Bad Sex

Not tonight, love.nnWhen you first hooked up, one look from the missus was all it took for your engine to rev up quicker than a pimped-out ride from The Fast and the Furious. You were, to put it bluntly, like a dog in heat, but those first throes of passion are long gone, and your girlfriend has since lost her almost God-given power to make you happy between the sheets.nnShe may have seduced you with her looks and charm, but if you're dealing with bad sex months after that first night of intimacy, then she might as well look like Whoopi Goldberg. Not that you would tell her that. Unless you possess a heart of stone like Simon Cowell, you'd feel pretty bad watching your girlfriend suffer a Bridget Jones-style breakdown after telling her she's failing miserably in the bedroom.nnBut make enough excuses to avoid a close encounter or drop enough hints about what she should be doing, and your girlfriend will eventually catch on. Here's what to do to if bad sex is ruining your relationship.nRule No. 1: Fake an illnessnSince the dawn of time, women have used phony ailments such as headaches and upset stomachs to get out of having sex. But two can play at that game. If the stars have aligned and the moon is in the right place, she might be feeling amorous and up for a night of passion. You, alternatively, would rather sleep, watch sports or do almost anything instead of enduring another night of passionless sex. It's not you; it's her.nnYawning at least once every few minutes should do the trick. If that isn't enough to ward off her advances, then make regular trips to the toilet and proceed to groan loudly enough for your girlfriend to hear. She'll soon be colder than a streaker in the midst of a Canadian winter.nRule No. 2: Be cunningnWe've already established that you can't just tell the missus how bad she is in the sack. But a little scheming can go a long way. Ask her if there's anything in particular she'd like you to do when getting intimate. Not only does it make your girlfriend feel special, but it also gives you an excuse to tell her exactly what you want. Women love to talk, so use this to your advantage.

Breakup Rules

Everyone has been dumped or dumped someone, but there is a formula for success in this game to make sure both parties survive the ego bruise.nnWhere was I when I discovered the trick to kicking the craziness that comes from getting dumped? I'm glad you asked. I was at the supermarket checkout, waiting beside the magazines. I seriously saw God in an issue of US Weekly. OK, it wasn't actually God in the US Weekly; it was a tiny, pocket-sized book about dealing with breakups. I don't know how it got there (my guess is it fell out of an issue of Cosmo), but I was convinced that this travel-sized self-help book was specifically there for me.nnI burned through it before it was even my turn to pay for my discounted tortilla chips. I don't remember much of what the book said, but what I do remember is that it used the word rejection about eight million times. A guy who I was working with had just dumped me. I knew the breakup was coming. In fact, after two years we had started trying an open thing, which basically just allowed us to start new relationships before we had officially ended this one. When we officially broke up I wasn't surprised, but it hit me hard later. I wanted this too, but he made the call. I was rejected first. Seeing him every Monday night was torture. During the week, I felt focused and free. I rarely thought of him, but come shift time on Mondays, I found myself dressing up for him as though that would change things. Rejection. Screw it. It was then that I realized how much of getting dumped is just an ego bruise.nThere Is No Good Time To Break Up With Someone, EvernHow many times have you heard someone who was just dumped say, "And on New Year's, so brutal" or "How could he/she do this so close to my dog's birthday?" Get real.nnDumpers: There is never a good time to break up with someone, ever, so when you know you want out, you should just buck up and do it. It's far crueler to stay with someone out of pity, fear, cowardliness or laziness. While we're on the subject of ripping the Band-Aid off, if you have been hanging out with someone long enough to need to actually break it off to get out of seeing him or her, then a text is not an acceptable method of communication.nnDumpees: Life sucks. Toughen up. You are not alone.nTake A BreaknI once had a two-year relationship with this guy we'll call Dale. Dale was an incredible boyfriend. He had manners, he was hot, he was driven, witty and he was a slayer in bed. It was only when Dale and I broke up that I realized the magic of not speaking and how it can save your life after breaking up.nnDumpers: Do not text, phone, email, Facebook, Instagram, tweet or communicate with the person you broke up with for at least half the amount of time you were together, or until the person you dumped says it is OK. And even then, proceed with caution.nnDumpees: You know what rules about Facebook? You can hide people from your feed without deleting them. This is what you need to do when you have been dumped. (While we're on the subject on Facebook, never put your relationship status on there, seriously. It sucks when you break up.) You also need to email the dumper and say you cannot speak until you feel OK. The person will get it. Plus, he or she probably doesn't want to talk to you for a while either. Ban yourself from communication and if you run into each other in public, say hello politely and move along. Restraint is what it's all about here.nDon't Ask Questions When You Don't Want To Know The AnswersnJust don't. Don't ask about who your ex is sleeping with or what she was doing with that guy at that bar. Ignorance is bliss.nSlip up, Sleep Together And You Are DoomednDumpers: If you dump someone and then sleep with the dumpee, it's not going to end well. Exes always want more than just sex. They probably want to win you back because even if they know you shouldn't be together, this whole game is about power. Don't do it. You'll be in a world of drama when it's over.nnDumpees: As much as you want to sleep with your ex for whatever reason, it's always a losing game. Again, restraint.nFocus on YourselfnDumpers: You are now single. It's time to focus on yourself and what you want. This is a liberating time. Never forget that. Breaking up is not the end of the world. There will be another relationship, another great love and another bad ending. It's just life. We all do it and we're all still here, aren't we?

Multiple Methods For Multiple Orgasms

Most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than they do about what's under the hood of a clitoris. We're woefully "ill-cliterate," which is a shame when you consider that the clitoris -- with more than 18 parts, twice as many nerve endings as the penis, and the enviable ability to produce multiple orgasms -- is the indisputable powerhouse of the female orgasm.Fortunately, when pleasuring a woman, there are multiple methods for multiple orgasms, so in the spirit of resourcefulness, here are some sexual survival tips for making it happen.Avoid FreudForget everything you learned in Psychology 101. Sigmund Freud made a name for himself demonizing the clitoris and formulating a truly kooky view of women's sexuality. Freud got the idea into his head that the clitoris was an immature source of sexual pleasure, a mere launching pad for the more mature vaginal orgasm, which, of course, could only be produced via genital intercourse. At the end of his life, Freud acknowledged his incomplete understanding of female sexuality and said, "If you want to know more about femininity, you must interrogate your own experience, or turn to the poets, or else wait until science can give you more profound and more coherent information." Or, for today's modern guy, just turn to the woman in bed next to you and deploy some basic cliteracy.Ladies firstWhen it comes to satisfying a woman, a little old-fashioned chivalry goes a long way. Lest you think the importance of such courtesy is over-exaggerated, direct your attention to Lorena Bobbitt who, when questioned by police as to why she cut off her husband's penis, responded, "He always has an orgasm and doesn't wait for me. It's unfair." Need one say more?The simple fact is that the male orgasm typically comes easy. Masters and Johnson dubbed it "ejaculatory inevitability" and the late Dr. Alfred C. Kinsey declared that 75% of men ejaculate within two minutes.Is it any surprise, then, that researchers from the University of Chicago declared in the 1994 Sex in America Survey that men reach orgasm during intercourse far more consistently than women do, and that three-quarters of men, but less than a third of women, always have orgasms? This means that more than two out of three women on average are consistently denied their climax -- good reason to start hiding the cutlery.Studies such as those by Kinsey and Masters & Johnson have concluded that, among women whose partners spent 21 minutes or longer on foreplay, only 7.7% failed to reach orgasm consistently. That's a shift of tectonic proportions, from two out of three women not being able to reach climax to 9 out of 10 achieving satisfaction, all due to a matter of minutes.So take the path of the true gentleman: Postpone your pleasure. As Sir Thomas Wyatt wrote, "Patience shall be my song."Think outside the boxRare is the man who boasts in the locker room, "I made love to her as subtly and lightly as a feather" or, "I grazed her vulva as with the delicate wings of a butterfly." Yet such language would be appropriate, since the inner two-thirds of the vagina are substantially less sensitive than the outer third. So think outside the box (pun definitely intended), but know that the clitoris is extremely sensitive to physical sensation and needs to be properly prepped for serious stimulation. Avoid her genitals and go easy on the breasts for a good 10 to 15 minutes.

