated with aging. How do Sexual Problems Affect Men? The most common sexual problems in men are ejaculation disorders, erectile dysfunction, and inhibited sexual desire. What Are Ejaculation Disorders? There are different types of ejaculation disorders, including: Premature ejaculation -- This refers to ejaculation that occurs before or soon after penetration. Inhibited or retarded ejaculation -- This is when ejaculation is slow to occur. Retrograde ejaculation -- This occurs when, at orgasm, the ejaculate is forced back into the bladder rather than through the urethra and out the end of the penis. In some cases, premature and inhibited ejaculation are caused by a lack of attraction for a partner, past traumatic events, and psychological factors, including a strict religious background that causes the person to view sex as sinful. Premature ejaculation, the most common form of sexual dysfunction in men, often is due to nervousness over how well he will perform during sex. Certain drugs, including some antidepressants, may affect ejaculation, as can nerve damage to the spinal cord or back. Retrograde ejaculation is common in males with diabetes who suffer from diabetic neuropathy (nerve damage). This is due to problems with the nerves in the bladder and the bladder neck that allow the ejaculate to flow backward and into the bladder. In other men, retrograde ejaculation occurs after operations on the bladder neck or prostate, or after certain abdominal operations. In addition, certain medications, particularly those used to treat mood disorders, may cause problems with ejaculation. This generally does not require treatment unless it impairs fertility.

Can you have multiple orgasms?

Being Multi-orgasmic, is it a fallacy, here are some of the details. Definition of multiple orgasms: experiencing orgasms within half a minute to a minute apart, which is quite close together. Each orgasm in a multiple session doesn't have to be earth shattering, it can be waves of pleasure, or even tension releases, we all experience orgasms differently and at different intensities, so multiple orgasms also vary with each individual. Women Fact: Women are more multi-orgasmic than men because they don't have to go through as long a refractory period as men. And when they do orgasm they remain on a plateau stage, which means they stay aroused even after an orgasm. Once a woman experiences an orgasm, she is likely to be able to achieve another if she keeps stimulating her genitals after, though your clitoris may be too sensitive, use other indirect stimulation on your vagina, labia, anus or breasts/nipples. During intercourse the best position to use is female dominant as she has full control over how quickly and deeply she is penetrated and how much friction she feels against her clitoris. Most women that experience multiple orgasms are usually in their late 20's and early 30's, usually as they become more aware of what their bodies like but that doesn't mean it can be experienced if you are outside this age range. There are many women in their 40s that achieve multiple orgasms. How to be multi-orgasmic? Masturbation is the absolute best way for anyone, to learn about their bodies and what they like sexually. So, when you masturbate, stimulate yourself to the verge of orgasm, then pause, hold back, wait and continue in a slower more relaxed pace. Repeat the whole process, until you absolutely can't hold off any longer, then allow yourself to orgasm. As you start to calm down then stimulate your vagina, and the area around the clitoris until you feel the waves building up, then move more directly to your clitoris. Use your fingers or a small vibrator such as the "fingertron" for more tips about masturbation and vibrators see the two articles on these subjects. With your partner during intercourse? The most advantageous position for a woman to experience multiple orgasms is the Woman-On-Top position. This allows her to initiate and direct most of the movements as far as how quickly and deeply she's penetrated and she can also control the amount of stimulation to her clitoris. What about Men? Generally, men are not as multi-orgasmic as women because when men ejaculate they go through an unresponsive stage this can last for only minutes but may last for hours, meaning that unlike women, who can continue genital stimulation right after orgasm, men can not. Following ejaculation, men have to start from the beginning, getting aroused to totally erect all over again. The key to men being multi-orgasmic is to learn to hold off on ejaculation. We must explore male orgasm to understand this. Generally, men have an orgasm and ejaculate at the simultaneously, leading themselves to believe that the two go hand in hand, but this is not necessarily so. The act of ejaculating and experiencing and orgasm are two different things for men. Many men have ejaculated without experiencing orgasm and vice versa, climaxing without ejaculating. And that's the key, because by not ejaculating you'll remain in a high stage of excitement. Men need that rest period after ejaculating. Many of the men that experience orgasm without ejaculating experience a very short unresponsive rest period. Can a man learn to be multi-orgasmic? Developing strong PC muscles can help you control when you ejaculate. You can do this by trying to use your internal muscles to move and lift your penis, this will help you control yourself, and it looks rather sexy. Another method you can use is to stimulate yourself to the verge of an orgasm, once you reach that point, use your index finger and thumb to pinch down on your testicles. Take a deep breath and go again, this will teach control. During intercourse Get your partner can stimulate you to the verge of orgasm, or show your lover, and they can pinch your testicles, take a deep breathe and start again, until your ready to orgasm. Either that or when you feel yourself getting close to orgasm, stop all stimulation to yourself and concentrate on your partner, then when you've leveled out, start up again, its all about control. It's a wonderful experience if you can learn to experience multiple orgasms. Although, it should not be the prime goal all of your sexual encounters, remember also that if you can't it's not a problem, because only 60% of women can experience multiple orgasms. The most important thing is that you and your partner enjoy each other while you're together, sharing lots of foreplay before engaging in intercourse. Make that the very last thing you do and even once youve finished, bask in the afterglow with your partner.