Be Prepared For A One-Night Stand

The one-night stand is the silent engine behind many a night out. The eternal possibility that your night might with you playing the giddy tour guide of your apartment to a sexy new companion is enough to keep you hitting the clubs weekend after weekend.All the anticipation is part of the fun, but what about the moment of truth -- the moment you let a woman into your place for the first time, a woman you've never met before and you may never meet again?Because this woman probably didn't know you before tonight, she doesn't have much to go on. She assumes you're a cool guy -- she's in your house, after all -- but, as the saying goes, anything you say or do can be used against you. And that goes for the state of your bathroom, as well. What you don't want is a night's worth of seduction to evaporate before your very eyes when she sees your dingy sheets and decides that actually, she'd better get home because she has early plans with her sister tomorrow.Before you head out for the night, make sure you have the following taken care of. Trust us, this stuff matters.Keep it cleanFirst and foremost, we recommend that before you go out, you take a very deep cleansing shower and scrub everywhere . Get into all those little nooks and crannies, especially if you want your sidekick to enjoy giving you a tongue-lashing experience. Oh yeah, and try not to sweat up a storm at the club either.Taking her homeLet's get one thing out of the way: If you live with roommates (or your parents -- let's be honest, it's a tough economy), think twice about heading back to your place. She might be just as happy to go to her's. The whole point of a one-night stand is to ensure a wild evening of passion, rather than having to shush one another the entire way through.As mentioned with personal hygiene earlier, make sure your place is clean and tidy before you leave the house. There's nothing that can ruin the moment like your lady watching you shove half of your wardrobe off the bed and into a pile on the floor. Conversely, women love fresh clean sheets that smell faintly of "guy." We heard this from a reliable lady source, so you're going to have to trust us.Make sure you have some alcohol on hand in case you both need a nightcap to loosen up after the sudden change of venue from club to bedroom -- and we're not talking about beer. Sure, she might gladly drink a beer, but have something else on hand too, like red wine or a little vodka and tonic.If you started getting busy on the way homeIf you guys already began your sexual adventure in the car on the way to your place, then forget the music and once you open the door to your house, put her up against the wall and kiss her as though she's water and you've been stuck on a desert for four years. Women love spontaneity, but don't begin ravishing her right away.Foreplay is important even if it may be the last time you ever see her (depending on how good it is, of course). Even if all you want to do is get busy, remember that this is your chance to be creative and take your time. Otherwise, how else is she going to describe you to her girlfriends tomorrow?

Things That Freak Her Out In Bed

Sex is what our bodies were built to do, but at times it can feel so foreign. (Is that just a girl thing? Yeah? Well, take our word for it, OK?) Maybe this explains why alcohol always accompanies first dates? Sex is amazing once you've gotten into a good groove with someone, but sometimes it's awkward, disconnected, and weird. When you go to bed with an new and unfamiliar woman, there are a few big "hell no-nos" you should keep in mind so things don't get off to a confusing start.We don't necessarily want to think of you as our "daddy."Women who are into the whole "daddy" thing are bizarrely over-represented on film. Pro tip: Most of us aren't feelin' it. I was had to deal with an episode of "daddy talk" during one particularly romantic evening. After a night of partying, a gentleman and I humped (oh, excuse me, "made love") on his disgusting bathroom floor. After 30 seconds of half-baked sex he decided this was the moment to bust out some full-on Freudian language. If I had a penis, my boner would have shriveled up inside of me like a grape in the sunshine. Never, ever, ever, do I want to think of the man who gave me half of my DNA while I'm having sex. I know a lot of women -- a lot of freaky women -- who are into everything Dr. Laura would frown upon, but none of them are down with the daddy talk.Remember that sexy time you fell asleep right after finishing? Every once and a while some "scientific study" comes out explaining to women why we are bound to be the weaker sex forever. We love studies like these, they're awesome. Just kidding!In the Journal of Social, Evolutionary and Cultural Psychology one "study" found that men may fall asleep first to avoid commitment conversations out of the fear of a woman's superior verbal abilities. "If men actively avoid commitment promises in post-coital conversation, this could increase the likelihood of women ending the relationship... Hastening sleep onset may evade this adverse effect," wrote the researchers. I'd slap you, "science," but you may mistake this for a high-five. Look, whether you are gay, straight, male, female, or Jamie Lee Curtis, passing out after your orgasm without tending to your partner is selfish and undignified. She may act like she's OK with it, but chances are she is definitely not. Sex is give and take, back and forth. You should enjoy giving pleasure as much as you enjoy receiving and if you don't, then you need to evaluate how much you really even really like the person you're getting naked next to.If it wasn't a sexy dream starring us, we don't want to hear about it.Nobody wants to hear about your dreams. Multiply this concept of "nobody" by a million when it comes to someone you have just started dating. Nobody cares that you had a nightmare where your fifth grade teacher and a pack of headless geese were chasing you through an airport. Nobody cares that you dreamed that you were Beyonce's toilet. Unless you have some psychic dream that dictates the exact winning numbers for the lottery, or had a dream where we an all-powerful sex goddess, please keep it to yourself.We may be into toys, but not with a guy we hardly know.Like most moves in the sack, it's best to test the water before diving in head first. Introducing a sex toy to the mix should be done with careful, unhurried communication, which simply means that you should feel out the situation first. Sex is all about your intuition. Pay attention to her body and don't be afraid to ask for what you want. Depending on the nature of your relationship, your ability to communicate will differ. Trust is the name of the game when it comes to sex. Unfortunately, a lot of people (especially those who are not quite at their peak of sexual confidence) don't offer their desires straight up, so be wise and read between the lines when you need to.

5 Ways To Satisfy Her After You've Peaked

You've already had your orgasm and you're perfectly relaxed, but don't fall asleep just yet -- there's still work to be done. She's still waiting on you to return the favor. So as good as you may feel and as much as you may want to, now's not the time to be selfish.So how can you please her without spending a dog's age doing it? It's simple; follow the tips below for 5 ways to satisfy her after you've peaked.1- Perform cunnilingus & use your fingersWhen you lick her vagina and use your fingers to penetrate her, you're stimulating her clitoris and G-spot simultaneously -- a very smart move. It's a great way to satisfy her after you've peaked. If you can get the right rhythm down, it shouldn't be long before she screams out in delight. She should already be somewhat close to orgasm if you're at all competent at intercourse. Give it about three to five minutes.If you were using a condom during sex, you may be a little apprehensive about putting your mouth down there and tasting latex. What you can do instead is use a polyurethane condom like Durex Avanti, which has no "after" taste.If you're feeling too lazy or uncoordinated for oral sex, another way to achieve the same effect is to simply use your fingers alone. Curl up behind her so you are spooning, then reach around and massage her clitoris. Keep your face close to hers so you maintain a connection even though you're not facing one another.2- Use sex toysYou can also break out a dildo or vibrator to satisfy her after you've peaked. If you're in a steady relationship, it's always a good idea to keep a vibrator under the bed or in a bedside drawer, so you can whip it out within a couple of seconds. Use the vibe in a circular motion on her clitoris and, when you start hearing some pleasant sounds emanating from her lips, repeat that motion.Another sex toy you can use for this purpose is the penis ring. This device will keep your waning penis awake long enough to continue intercourse for a bit. You might not feel anything, but hey, this is about her.3 more ways to satisfy her after you've peaked...

Sex On A First Date

It's a question on many men's minds as they sit in a candlelit restaurant on a first date: Will I get laid tonight? Or will she make me wait?Of course, plenty of men are thinking about more important issues, like whether their date might be good wife material, but suffice it to say, men like sex, so wondering about the probability of a post-dessert romp is natural.Well, the news is good and bad. Mark Regnerus, associate professor of sociology at the University of Texas at Austin and author of Premarital Sex in America: How Young Americans Meet, Mate, and Think about Marrying (Oxford, 2011), knows firsthand. His research project, which includes a wealth of survey data on sexuality, found that a whopping 20% of young American men have sex on a first date. Yup, that's one in five.But before you give a bunch of high fives to your brothers with "A" games or mourn over your inferior track record, here's the other news. According to Regnerus, "Statistically, the 20% are less well-educated, consider themselves a bit more attractive and are slightly more depressed than the average 18-23-year-old in the study."Translated, that means that less intelligent, slightly arrogant and mentally stressed young men tend to go for a short-term fix rather than a longer-term reward. And for those hoping that sex on date No. 1 could be a stepping stone to a girlfriend, there's more bad news. Renowned evolutionary psychology professor David Buss at the University of Texas at Austin and Martie G. Haselton at the University of California, Los Angeles, found that the more sexual partners a man has had, the more likely he is to quickly perceive diminished attractiveness in a woman after the first time he's had intercourse with her. Diminished attractiveness, as in, "I thought she was hot, but now not so much." Clearly, fast sex for these guys doesn't lead to a girlfriend. If the guy is a player, it more often leads to disappointment.Then there's the other bad news. Men who obtain quick sex from more than one partner are setting themselves up to become future cheaters."Many will say, 'when I get ready to settle down I'm going to take things more slowly,'" says Dean Busby, Ph.D., whose work studying thousands of singles and couples has produced relevant and timely data. "Unfortunately, some of our more recent research seems to suggest that the patterns that develop in young adulthood, and their relational consequences, can't just be turned off or avoided once a person decides it is time to marry. Every relationship we have, however brief and insignificant, influences every other relationship we have, and the patterns that we repeat across relationships become very difficult to change."But still, the myth persists that men must audition a woman to ensure sexual chemistry before deciding if she is commitment material. If this myth were true, it would stand to reason that couples who do not test out sexual chemistry before commitment should have shorter, more unhappy relationships. But Dr. Busby and his colleagues at Brigham Young University were unable to make this connection in a study of more than 2,000 couples. People with good sexual chemistry early on did not stay together longer. He explained his results to me this way: "The mechanics of good sex are not particularly difficult or beyond the reach of most couples, but the emotions, the vulnerability, the meaning of sex and whether it brings couples closer together are much more complicated to figure out."

Finding Casual Sex Partners

No-strings sex with a stranger can sometimes be hard to find, despite the large number of horny singles sitting at home on a street near you right at this very moment. Fortunately, the internet provides each and every one of us -- no matter what our looks or charm -- with the opportunity to "sell" ourselves online to a suitable (or completely unsuitable, as the case may be) woman, man or "other." Finding casual sex partners is now far easier than ever before, but don't get complacent; you have some hard virtual yards to cross first.nnHere are some tips on finding casual sex partners online.nstep 1nGet an identitynTo help you out, women want to find someone attractive, funny, intelligent, interesting, and fun to be around. First impressions last the longest; your profile is your sole 30 seconds at most, and the image is the first 20. When it comes to finding casual sex partners online, you won't get any second chances, so make it good. nGet onlinenThere are various dating websites where people all over the globe offer themselves up for all sorts of things, like finding a casual sex partner. Start off by signing yourself up on the various websites. You will need to fill out your profile and some questionnaires and/or quizzes to help women identify if you are interesting to them or not. nstep 3nGet chattingnEssentially, the "if you knock on 10 doors, one will (theoretically) open" protocol works here. So, get knockin'. This means e-mailing or messaging women, expressing your interest in getting to know them better. Don't expect to be welcomed with open legs by every woman you talk to, and make sure you put your best foot forward, and not in your mouth. Be charming, funny and keep some mystery about you -- finding a casual sex partner is not about getting to know each other's favorite food, color and pets' names. nstep 4nGo "dating"nWhen you feel the time is right, ask a woman you have built up a rapport and mutual interest with on a date in a public place. These dates will be when you eventually get laid.nFinding casual sex partners has never been so easy...

Arranging Casual Encounters Online part 2

Have an opt-out agreementBefore arranging casual encounters online, you should makes an agreement that, upon meeting, either person has the right to opt out of the encounter immediately without having to state a reason. This avoids hurting anyone's feelings and having to go through with a tryst you aren't really into. You may hit it off great online, but when you meet face-to-face, sometimes the chemistry just isn't there. Having a pre-arranged "get out of jail free" card can come in handy in these situations.Meet in publicPick a safe, public place for your first meeting with your prospective tryst. You may be tempted to jump right into it and meet in a hotel room or at one of your homes, but it is probably a good idea when arranging casual encounters online to introduce yourselves on more neutral ground first. Don't forget that you may want to use your opt-out, and that will be a lot more awkward if the room is already paid for. You can always head straight to the hotel if she turns out to be exactly what you expected.be safeIt should go without saying that, when arranging casual encounters online, safety comes first, especially when it comes to being with a virtual stranger. There is no way you can know for sure what their STI status is, so always show up with the proper protection. With the right precautions, your online hookup can have a hot and happy ending.

Arranging Casual Encounters Online

The internet has made many aspects of our lives more convenient. From doing research to shopping, we depend on the net for many of our daily activities. You may not have considered going online in search of random hookups, but the miracle of the internet, when properly used, can even improve your sex life (and not just by providing an endless stream of porn).Arranging casual encounters online has become fairly commonplace, and the internet makes finding a potential mate incredibly convenient, especially for people who are very busy or who are not into the bar scene. If what you're looking for is purely physical, however, the internet can be a godsend. Approaching a girl in a bar with the intention of a one-night stand is almost always a losing prospect, so you have to pull out all the stops to seduce her and then deal with the consequences of your one-night-only attitude when she expects a relationship the next morning. All this trouble can be avoided by arranging casual encounters online, where both your intentions and theirs are crystal clear from the beginning. No, it isn't just middle-aged swingers that use the internet for hooking up. There are young, attractive people online who want to keep things simple and have some fun.Check out past AM articles finding casual sex partners and top 10 hookup websites for the information you need on where to find the right person for your sexual rendezvous.Be up frontThe best part of arranging casual encounters online is that you can come right out and say that you're looking for sex and nothing but sex. You don't have to play games and pretend that you're looking for something that you're really not interested in. You can get specific here too. Want to explore a certain fetish or fantasy? Make this clear in your profile or when you start talking to a potential sex partner. In other circumstances you'd have to work up to sharing your deepest, darkest fantasies, but online you can be totally up front about them.Show each other photosMany people who are looking for casual sex want to keep things as discreet as possible. They don't want their family members, friends or work associates to find out what they're into. As a result, they may be hesitant to share photos of themselves online, but in this context, it is pretty much essential to get an idea of whether or not the person you're talking to is attractive to you. You'll waste a lot of time if you wait until the first meeting to see what they look like. You don't have to put photos up on your public profile if it really makes you uncomfortable, but you should at least have them available to send to people you're interested in. Make sure they are real and recent, and insist upon getting the same from anyone you contact.More info on arranging casual encounters online...

Why Women Don't Like Shaving part 2

It's time-consumingNo matter which hair removal option a woman chooses, the process is annoyingly time-consuming. All three options have to be done incredibly carefully to avoid painful consequences. Even if she goes to a professional for a wax, she still has to set time aside to attend the appointment.It's expensiveA bikini wax can cost anywhere from $25 to over $100, depending on where it's done and how much is taken off. Shaving creams, razors and other hair removal products aren't cheap either and women already use them often for underarm and leg hair removal. All of these costs add up over time, making shaving her private area just one more expense to add to the list.It's weirdHaving no hair down there makes a woman feel like a little girl and, quite frankly, the fact that it turns you on may make her feel icky. Grown women have hair and to expect her to be constantly hairless is unreasonable. It may be a fun change every once in a while, but unless your girl stars in adult movies for a living, don't expect it all the time.a happy mediumIf you find that you and your girlfriend are on opposite sides of the fence when it comes to her genital grooming practices, try to come to a reasonable compromise between completely hairless and '70s-hairy. It should be easy enough to agree upon a neat, trimmed genital region that is neither uncomfortably short nor appallingly long. If she's still not convinced, try mentioning that it's much easier to perform oral sex without all that hair in the way.

Why Women Don't Like Shaving

Anyone who has watched '70s porn knows that the standards of genital grooming have changed drastically over the years. Back in the day, a thick bush of hair between a woman's legs was not off-putting and may have, in fact, been desirable to many. These days, in the world of pornography, shaved is the name of the game and women with natural pubic hair are generally featured in fetish movies only.Of course, the porn world is not a direct reflection of the practices of the average person, but there are certainly more men who prefer no hair than men who like their women bushy. Unfortunately, the number of women who enjoy being clean-shaven doesn't quite match up to the amount of men who prefer that they be that way. Just like when we explained Why Your Girlfriend Doesn't Watch Porn, AM continues in our ongoing effort to help you understand the ways of women by aiming to explain why your girlfriend won't shave. So before you insist that your girlfriend go hairless, consider the following reasons why she may be hesitant to do so.It's painful to removeA woman seeking to achieve a hairless look has a few options: She can shave, wax or use chemical depilatories. Shaving is a fairly straightforward process, but there are some drawbacks -- perhaps the most significant of which is the chance of cutting herself in a very sensitive area. You know how annoying a nick on the face or neck can be, so you can just imagine how bad it would be to cut yourself in a much more delicate and nerve-packed region. The pain potential of waxing the genital area should not even have to be explained. In theory, chemical depilatories are a great idea: applying a substance that dissolves hair and easily washes away. Trouble is, these products can be brutal on sensitive skin and the smell can be outrageously bad.It's painful to grow backA freshly shaven genital area can feel great, but unfortunately the fabulous feeling doesn't last long. As soon as the hair starts growing back, a woman is faced with two options: either continue to shave it nearly every day to maintain the smoothness (which can result in ingrown hairs, razor burn and other unpleasant conditions), or let it grow in and suffer through the uncomfortable stubble phase.Read on for more reasons why women don't like shaving...