Sex On The Beach � Fantasy Fulfilled

The only persistent fantasy Ive ever had, though, the only one thats hung in there with me through the years, is the Sex on the Beach fantasy. It has turned out to be more difficult to bring this one to life than Id expected. As it happens, private beachfront time when the sun is shining and the temperature is just right for some naked sexy time is a hot commodity. Just ask the hordes of vacationers crowding our shores every sunny day between Memorial Day and Labor Day each year, or rather, dont, because they dont want to hear it, which rather highlights the problem. Where theres a will, theres a way, however, and where theres a will and a way and some plane tickets and possibly even a passport or two and a boat and some nautical charts and a cheerful husband, there can be the realization of a happy girls dream. Coleridge wrote how a reader might have to engage in a willing suspension of disbelief in order to appreciate the fantastic worlds that literature could open up. Sex on the beach is sort of like that. Sex is, as Im sure youve noticed by now, and holy hell if not please get in touch because you are doing something wrong wrong wrong, a slippery business. On the beach, the slippery soon becomes the sandy. And sand + friction on certain body parts is just not OK, unless maybe youve got some kind of sandpaper fetish, in which case, who am I to judge. If youre really going at it, and if youve gone so far as to bust out passports and travel by plane and boat to get here, you most certainly are not sort of lethargically and methodically knocking one out for the hell of it, sand is going to make its way up into the unmapped depths of your delicate bits. My advice to you on this matter is to pretend youre re-enacting that scene in From Here to Eternity and roll around in the surf a bit from time to time to rinse the grit away. We tried to avoid the potential sand in the hoo-ha problem by starting out on a towel under a beach umbrella, but that was just plain silly, because the towel was a crumpled up nuisance almost instantly, plus it sort of defeated the whole out there in the open on the beach point of it all. And anyway, the splashing around proved to be more fun and led to the fulfillment of a fantasy my husband didnt even know he had until about thirty seconds before it was fulfilled. On that subject let me just say this: if youre on your knees and there are any hints of waves at all, try to make sure that you are facing away from the incoming tide in order to avoid a mouthful of seawater. Youre welcome. My husband spent a fair amount of time with his back to the noonday sun. For this I am profoundly grateful. For his trouble he was rewarded with not only my gratitude, but also a preposterous sunburn on his previously lily white ass. In my haste to strip him down to nothing as soon as wed hit this private beach, the judicious application of sunscreen fell by the wayside. Damn it, there was beach sex to be had! So, yeah. His ass peeled a few days later. Whatever. I had an insane orgasm in the middle of a Caribbean beach in broad daylight with nobody around but seagulls and maybe a stray hermit crab. Small price to pay. Ultimately, whatever the specifics of what youre into and who does what to whom and where your leg is and where his face is, feeling so free to luxuriate in the sun and on the beach and in the water not only giving and receiving pleasure but doing so knowing that it was something Id thought about for so long was the best part. And now I get to check that one off the list and move on to the next one! Anybody have a helicopter I can borrow for a few days? So tell me, do you have an fantasies that you plan on fulfilling or will you just keep them within the confines of your mind?

make women squirt

Some women don't know how to orgasm, while others need little more than a whisper in order to reach orgasmic heights. And then there are the others -- those women who have the capability to squirt their juices all over the bed, the floor, or even you. Although we'd like to believe that every woman is capable of reaching such heights of sexual ecstasy, unfortunately, there are many women out there who disagree. And if they're not willing to open their minds to the idea of ejaculating, then that's their prerogative. Nevertheless, if you are with a woman who is very sexually in tune with herself, and would be willing to let you manipulate her vagina until she ejaculated all over you, then today's tip on female ejaculation is going to leave you soaking wet. Before you make her ejaculate A woman's ejaculate is expelled from the urethra, the same place where urine comes out from. And although studies have found that the clear liquid is not urine at all (the juice is released from the Skene's glands, or urethral sponge), if your girl doesn't have complete control over her PC (pubococcygeus) muscle, there is a chance that she may actually pee all over you. If this does end up happening, be cool about it. Think about it; it's normal for her to feel as though she's about to urinate when she's about to ejaculate. If she tries to hold it in, she won't ejaculate; she has to let go. If she does end up urinating, and you trip out on her, she'll never try this again. Accept the golden shower, and don't freak out. Let her go with it; eventually she'll learn the difference between the sensations. And although you can manipulate her vagina all you like, if your woman is inhibited, then chances are she won't be able to reach this pinnacle of sexual satisfaction. She may even get annoyed by the feeling, so make sure she wants it. OK, so she wants it. If you're about ready to start seeking the liquids, read on to find out what you have to do. Make her ejaculate with your fingers While there are some women who can ejaculate through clitoral stimulation, or through other sex play (penile penetration or even breast-sucking), the most effective way to achieve this outcome is through G-spot manipulation with your hands.Obviously, we're not implying that you should head directly for the G-spot when you're trying to make her ejaculate. Start out with some foreplay and lick her clitoris first -- get her "pumped," so to speak. Once she begins to get excited, insert two fingers inside her vagina, with your palm facing up. But don't stop licking her clitoris (unless, of course, you can't do two things at a time).About an inch or two inside the vagina, you will likely hit a round ball of skin -- that's the G-spot. Keep stroking the area with pressure; it may start to become more solid; just keep doing what you're doing. Tip: Use your other hand to gently press down on the area between her navel and her mons pubis (her pubic mound) for increased stimulation. If she tells you that she feels like she's about to urinate, assure her that it's near impossible for her to pee and that she should just let go. Although her instincts may be to hold back, reassure her with encouraging words like, "Oh yeah, I can't wait for you to drench my hands." As she begins to reach orgasm and starts to ejaculate, prepare yourself to either be greeted by a light gushing liquid or an actual drenching spray. Both are normal and the amount of liquid can reach anywhere from a teaspoon to a cup. Have some towels handy. After she gushes like crazy, chances are she'll want a break because her vagina might become extremely sensitive (think of the head of your penis after you ejaculate). So, don't go for a second round right away unless you get the distinct impression that she's ready for more.Keep getting the goods Achieving the almighty squirt may not be as simple as described above; it may take some experimentation, persuasion and different positions. As well, you may want to try stimulating other parts of her body while you head inside. For example, have her lie down on the bed, face up, and kneel next to her (your body should be facing her belly button). While your fingers are stimulating her G-spot, use your other hand and your mouth to manipulate her nipples.You could also opt to rotate between penile penetration and finger penetration in the doggy-style position. And, of course, there are women who can ejaculate through sex alone, so place her on a surface where her vagina easily meets your penis and penetrate her, making sure only your penis connects your bodies. And if all else fails, you can always call on a vibrator to help your woman get in touch with her juicier side. keep on simulating Every woman has the ability to reach incredible heights of orgasm. It's up to you to convince her to let go of her inhibitions and make her ejaculate all over you.