Male Pleasure Positions part 2

Full mastYou'll need a relatively limber woman for this male pleasure position. While she's lying on her back, raise her legs until they're positioned at a 90-degree angle in relation to her body. Kneel in front of her and place her legs against your chest while keeping them firmly held together. Not only will this position provide yet another means of deep thrusting, but the action is also likely going to be far tighter than usual, thanks to her thighs being drawn together.Tip: Occasionally, when the thrusting really starts to get good, men have a tendency to raise a woman's back further away from the mattress than comfort permits. Forceful thrusting can exert a significant amount of pressure, so make sure her back is getting enough support as you drive her to ecstasy.The lotusAs with the cowgirl position, this male pleasure position requires her to do most, if not all, of the work. You'll need to sit cross-legged on the bed (or floor, though that won't be very comfortable after a few minutes, trust us) and pull her onto your lap. The idea is to have her straddle you via wrapping her legs around your waist, and then raise herself up and down until you've both collapsed in a heap of spent pleasure. If she's having trouble moving up and down, rocking back and forth is just as mind-blowing and less stressful on the lower back.Tip: Lean against a wall or headboard during this one. Not only will it support your back, but it will also give her something to hold onto, which will make it far easier for her to ride you.Doggy styleDoggy style -- the staple of the porn industry. Perhaps one of the most animalistic scenarios when it comes to sex, this male pleasure position is all about getting one's rocks off. A relatively easy position to deliver the goods from, doggy style gives you deep penetration at the pace of raw lust. Not only is this position straight to the point, but it's also straight to orgasm with the least possible effort.Tip: Many women complain about the lack of intimacy when it comes to doggy style. This is because men often go through the motions without any other type of contact. To make her feel more connected, try a bit of dirty talk, gentle hair tugging or even mild spanking.male pleasure mattersEven though we've approached these positions from the angle of male satisfaction, most of you will still do your best to please your woman first, regardless. This is exactly why we've selected these male pleasure positions for you -- they're guaranteed to blow your mind even if you're concentrated on pleasing your woman first. Add these male pleasure positions to your sexual repertoire, and don't be afraid to be a little selfish every once in a while; your woman knows you've earned it.

Male Pleasure Positions

As always, we'd like thank our readers for their relentless pursuit of perfection in the bedroom. If not for your tireless efforts, many women would never have known how incredible an orgasm can be. Therefore, in appreciation of your never-ending attempts to satisfy the fairer sex, we're taking a moment to encourage a bit of well-earned selfishness in the boudoir with a few male pleasure positions. While the following male pleasure sex positions can certainly drive a woman wild, their primary function is to provide maximal sexual pleasure for you.Read on as we tell you how to get the most out of the best male pleasure positions for vaginal and anal sex.CowgirlIt's no surprise that this classic male pleasure position has stood the test of time; maximum penetration for both partners allows for some of the best sex imaginable. It makes our list for one simple reason: She does all the work. You're certainly welcome to help her along, but most of the physical work is carried out by her. This means you can lie back and enjoy the view as she bobs and jiggles her way (and yours) to orgasm. The cowgirl also provides maximum penetration, which equals maximum stimulation for you.Tip: If she's especially self-conscious about her body, try suggesting the reverse cowgirl instead: It's the same idea, but facing the opposite direction. This position will feel just as good while alleviating any concerns she might have about feeling overexposed.Around the bendDeep thrusting is a primal sexual urge experienced by most men. Unfortunately, many traditional positions prevent thrusting to the hilt, which can leave a little something to be desired when it comes to sex. This male pleasure position, however, in which you bend her over the nearest piece of furniture, will satisfy that urge from the moment of penetration. With her legs spaced and her rump in the air, you'll be able to thrust deeply without having to worry about injuring her during the act.Tip: If she complains about the lack of intimacy, you can resolve this by simply leaning forward until your chest is touching her back; this will make her feel more like you're having a shared experience, and less like she's only there for your own pleasure.Inverted rearThis is another male pleasure position that makes thrusting easy. Lie down on your back and have her lie on top of you while facing the ceiling. Grab her thighs and spread her legs apart until she's in a reverse straddle. Due to her positioning, her mobility will be limited, but yours will be relatively unencumbered. Once she's in position, you'll be able to thrust as deeply as you like, for as long as you like -- preferably until she's screaming your name.Tip: Wild sex in this position can make it difficult for a woman to stay balanced; be sure to keep a firm hold of her thighs to help her stay on top.More male pleasure positions to keep you happy...

Top Places To Make Out part 2

The couchThe couch, like your bed, is a piece of furniture designed for lounging, so making out on it is always a good idea. While you maintain your comfort on the couch, it's also just different enough from making out in the bedroom to up the excitement factor. Watching TV or a movie on the couch could give you plenty of time to work up the nerve to put your arm around her -- if you're still getting to know each other.The swimming poolWe're not talking about the local public swimming pool here. No one will appreciate you sucking face in front of their toddlers in water wings. However, if you are lucky enough to have your very own pool or hot tub, it can be one of the best places to make out. Water makes everything sexier and the buoyancy of being in the pool allows for more freedom of movement. Plus, you're already wearing very little clothing. It's not hard to see why the swimming pool is one of the top places to make out.The elevatorHitting the stop button like they do in the movies may garner you more attention than you'd like, but a quick make-out session between floors can be really hot. Just make sure you're disentangled by the time the doors open. Elevator rides with strangers are awkward enough, and nobody wants to go up 10 floors with the couple they caught making out when they walked in.The drive-inThe drive-in has served as the ultimate make out spot for young people since it was invented, since it provides an innocent excuse for parking and enough time to enjoy an enthusiastic make-out session before the credits roll. Combine this with the teenage thrill of making out in the back seat and you've got a tried-and-true top make-out spot.The old reliableOf course, that comfy, convenient bed shouldn't be written off of your list of top make out places for good. Going to the movies is fine when you're feeling adventurous, but when you want to experience truly uninhibited passion, there's no better place than between the sheets.switch it up a littleMaking out is one of those things that makes you feel like a teenager again. It's oddly innocent yet totally sexual. Especially if you're in a long-term relationship, we recommend making out in some of these spots that we've recommended -- it's sure to spice things up. If you're just starting to date a woman, making out in an unexpected place shows her you're up for anything.

Top Places To Make Out

Your bed is a logical place to make out. It's comfortable, it's private and if the make out session leads to sex, there will be no need for awkwardly getting up and walking to another part of the house. It's no wonder most of us think of our bedrooms when it's time to get busy. However, if you've only ever made out in beds, it's time to push your boundaries and get frisky out in the world. Here are AM's top places to make out.The back seatUnless your ride is a stretch limo, chances are your back seat isn't the most comfortable place in the world to make out. The back seat definitely doesn't make this list because of its comfort factor. No, the reason the back seat is one of the top places to make out is because, no matter how old you are, when you're getting busy in the back seat, you'll feel like a carefree teenager again. When you were younger, the back seat may have been the only place where you could get a little privacy. Now that you're older, you'll get some excitement out of how relatively public and risqu your back seat is.The outdoorsWhen the weather is right, a quiet spot outside can be among the greatest places to make out -- you can simultaneously enjoy nature and each other. Plus, there's the added thrill of the possibility that someone could walk by at any second. The excitement of getting caught makes the outdoors a top place to make out. So spread a blanket, look up at the stars and get close.The movie theaterMaking out in a movie theater is an art. The key to doing it without sacrificing your dignity is all in your choice of movie. It should be one that is not very popular so that the theater won't be crowded. Find a spot near the back, preferably in the corner so that you're not making a spectacle of yourselves. Be considerate of the other theatergoers: You wouldn't want to sit beside two people groping each other throughout an entire movie, so don't subject your neighbor to it either. Finally, you'll want to make sure that neither of you have any interest in seeing the movie you've chosen, since you probably won't catch much of it.