Kitchen Play

I stood in the kitchen watching him finish the dishes, as I dried my hands. I decided I wanted to be playful, so I twisted the towel up and snapped his hot, sexy ass. He jumped, and turned and looked at me with a rather awkward smile on his face. So you want to play like that? he said, as he took his hands out of the dish water and flicked water at me. Then he started walking towards me. What ya going to do now missy? he said with a big cheesy grin on his sexy face. Bring it buddy! I said as I started backing up from him. He was looking straight into my soul with those big blue eyes. God they made my heart skip a beat every time he looked at me like that. And he knew it thats why he teased me with them. I could feel myself becoming wet with anticipation. I was hoping that he was in the mood. He leaned into me, kind of testing the waters. But I leaned in towards him too. I placed my arms around his neck as his lips met mine, and we kissed passionately. Our bodies moving closer together as his hands stroked up and down my back. We continued to kiss, than he lightly bit my bottom lip. He moved his hands down to my ass and pulled me tightly into him. He acted like I was going to run from him. But I loved him and wanted to show him that every day. He started to kiss my neck and I quivered in pleasure. Then he stopped and pushed me back. I thought that was it, what had I done wrong? He reached for my hand and led me to the kitchen table. At the side of the table we now stood. Staring into one others eyes, both smiling and wanting what was about to happen. Jared placed his hands around my neck and pulled me into him. We kissed again, very lightly, very passionately. I placed my hands on his sides moving them slowly up his tee shirt until I could feel his shoulder blades, then moving them back down. I loved the feel of his soft flesh underneath my fingertips. He quickly pulled his shirt off then went for mine. We resumed our kissing, and I could tell his excitement was building as I could feel his fully erected cock, trying to make its way out of his jeans. We pulled each other closer so that our flesh met, his hand moved to my back to unclasp my bra. He pulled it off to reveal my small perky breasts. He looked at them for a second, and then moved his head down to lick and kiss my right breast. He circled my nipple with his cold wet tongue and it grew hard. Then he moved slowly to my left breast giving it the same attention. I loved it but couldnt take the pleasure so I pulled his head up and kissed him passionately. We were probing each others mouths with our tongues, and he once again bit my lower lip. I pulled at the front of his jean until I got the button undone. Then I thrust my hand down until I find his balls and squeeze. He gasped as I moved my hand upward and took hold of his dick at the base. I stroked it slowly, as he gasped again in pleasure, but stopped me. He pulled the remainder of his clothing off, and started kissing me as he guided my hand back to his manhood. My breathing was getting heavier as I continued to stroke his long hard cock. How I wanted to feel him thrusting inside of me. I licked my lips as I could almost taste his sweet, salty cum on my tongue. I felt him unbutton my jeans and slip his hand down to my very wet pussy. His finger found its way easily between my lips. The smile on his face showed how excited he was to be playing down there. He moved his finger very lightly up and down my lips from the entrance of my vagina to my clit. Up and down, down and up, with a little rub to my clit, over and over again. He could tell I loved it, and I knew he was too. We were now stroking each other in a rhythm getting a little faster with each stroke. He pulled my hand off his cock and looked at me as he moved my hands to my sides. He lowered himself down, kissing my neck, breast, and tummy and then descended down to my waist line. He tugged at my jeans as he kissed and licked around the top in a teasing motion. He slowly pulled the remainder of my clothing off, than gave me a little push to sit on the table. He continued his kissing and nibbling around the top of my thighs. He laid me back and opened my legs, as he probed and licked gently up and down my wet pussy, with an occasional light flicker to my clit. My breathing got noticeably louder as he moved up and down with his tongue, catching my clit more and more with each stroke. I pulled on his hair as he parted my pussy lips with his finger. He was now toying around the entrance to my vagina with his fingers. He pressed two fingers into my vagina as he sped up the licking to my clit. I could feel my orgasm coming on as I arched my back, and my legs began to tremble. I dug my fingernails into his scalp as I squirted my juices on his tongue. Thank you, that was amazing! I said as I pulled him up and kissed him. I wanted more though, so I pulled his dick towards my very wet pussy. He pushed just the head of his hard cock into me, moving in slowly. Teasing me, then he slammed the rest of his manhood into me. He thrusts a little faster with each stroke. He pushed my legs back towards my head so that my ass was raised slightly off the table. He continued his thrusts faster, harder, and deeper. I felt my vagina tighten around his dick and my juices began to flow. He continued to penetrate me harder and harder. He started to jerk, so I knew he was close too. I pushed him off of me and slammed him into the wall next to us. I dropped to my knees, my tongue finds the bottom of his balls and ever so slowly I lick up his shaft. As I near the top I began to trace the tip of his shaft, around and around my tongue wetting a ring just under the tip. Then in one quick movement I consume Jared's shaft all the way down to the base and ever so slowly release it, all the while letting my tongue flick along the bottom on its way out. He allows me to do that two more times before he begin to face fuck me, thrusting in and out of me. Then all of Jared's muscles in his body seize as his load bursts into my mouth and down my throat as I hungrily lap up the rest. Now that was a great desert. I said as he pulled me up and began to kiss me passionately

Mystical world of sexual fantasy.

Every woman on earth has fantasized about some explicit sexual fantasy that she may or may not have been too ashamed to talk about. Whether it's your girlfriend or your wife, this top ten list is sure to touch on a forbidden fantasy of her own. Although most women prefer to leave their fantasies at that, others have a list that they are slowly but surely accomplishing. So the next time your woman seems to be wandering off in thought, who knows, she may be cruising around in the mystical world of sexual fantasy. So do you think you can guess what some of them are? This list took a lot of time to comprise (and a few bottles of red wine as well), and the women's names have been changed to protect their privacy. So the next time you're engaging in pillow talk with your lady of the night, her fantasy may be more common than you might think. drum roll please.. Keep in mind that fantasies are a normal and healthy part of our sexuality. They are either taken from past experiences or may even be entirely imaginary. Sometimes these fantasies are taboo, or socially unacceptable, therefore they are only available through fantasy. But as you'll figure out today, the modern woman marvels at sex and sexuality. 10. Strangers in the night Many women relish the idea of meeting up with a mystery man and going to some no-name motel with him for a wild night of uninhibited sex. Sometimes women feel like the only people they can truly let loose with are strangers simply because they won't be judged. And who cares anyway? They'll probably never see the beautiful stranger again. Francine divulged her perspective, "The idea of sharing a passionate night with a stranger and behaving like a sexual predator doesn't just sound inviting; it sounds delicious. And leaving after we're done without even knowing each other's names is the best part." 9. The more the merrier Group sex was a popular one among the ladies. "The freedom of being nude in front of a bunch of people who are equally exposed, allowing different men and women to touch and penetrate your body simultaneously is incredibly erotic." Now don't mistakenly assume that all women want to engage in group intercourse, and gather up all your buddies for your next date (unless, of course, she asks you to). 8. Who's your daddy? If there's one thing that women are dying to do, it's dominate a man like never before. The creative ideas that flowed from this topic were quite interesting, to say the least. They included: * spanking him * ordering him to perform certain sexual acts * making him beg for what he wants * having him suck on their stiletto heels or some other phallic object 7. Lay me out on display In today's world of confident women, I was not surprised to learn that many of them fantasize about having an audience whilst engaging in sexual acts with a partner. I guess the idea of knowing that others are getting excited by their "performance" provides them with a feeling of empowerment. "Imagining that people are watching me while I'm taking my partner's manhood into my mouth gives me a feeling of satisfaction because it makes me feel sexier." Perhaps these women feel as though they're participating in an erotic movie... speaking abstractly, of course. 6. Sexually ravaged Although most women agreed that they fantasize about having a master, their role in the scenario differed. Whereas some women said that they would surrender to their master's demands, others opposed the idea and said that they would resist and disobey his commands. Vicky said, "Having him instruct me on how to lick and suck his member or at what pace to ride him will make me orgasm faster than I can say Yes, Master." On the other hand, Denise interrupted saying, "It depends. In some fantasies I obey, yet in others I fight him and refuse to do anything he says until he finally ties me to the bed and calms me with his rhythmic penetration." Whew, is it hot in here, or is it just me???