When To Get Tested part 3

She's cheated/You've cheatedIf either you or your partner has cheated, it's time to get tested. This goes for whether or not the cheater went the whole nine yards. When it comes to oral sex, women can pick up chlamydia and gonorrhea during fellatio -- and they can pass it to someone else the same way. You should also be tested if either of you cheated "safely." Bacterial STIs, like the aforementioned chlamydia and gonorrhea, don't require intercourse for transmission; heavy petting is all it takes. The same goes for incurable diseases like herpes, the gift that keeps on giving. Cheating is like opening a box of rotten chocolates; you never know what you're going to get, but whatever it is, it won't be pleasant.Testing tip: If she's just confessed to cheating, you should ask her to get tested immediately. This is especially important if you're going to stay together and work through the infidelity. Waiting a few weeks, or months, to broach the question will only re-open the wound, which could undo any emotional healing that's already taken place.One of you notices physical changesAs we mentioned earlier, most sexually transmitted infections have a window of time during which they can go be undetected. If an STI goes unnoticed in the early stages, the symptoms could mistakenly be dismissed as benign when they finally present themselves. For example, if your woman develops an unusual genital ulcer five months into your relationship, it's more than reasonable to expect her to get tested again. After all, illnesses of that nature are particularly difficult to detect.The same goes for you; if she notices a significant change in the smell or color of your semen, you shouldn't be offended if she brings it to your attention and asks you to get tested. Follow-up testing is in both of your best interests. Tell her you've noticed some changes in her body and ask her how she's feeling. Tell her you're worried about her, and you think she should visit her gynecologist to rule out infection.Testing tip: Don't come out and mention STIs right away; mention the symptoms and give her a chance to draw her own conclusions. If she doesn't connect the dots, tell her you think it would be a good idea if you both had some follow-up testing done. This will sound more like genuine concern and less like an accusation.better safe than sorryWhile few people relish the idea of asking a partner to get tested, it's a pleasant alternative to coming down with a sexually transmitted infection. If you approach the situation from the angle of mutual responsibility, most women will agree to get tested without taking offense. After all, she'll feel better knowing that you're free of infection, too. Let your woman know that your concern is genuine and she'll view your suggestions as the epitome of responsibility -- and women just love a responsible man.

When To Get Tested part 2

Trying to get pregnantIf fatherhood is on the agenda, both you and your woman should be tested for STDs before you start trying -- even if you were both tested at the start of your relationship. Why? Because most sexually transmitted infections have a window of time during which they can slip beneath the radar. In other words, one of you could still be infected, despite your test results having said otherwise. It's important to note that your results are just as important as hers; you could be carrying an infection she hasn't yet acquired, but could acquire during pregnancy. This is highly significant, because diseases like syphilis and hepatitis B (blood-borne infections that can be asymptomatic for decades) can be passed from mother to fetus, sometimes resulting in premature delivery or stillbirth.Testing tip: If she hasn't already suggested this one herself, approach it from the angle of responsibility. Tell her you know it's unlikely either of you has anything to pass on to your future child, but you want to ensure the baby's health at all costs. Your woman will find the suggestion admirable and endearing.Deciding when to get tested might be tough, but these tips should help...

When To Get Tested

In today's age of life-threatening sexually transmitted infections, you have every right to know that your potential girlfriend has a clean bill of health before climbing into bed with her. You're also entitled to a little reassurance at other points in the relationship, when the need arises. Some will find the idea of asking such questions intimidating, which is understandable, as the recipients of such questions often find them offensive. Not to worry; asking is far less difficult than you realize, and a little sensitivity can go a long way. The following tips will help you determine when to get tested, and how to ask her to do the same.New relationship Unless you've been tested during the last 24 hours, or have been abstinent since your last checkup, it's a good idea to suggest mutual STI testing when starting a brand new relationship. This will ensure she doesn't feel like you're accusing her of being diseased, and will put the focus on mutual health -- as opposed to only safeguarding your own. Tell her you think it might be a good idea if you both drop into your local clinic for some peace of mind. If she recoils in horror at the idea of visiting the clinic together, that's fine; testing for women is more involved and many prefer using their own gynecologist. Either option is fine, as long as she chooses one of them.Testing tip: If she flat-out rejects the idea, this could mean she's afraid of learning the answer, which suggests she's no stranger to risky behavior. This doesn't mean she's infected, but it does mean you'd be wise to use protection until she's proven otherwise.

Swedish Girls

Is the hype about Swedish girls really true? Are they really the hottest women on earth? Well, that's the type of question that is best argued about into the early morning accompanied by pint after pint of beer, so we'll leave that up to you. All we can do is provide evidence for the "yes" side of the argument. So let's say for the sake of argument that Swedish girls are the world's hottest. The next logical question is, how do I meet one? What do I say to her? How to I get her to hang out with me all the time, and ultimately share my bed? Well gentlemen, reporting directly from Sweden, here are some tips for dating Swedish girls.We decided to ask Sapphire, author of the blog Lost in Stockholm, for information about what Swedish girls don't like in a guy. "Swedish girls are everything what you fantasize about," writes Sapphire. "They are tall, beautiful, blonde (although often artificially blond dyed hair), busty, athletic, and strong. These Viking women are the enigma wrapped in a conundrum because the men still haven't figured them out." What Swedish girls don't wantAccording to Sapphire, Swedish girls get fed up with Swedish guys for the following reasons.-They're kinda shy-They're stingy, and don't invite girls out much-They're too dependent on alcohol for conversation, and they often drink to get drunk, with no understanding of moderation-No alcohol equals no conversation-They're too emotionally distant and far away So what's a guy to do? Read on for tips on how to score a Swedish girl.

Sexual Intelligence part 2

Also, whether young or old, gay or straight, male or female,when American adults have sex, they frequently: Are self-conscious or self-critical about their body Dont feel as close to their partner as theyd like Dont feel confident that theyre going to have a good time (which is why they dont do it more frequently) Are concerned about performance -- either their own or their partners Feel inhibited about communicating what they want, dont want, feel, or dont feelHealth problems are also frequently part of normal sex -- because normal people have health problems.So, are you starting to look pretty normal? Are you starting to realize this might not be the right goal?I want to change things for you -- and not by improving your sexual function. This book isnt literary Viagra. Its more like literary brain surgery (sorry, no tummy tuck, boob job, or hair implants, just brain surgery).The awkwardness and emotional isolation described above are what most people get when they try to have normal sex. And thats why your vision of sex matters. So lets spend the rest of the chapter exploring why its not important to be sexually normal and why, in fact, pursuing normal sex is often destructive.Of course, by normal sex most people dont mean the realityIve just described, but a romanticized vision of perfect performance, perfect environment, and nothing too novel or psychologically challenging. The only thing normal about that kind of sex is the fact that so many people aspire to it, and so few people have it. (And heres a secret every sex therapist knows: even when people get this kind of sex, theyre not necessarily satisfied with it.)So if, like so many other people, youve been pursuing the wrongthing (normal sex), you need a new way to think about sex. Although most people assume its logical to have a performance orientation (how many times per week, how many minutes beforeorgasm), thats only one way to look at sex. And its exactly thewrong way.

Sexual Intelligence

It's not important to be sexually "normal"... in fact, pursuing "normal" sex is often destructive." Heres whats normal: adults have sex primarily when theyre tired. This shapes the quality, content, and frequency of the experience. Most adults save their prime time for things that are either more important (raising their kids, working after hours, maintaining their health, handling crises) or more reliably satisfying (watching TV, going out, sharing hobbies, playing around on Facebook). Not having much energy is one aspect of normal sex that most people dont want. But many adults seem to believe that most sex will inevitably take place when theyre not at their best, without considering the consequences of this kind of sex life -- that it may become routine, not involve much time, lose its playfulness, and that using contraception or a lubricant may seem like too muchtrouble.If we think of normal as common, typical, and accepted as the way things are, this is what normal sex actually looks like: Awkwardness and self-consciousness are common. Communication is limited. Neither partner laughs or smiles much. One or both partners are obsessively concerned about performance. One or both are unsure what their partner likes. One or both tolerate what they dislike, hoping that it will stop soon. Masturbation is kept secret. Theres difficulty using birth control without embarrassment or conflict. Desire requires a perfect environment. Sex is sometimes physically painful. He believes that her orgasm problem reflects on me. She believes that his erection problem reflects on me.

Powerful Women

* What You Need To Know * Americans have less sex than most other nations. * The more household power a woman has, the less sexual activity she has. * Couples in America are often too tired to have sex. "Americans tend to be low on sexual frequency, compared to the rest of the world." Tweet This Quote Ever wonder how much sex married couples are having? Depending on the study you read, there seem to be as many different kinds of sex lives as there are marriages. According to the Durex study of sexual well being, Americans tend to be low on sexual frequency compared to the rest of the world (118 times a year compared to the average of 127). In another study posted by the famous Kinsey Institute, 13% of married couples reported having sex a few times per year, 45% reported a few times per month, 34% reported two to three times per week, and 7% reported four or more times per week. I think the key word to notice is reported. The biggest challenge for sex researchers is that most studies are self-report studies, meaning that they are open to embellishment. Usually by men, who tend to report higher levels of sexual frequency. If their reports are true, who are those guys having sex with? Perhaps each other? Or perhaps women tend to under-report because of the sexual double standard.Now another study throws a new factor into the gender equation in terms of sexuality. A survey of six African countries shows that the more household power a woman has, the less sexual activity she has. Specifically, if she is singly responsible for large household purchases, decisions on health care and family obligations, she has sex less often. The wife who jointly shares responsibility for these decisions with her husband has more sex than women who have total responsibility.

Top 10: Female Sex Fantasies

If you think women dont sit around fantasizing about very naughty things, think again. Women are experts when it comes to dreaming up the sauciest of fantasies, and they dont bother limiting themselves to the traditional. The top 10 female sex fantasies covers everything from fetishes to threesomes, and you may be surprised to know that many women want to do more than just fantasize. Some women spend just as much time hoping their men will help put their female sex fantasies into practice. Sound interesting? Read on: We'll give you the inside scoop on the top 10 female sex fantasies, and what shes really daydreaming about when you least expect it.No.10 Domination (her dominating you) Women love a big strong man who can sweep them off their feet and carry them into the sunset -- but you may be surprised to learn that one of the top female sex fantasies is to have that same big strong man begging for sexual release in the bedroom. The entire scenario revolves around you worshipping her body and begging for her attention. Why? She gets to be in control while enjoying total devotion from her man in the process. What more could she want?

7 Ways To Enhance The Male Orgasm part 2

3- Have her stimulate other parts of your body The anus is where most men's G-spots are found. While you're having sex, having her simply rub the outside of your anus, or, even using her finger to massage your prostate may lead to one hell of an orgasm. If you're totally against the idea of anal touch, then have her wrap her hand around your testicles and massage them, and even tug on them lightly. Having her do this when you feel your orgasm approaching provides the best results. 4- Interrupt your sex While you're having sex, stop the lovemaking and engage in other activities for a little while. Then penetrate her again and keep doing this until you're about ready to explode -- and I mean that literally. Interrupting the sex will not only intensify your orgasm; it will intensify hers as well. If she begs you to keep going, and you don't, chances are you will have a squirter on your hands. 5- Tighten and release your muscles Whether it's your pelvic or your thigh, squeezing your muscles for a few seconds and then letting them relax will serve to make your orgasm an unforgettable one. Obviously, I am not suggesting that you should blatantly hold your breath and squeeze your muscles while your women stares at you, petrified about what's going to happen next. Be subtle, but feel free to exercise your Kegel muscles, or tighten your thighs while you're making love. 6- Engage in some bondage Whoever said that there's pleasure in pain was right on target. Sometimes, hair pulling, spanking and choking can lead to unforgettable orgasms. Of course, your woman has to be willing to do these things to you. Then again, I personally get off on doing such things to my woman. There's nothing quite like having a woman submit to you and beg you to spank her. Needless to say, when I arrive, I arrive big time. 7- Focus on your orgasm Many guys tend to pump away like maniacs when they're about to orgasm and ejaculate. I suggest that you slow down when you feel yourself about to let go. Penetrate her at a much slower pace, and focus on the sensations involved when your ejaculate approaches the base of your penis and makes it way out of your body (and into a condom, hopefully). intensity at its finest So now that you can turn your orgasm into a life-altering experience, use your newfound powers to make your love life all that it can be. Until next time, take your own O all the way to Z.

7 Ways To Enhance The Male Orgasm

I spend so much time focusing on how you can please your woman, that I sometimes forget that even you, actually we , need to enjoy ourselves as well. That said, today I'm going to help all you guys out there enhance your own almighty orgasm. Now before you place your woman in position and prepare to astound yourself, keep in mind that you do have to pay attention to her needs as well. Yes, you will be multitasking in bed, but it's not that difficult once you figure out how simple it can be to amplify your orgasm. And chances are that by attempting to improve your own orgasm, you will, in turn, enhance hers in the process. the pleasure is all yours When you do have sex with your woman, make yourself aware of what's going on around you. It's easy to get sucked into the immediate gratification, but there is a lot more to orgasm than ejaculate and a nap afterwards. 1- Pay attention to physical sensations Listen to the noises surrounding you, such as music or her moaning (or even your own). Feel her body against yours and use your hands to explore other areas of her. Inhale the scent of sex and enjoy the redolence surrounding both of you. Use your mouth to kiss and taste her body. And finally, look at her, or use as mirror to look at the both of you while you're into each other. 2- Fantasize Sometimes fantasizing about being with your partner in a dangerous situation, or role playing that you've just met her and don't even know her name can serve to enhance the sensations of sex and lead to a very powerful, orgasmic release. As well, fantasizing that she's someone else entirely is also okay; just don't tell her you're doing it, or worse, call out the wrong name. Stimulate, delay and tighten

Make Your Woman Want Your Sex part 2

Day #3: Kiss, touch & boobies The kisses are still very important. Keep them coming and remember; slow's the way to go. But now comes some fun... Now it's time to give her body a little rubdown -- a sensual massage of sorts. While you kiss her -- each time you kiss her -- place your hands on her waist and hold it for a few seconds, before you start making your way up until you reach her awesome breasts (aren't they great?). If she's a nipple freak, make your way to them over her shirt and rub them for a minute. Stop right there; playtime is over for today. Day #4: Kiss, touch under clothes & phone call Today, besides that long sensual kiss in the morning, you're going to call her from work to tell her that you can't stop thinking about her. Tell her you keep fantasizing about what you and her could be doing in bed and that you can't wait to get home. When you do get home, you're not going to have sex with her; you aren't going to have anything even close to sex with her. Instead, you're going to feel up her body, kiss her yet again, and tease her like crazy. When you get underneath her pants/skirt/shorts, feel up her thighs but don't touch her vagina. When you get under her shirt, feel up her stomach and her back, but don't touch her breasts. Let out a slight moan when you touch her and look at her body as though you've never seen anything so beautiful before. End it with a sensual kiss, but keep your eye on her. Warning: She may very well attack you on this very night. Day #5: Kiss, touch, boobies & nakedness This is it. This is the day you've been waiting for. Today you will do everything already mentioned -- kiss, caress, rub, nipple visit -- but you will also take a shower, come out wrapped in a towel and kiss her neck softly. Once you've adequately given her a soft, slow kiss, all you have to do is lay back and wait. She'll be attacking in 3, 2, 1... thank me later You shouldn't have to go through this whole process to get a little action, but sometimes even we tend to forget about the little things that turn women on. So if a little kiss here and a light massage there is all it takes to get her to become the aggressor, then I say, hell yeah! Until next time, keep your woman on the attack.

Make Your Woman Want Your Sex

There are good lovers, there are great lovers and then there are smart lovers. The smart lovers are the ones who know how to turn a woman on so that she ends up being the aggressor. Hence, today's sex tip. You are going to learn how to turn your woman on in four days so that by the fifth day, she attacks you with total abandon. The way to making a woman's vagina tingle is by acting as though she turns you on like crazy, but you simply aren't desperate to have sex with her. Even if you're dying to, you need to maintain a tad of self-restraint for this one. the five-day sex attack Believe it or not, in the next five days, you're going to treat your woman like gold but without seducing her fully. Most guys tend to go all the way once they kiss their woman, but not you; you're going to seduce her to a certain extent each day, calculating each move you make so that she's left wondering why you're not on the attack. Just remember that the key to each day is slow, smooth moves. Always be subtle, always be smooth. Let's begin the five-day journey. Day #1: Kiss Today is simple enough. Throughout the day, kiss her as though it's the first time you're getting to lay your lips on hers. Kiss her slowly and with passion. As well, give her a light massage by rubbing her shoulders. Look her in the eyes and give her that silent, "I think you're hot" look. Eye contact can work wonders for both first-time couples and established ones. Day #2: Kiss & touch Keep the duties of day #1, but add a little more spice to the mix. To start, when you kiss her, let the kiss last just a tad longer. And talk to her. I know. Bow-ring ... but women appreciate having their partners listen to them. So ask her a question, let her take that usual hour to answer it, and then ask her a follow-up question. The main purpose of this exercise is to make her feel as though she's really important to you. And so she should be... so should her sex. You're only three days aways from the attack...