Bisexual Fantasies

Sometimes when you imagine a threesome with someone of the same sex, its a prelude to fantasizing about a more intimate, same-sex twosome. Or maybe the third opposite sex lover is just there for show, to guide or even force the two same-gender lovers to play with each other. Or maybe your erotic theater of the mind will just combine the male and female into one and imagine sex with a pre-op transsexual or shemale. This doesnt necessarily mean youre truly gay, though it could. It most often means youre truly bisexual, which I believe most of us are, and that your fantasy life is making up for what you repress in your real life. Just because you fantasize about having sex with someone of your gender doesnt mean you ought to do it. Same sex fantasies can signify a lot of different things for people who lead mostly straight real lives--from seeking personal validation to breaking societal taboos. Its funny; it used to be much more taboo for women to admit to any kind of fantasies, except the kind revolving around love and bodice-rippers, a.k.a. romance novels. But now that more women are creating porn and erotica, making it more romantic--that is, story and character-driven--younger women are unabashedly eating it up. Modern ladies also seem to have an easier time accepting their bi-curious fantasies than most men do. There are various sociopolitical, cultural, psychological and physical reasons for this. Women know that most men are turned on by two women together, whereas its still a rare, very open-minded woman who enjoys two men together. Our society is more homophobic than lesbian-phobic. Then there are the real-life, physical risks which tend to be greater between men, since penetration is more often involved, than between women. When fantasizing about sex with another female, most women imagine the other womans whole body: her breasts, buns, hair, lips (both pairs), clitoris, soft skin, seductive eyes, etc. When men fantasize about other men, they tend to focus on one part: the penis. Usually, they envision a big one. So Freud was wrong about penis envy. Women dont have it; men do. At least, a lot of men do. Certainly, Freud himself did. Even, perhaps especially, the outwardly homophobic male has gay fantasies. Why do you think a guy like that is so scared of gays converting straight men? Because in his fantasies, thats exactly what happens: a hugely endowed male dominates him, forcing him to have sexusually giving oral or taking anal--and he likes it, at least in fantasy (again, this doesnt necessarily mean hes truly gay). Masters & Johnson reported that heterosexuals often fantasize about homosexual encounters and vice versa, more often reflecting curiosity and other impulses than the desire to change the gender of one's real-life lovers. Norman Mailer went so far as to say that There is probably no sensitive heterosexual alive who is not preoccupied with his latent homosexuality. I would add at some point in his life, since such desires come and go. Our society tends to make things black or white, good or bad, male or female, heterosexual or homosexual. But the human sexual imagination is most definitely bisexual, even what you might call omnisexual. When Edna St. Vincent Millay went to a doctor for her headaches, he suggested they might stem from an occasional erotic impulse toward a person of [her] own sex. Oh, you mean Im homosexual? Millay responded, Of course, I am, and heterosexual too, but whats that got to do with my headache? Maybe thats what the Pulitzer-prize-winning poet and Vassar girl meant when she wrote my candle burns at both ends. Men are not from Mars, and women are not from Venus. Were all from the same beautiful, wild, sexual planet Earth, and were far more alike than we are different. Dr. Alfred Kinsey was among the first to show that were all on a bisexual continuum with absolute heterosexuals on one end and absolute homosexuals on the other end. Very few of us fall at one extreme or the other. Most of us are bisexual to some degree. That doesnt mean we like both sexes equally at all times. It just means most of us can potentially, under the right circumstances (boarding school, prison, a desert island, etc.), with the right person (the Perfect Lover), be aroused by either gender. Certainly, we can, and often do, enjoy being bi in fantasy.

sexual fantasies

One of the attractions of fantasy lovers -- even when your fantasy lover is actually your current partner, as often happens -- is that they're right beside you, and they know just what to do to make you feel good. Another benefit is that you can enjoy fantasy sex with someone other than your partner without repercussions, because it occurs solely in your mind. Fantasy gives you an outlet for all of the wild, lustful things that you've always wanted to do. You might be really turned on, for example, by the thought of doing it with your spouse in a convertible in the mall parking lot on a sunny Sunday afternoon. Chances are you're not going to try this one out for real, but you can go full speed ahead in your fantasies.