Lubricants For Sex part 2

O'My: If you're a health nut, this is a great lube for you: it's completely organic, but doesn't sacrifice functionality. If you're worried about all the chemicals in other lubes, O'My's the way to go. Overall, it's similar to Astroglide. Wet: This one is almost as popular as Astroglide, but Wet is a bit thicker. It's also available in various flavors -- perfect for when you need some added slickness for oral sex. Slippery Stuff Gel: According to the rumor mill, Slippery Stuff was originally designed to help divers get in and out of tight wetsuits. Somewhere down the line, though, someone discovered that there was a far more interesting use for this wonderful lube. It's thick and very long-lasting, but gets somewhat stringy as it dries. Slippery Stuff Gel is, overall, a pretty good middle-ground between Astroglide and Maximus. KY Jelly: The world's most famous water-based lube, KY frankly isn't the best. It dries up quicker than better-quality lubes, and gets tacky as it dries. I do not recommend it highly. KY, actually, was designed for medical use. That is, it's designed to facilitate easy entry, and clean up quickly. I suggest that you stick to lubes that are designed for sex. silicone-based lubes Silicone-based lubes are similar to water-based lubes, but are generally much greasier and last much longer, despite having a thinner texture. In fact, that's their main advantage: silicone-based lubes take ages to dry out. No muss, no fuss, no need to reapply. What's more; you can actually use them in water and they'll still work. They're not quite as easy to clean up as water-based lubes, though. Those who don't like silicone-based lubes say that using them is like having motor oil slathered on your bits. Others swear by it. Popular silicon-based lubes include: Wet Platinum: By the makers of Wet, naturally, this is high quality and very long-lasting. Eros Bodyglide: It's almost identical to Wet Platinum, but more expensive. ID Millennium: ID Millennium is a good lube, but not quite as smooth as Eros or Wet Platinum. It's still a good choice, however. oil-based lubes Oil-based lubes are... well, you just shouldn't use them. Why? First, they corrode latex, so you can't use them with condoms. Second, they're bad for your woman's vaginal health in a variety of ways. And finally, they're slimy and messy. Seriously. Baby oil, Vaseline, Crisco, etc., are known for their lubricating properties, but using them is just a bad idea. However, there is one oil-based lube that I can let slide: Men's Cream: This is an oil-based lube that I think deserves special mention. Why? It's probably the first product ever designed specifically as a lube for male masturbation. Say goodbye to weird scented hand lotion and all that garbage. If you're of the millions of guys out there who needs something to make his solo flights nice and smooth, I highly recommend Men's Cream. Just don't use it for penetration. slippery when lubed Most sex stores will carry at least a few of the brands mentioned here. There are also many online sex stores that will carry these lubes and more. Also, Astroglide, as previously mentioned, can be found in many drugstores.

Lubricants For Sex

Plenty of you out there have probably run into a problem just like this before: your girlfriend's vagina is bone-dry during sex. It's chafing you, hurting her, and making the sex unpleasant in general. You try using spit -- no good. It doesn't last, and repeatedly rubbing your spit on a woman's crotch really isn't your idea of a good time. You try lubricated condoms, but the greasy sandwich bag sensation isn't helping matters. What to do? One word: lube. Personal lubricants are the quickest, easiest, and (maybe) most effective solution to problems like unusual dryness on your lady's part. Lubes can also help prolong lovemaking sessions, make your own masturbation sessions better. It's also virtually required for anal sex -- an activity that's becoming increasingly common among couples. using different lubes Even if you don't think you need lube, you may be surprised at what it can do for your sex life. Think about it: quickies are no problem with lube. Just apply some and you're off to the races -- it eliminates the need for your girl to get wet first. And speaking of which, say you have a girl that takes ages to build up enough natural lubrication for sex. Give lube a try, and your jaw muscles will thank you later. So if you think you're a guy who could benefit from using lube, read on. I'll give you the lowdown on different types of lube, things to be mindful of, and reviews of the most popular and widely available brands. Virtually all lubes on the market today fall into one of three categories: 1- Water-based; 2- Silicone-based; and, 3- Oil-based Each of these has their advantages and disadvantages. For most situations though, water-based lubes are by far the most popular. water-based lubes Water-based lubes are just that: water-based. Their main feature is that they're smooth and slick, but not sticky and messy like silicone and oil-based lubes can be. Since they're water-soluble, skin and mucous membranes will absorb them. This makes cleanup a breeze: just a little warm water, maybe some soap, and the lube will easily wash off the skin. However, it also means that you might have to periodically reapply it, depending on how long you have sex for. This is one of the chief drawbacks of water-based lube, since we all know that in the heat of the moment, an interruption is probably the worst thing that could happen. Water-based lubes also have the added advantage of being completely condom-compatible (oil-based lubes corrode latex and cannot be used with condoms -- more on that later). One thing to watch out for, however, is that many water-based lubes contain glycerin, which can promote infections in women pretty easily. So make sure your girl cleans up right away after using one. Popular water-based lubes include: Astroglide: Maybe the most popular water-based lube out there. It's on the thin side, but nice and slick, and long-lasting. It's also available in many drugstores, which is convenient. If you've never used lube and are just looking to try something out, Astroglide is a great place to start. Maximus: This is some heavy-duty stuff. Very long-lasting and very thick, this is the lube you'd use if you needed, well, maximum slipperiness. For this reason, it's popular for anal sex. Maximus is what you want to use if you really need to grease up good. More water-based lubes, silicon-based lubes, and an oil-based lube designed solely for masturbation

Increase Your Sex Appeal part 2

Confidence A confident man is a man who has no problem meeting women. The thing is, you need to be confident in all facets of your life, not just business. Learn to walk with a certain swagger, talk as though everyone needs to hear what you want to say, and portray the image of a man who has it together. Some of the ugliest guys get women simply because they have that air of confidence that other guys lack. Do whatever it takes to develop a confident attitude. Phase II Now that you're the man when it comes to meeting women, you need to make sure that your sex appeal is top-notch in the bedroom as well. Here's how: Grooming Although that rugged look works for some guys, a neat appearance will always impress a woman. But in this instance, I'm not talking about your face -- I'm talking about grooming your pubic area. Obviously, you don't need to annihilate the hair from your body completely; rather, keep the area neat and trim. You never know when you'll end up having sex, so make sure your pubic area is welcoming at all times. Stamina If you can last for as long as you want in bed, you will be dubbed "the master." Women prefer men who have control of their sexuality by being able to not only resist them on occasion, but also by being able to last when it comes to penetration. Increase your stamina in bed by doing Kegel exercises daily, and even practice different sexual arts like Tantra. Sex moves Some guys coin a signature move when it comes to sex, but I think that as long as you're mildly creative in bed, you will make the right impression sans signature move. However, as I've advised in past articles, it's very important to cover all the necessary ground; that includes kissing, licking odd areas of her body (like her ankles, her back and her wrist), giving her great oral sex, and of course, engaging in sex positions she'll love. go forth In the grand scheme of things, only you can up the ante and figure out what it takes to turn the women who surround you on. I'm only here to provide the ideas that might inspire you to make the necessary adjustments. So until next time, keep turning the ladies out.