Sexual Problems

The amazing thing about sexual problems is nobody wants to talk about them. So everyone who has one thinks they're the only one. You Are Not Alone Millions of Americans experience common sexual problems, such as erectile dysfunction or dryness of the vagina. Many of these problems, while embarrassing to talk about with your doctor, respond well to certain medications. With the surge in Viagra sales, it is no wonder this is one of the most common difficulties experienced in life. Because it is an embarrassing subject, many people feel alone in their problems, even more alone than people who experience other, similar types of problems. You Are Not to Blame Sexual problems are often the result of simple learned behaviors and associations we make over years of conditioning. Other people's sexual dysfunction is related to a specific, diagnosable medical cause. Whatever the cause, you are not to blame. Sexual dysfunction is usually not caused by parental upbringing or by some conscious desire to have difficulties in the sexual arena. And if it is a problem you've been grappling with for years, it is not likely to just go away or cure itself overnight. What Do I Do Now? This information is here to act as a comprehensive guide to help you better understand sexual problems and find out more information about it on your own. I encourage you to learn more about your sexual dysfunction and some of the treatment options available to you, ranging from medication to behavior-oriented or couples psychotherapy. Criteria below is summarized from: American Psychiatric Association. (1994). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders, fourth edition. Washington, DC: American Psychiatric Association. * Exhibitionism * Female and Male Orgasmic Disorders * Female Sexual Arousal Disorder * Fetishism * Frotteurism * Gender Identity Disorder * Sexual Masochism and Sadism * Male Erectile Disorder * Premature Ejaculation * Dyspareunia * Transvestic Fetishism * Vaginismus * Voyeurism Female Orgasmic Disorder: Persistent or recurrent delay in, or absence of orgasm following a normal sexual excitement phase. Women exhibit wide variability in the type or intensity of stimulation that triggers orgasm. The diagnosis of Female Orgasmic Disorder should be based on the clinician's judgment that the woman's orgasmic capacity is less than would be reasonable for her age, sexual experience, and the adequacy of sexual stimulation she receives. The disturbance causes marked distress or interpersonal difficulty. The orgasmic dysfunction is not better accounted for by another mental disorder (except another sexual dysfunction) and is not due exclusively to the direct physiological effects of a substance (e.g., a drug of abuse, a medication) or a general medical condition. Male Orgasmic Disorder: Persistent or recurrent delay in, or absence of, orgasm following a normal sexual excitement phase during sexual activity that the clinician, taking into account the person's age, judges to be adequate in focus, intensity, and duration. The disturbance causes marked distress or interpersonal difficulty. The orgasmic dysfunction is not better accounted for by another mental disorder (except another sexual dysfunction) and is not due exclusively to the direct physiological effects of a substance (e.g., a drug of abuse, a medication) or a general medical condition. Fetishism: In psychology, the term applies to sexual urges and fantasies that persistently involve the use of nonliving objects by themselves or, at times, the use of such objects with a sexual partner. Common fetishes include feet, shoes, and articles of intimate female apparel. Symptoms: Over a period of at least 6 months, recurrent, intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors involving the use of nonliving objects (e.g., female undergarments). The fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning. The fetish objects are not limited to articles of female clothing used in cross-dressing (as in Transvestic Fetishism) or devices designed for the purpose of tactile genital stimulation (e.g., a vibrator).

All This Sex Talk - You Must Want It, Right?

Do you like sex? I certainly do. I love how close sex can bring me to someone I care about, and I love how it can deepen my understanding and appreciation of that person. I love how much healthy pleasure it brings into my life. I love how sex can bring me to delightful altered states of consciousness, and I love the feelings of acceptance and contentment and trust it can create in me and my partner. In fact, I love sex so much I've made a hobby of learning more about it. My site is going to share some of the insights I've gained as I've grown in my understanding of this fascinating and wonderful aspect of human experience. I know there is a lot of miscommunication and misunderstanding about sex. I'm 35 and I've been there. I remember my first sexual experience and how frightening that was. The boy I was in love with ripped off his pants in the front seat of his car and jumped me. Before both of us knew it, it was over. I'm talking less than one minute. Then I went through a one-woman sexual revolution (age 22-26) of my own. It wasn't until I went through therapy as an adult, recovered my self-esteem and read some books on sex and intimacy, that I discovered what meaningful sex was all about. And yes, it does help to have a knowledgeable and talented lover... ... but there's more. Don't you find it wonderful when a lover is really into what you two are doing together, and he or she seems actively, passionately, and completely absorbed in the pleasure you two are creating? Isn't it great when he or she is experiencing deep, overwhelming delight and directing that energy and appreciation back at you? It's a profound irony that one of the most effective things you can do to become a better lover is to learn to appreciate pleasure even more, but in my experience it's true. In my opinion, the three most important elements to becoming a better lover are learning to feel, choosing what pleases you, and empathy.

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