Increase Your Sex Appeal

As far as sex goes, the subject itself is appealing. But it seems that many guys have a difficult time increasing their sex appeal in all the ways that really matter to women. But today, all that's going to change. Sex appeal isn't just about sex, as I'm sure you already know. The ladies want a man who has it together, both physically and mentally. So examine the following checklist and find out if you have what it takes to turn on just about any woman on Earth. Phase I Fitness If a woman can visually determine that you're fit, your penis is already halfway inside her. Despite the fact that women list a "sense of humor" first on the list of qualities they look for in a man, a guy with a great body will always get noticed. If you don't already, I recommend that you start working out and developing your muscles in order to look healthier and stronger. A fit man is equated with a healthy sex life. Believe it. Smell People always talk about having a signature scent, and while I agree that that's all good, many women have told me that they like the fact that I smell fresh and clean all the time. In keeping with that theory, shower every morning and make sure your clothes smell fresh. Applying cologne is great, just don't drown yourself in it. Your objective should be to make sure that you smell clean without having to using Calvin's help. Manners If there's one thing that gentlemen do, it's get laid. And if you want to get women, you have to treat each and every one of them as though they're the only women on Earth. Open doors, be polite, smile, always let them go first... even if some women have that "feminist" attitude, over 80% of women will fall for your charms. Dance moves Don't sign up for the Justin Timberlake class for hip-hop beginners , but do take up some ballroom dance lessons. That way, you'll learn rhythm when it comes to the two-step and, eventually, you'll become more confident to start dancing in nightclubs anywhere. Women find men who can dance attractive; there's no doubt about that. And while you don't necessarily have to dance like you walked off of a music video set, some rhythm does impress women. They don't call sex the "horizontal mambo" for nothing, you know. On to one of the greatest appealers of all and Phase II of your mission...

11 Sensual Valentine's Day Ideas part 2

"Try using body paint and playing games in which she has to guess what you're writing on her body." 5- Feed her Maslow wasn't kidding when he said our physiological needs need to be satisfied first. So why not combine two of them for maximum pleasure? Our next sensual Valentine's Day idea involves increasing your libido with food. Cutting up fruit like strawberries, melon, apples, and chocolate can only serve to make the sexual fun even more, well, fun. 6- Blindfold her The cliche would have you blindfold and feed her. This time, however, we recommend you blindfold her and present her with different scents, making her guess what each one is. Make one of them an actual perfume gift. Along with the perfume, make her smell things like incense, flowers, oils, etc. 7- Tie her up "Choke me, spank me, pull my hair." No, that's not where we're going with this entry (but if that's your thing, man, then happy Valentine's Day). Women cited domination (you dominating her) as one of their top 10 female sex fantasies. There's nothing quite like having a woman submit to you completely. She wants you to own your raging hormones, she wants you to savagely run your fingers through her hair and to feel the weight of your body. Begin by tying her hands to the bedpost with a scarf (a scarf she will later receive as a gift) and then have your way with her. 8- Use a feather Going down on her is one thing; using a feather to drive her crazy and make her beg to give it a little lick is another. Use a strong feather -- or any other touch-based sex toy -- to tickle her entire body, ending at her vagina. 9- Buy her lingerie Most men find it difficult to buy their girlfriend lingerie, so they don't. Here's how to buy her lingerie. Now that you know how, get her a sexy, lacy satin getup, and once she puts it on for you, tear it off and do your thing. Wasn't that easy? 10- Sexy games No, we're not talking about naked Twister. Try using body paint and playing games in which she has to guess what you're writing on her body. A wrong answer gets you five minutes of oral sex; a right answer gets her five minutes of tongue action. 11- Chocolate What would this special day be without chocolate -- and the 101 ways that you can play with it? Try melting chocolate on each other, and pace yourself as you devour every inch of her body. If you feel like this Valentine's Day idea isn't substantial enough, combine it with another idea, like prolonged foreplay (No. 1 ). we dare you This Valentine's Day, we dare you to channel your inner master provocateur, to get creative and, if nothing else, get kinky. We dare you to make her day so memorable that it will make her girlfriends' boyfriends look like amateurs. Can you handle it?

11 Sensual Valentine's Day Ideas

What You Need To Know You can't go wrong with sensual pampering, like massages and spa-like baths. Lingerie is a timeless sexy gift. Use sensual treats like chocolate to spice things up. "Speaking of warming her up, your foreplay session could be preceded by a hot bath." Get more gift picks, date ideas and relationship advice in our Valentine's Day Guide. Let's fast-forward a few days: It's Monday morning, you're standing by the water cooler casually exchanging stories about the night before -- Valentine's Day -- with the guys. What kind of guy do you want to be? The conservative, who "surprised" his girlfriend with a box of chocolates and a fancy dinner? Boring. Even the boss' morning meeting stories are more interesting than that. The ol' married guy, whose sex life depends on that very day? Please. This Valentine's Day, you can be the guy who stepped outside of his chocolate box, who dared to do something a bit more kinky, and who can stand by that water cooler with a smirk on his face that doesn't require any explanation. Where to start? If you want to impress her, start by pleasing her with these 11 sensual Valentine's Day ideas. 1- Prolonged foreplay Let's jump right into it (no puns intended): When was the last time you engaged in prolonged foreplay that did not culminate with penetration? Exactly. We underestimate how important it is to warm her up, make her feel special and, ultimately, have her so turned on that she's begging for it. We know what you're thinking: "Seriously?" And, "Am I capable?" Yes and yes. Sometimes the anticipation is hotter than the climax. So, we recommend relishing that moment of anticipation because, hey, you'll enjoy it too. Kiss, touch, lick, tease, bite -- you choose the verb -- all night long. Finally, if the idea of prolonged foreplay without it leading to penetration is painful, think of it this way: There's no better time than Valentine's Day to make the sacrifice -- and she'll remember it for the rest of the year. Win-win. 2- Warm bath Speaking of warming her up, your foreplay session could be preceded by a hot bath. This sensual Valentine's Day idea involves filling the bathtub with rose petals and scented oils, which will definitely help her relax and prep her body for what's about to come. Here's the thing. Obviously you're running a hot bath for her; she knows this and so do you. If you're already making the effort, why not commit to it and go all out? Here are some tips on how to set the mood. Play some sensual grown folks' music (Sade is foolproof -- and it's pronounced "Sha-day"), dim the lights and light the candles and make sure that you are clean (i.e. shower) before stepping in to the tub. There's nothing that kills the romance like knowing you're bathing in your own filth. 3- Massage oils Shop around for some massage oils that come packed with flavor. Whether you like banana, almond or chocolate, now you can rub her body down and lick off the remains. 4- New location Sex on Valentine's Day? Wow, how original. The solution doesn't involve modifying the act; it involves modifying the location. If you're a play-it-safe kind of guy, then throwing her over the dinner table in a moment of passion will read out of character and will likely turn her on. Or try something a bit unexpected like the stairs. For a real rush, consider public sex. The fact that it's taboo and the fear of getting caught provides an ideal outlet to release your inner kink. It's Sunday night. An evening walk in the woods sounds good. Maybe it's time to take out the trash -- you know, in that alley. Take your sex life to new heights on Valentine's Day, and she'll walk into the office Monday morning with a smirk of her own. Feed her, blindfold her and tie her up. That's next...

Rate Your Sex Skills part 2

Creativity Factor A- The Artiste You're constantly thinking up new sexual positions. You use body paint to draw a bikini on your woman's body and then lick it all off. In essence, you are the Van Gogh of the bedroom. B- The Sketcher You decorate the room occasionally and may think up new ways to seduce your girl, but you have yet to try a variety of positions and the use of toys. C- The Stick Man Lighting a candle before the act is as creative as it gets for you. To you, sex is supposed to be fun and shouldn't require smoke and mirrors for an effect. Endurance Factor A- Marathon Man Not only are you able to go for a second round at will, hell the first round lasts at least 30 minutes -- and that's just penetration. B- The Stroller You have the ability to last long, given that you don't just stick to penetration when it comes to your sex sessions. And occasionally, when you've filled up on your energy drinks, you can easily go a second round. C- Quick Draw For you, foreplay lasts a few minutes and the same goes for penetration. Sometimes she orgasms, sometimes she doesn't. And it's not because you can't last longer, rather, you don't see the point. who are you? Mostly A's The fact that you can freak women out is great, although it may not always work in your favor. You're always thinking outside the box and can easily work your magic to get into every woman's box. Keep it up. Mostly B's I wouldn't go so far as to call you a full-on freak, but you know how to get down and dirty on occasion. I recommend that if you end up in a long-term relationship, you should attempt to try even more new things and take broader, braver steps on occasion. Mostly C's Dude! Come on. Sex is not just for procreation. If you want to keep your woman satisfied, you'll need to step things up a notch and start making sex the stuff legends are made of. No one can help you but yourself. And who knows, maybe if you try new things, your woman will be inspired by your new attitude and drive you crazy in bed.hone your skills No matter how great you are in bed, there's always something new to be learned. Take the time to explore your strengths and weaknesses in bed, and work your magic to be the star you know you are.

Rate Your Sex Skills

Have you ever been told how good or bad you are in bed? Have you ever wondered what you might be doing right or wrong? Are you prepared to venture into new areas of sex, but aren't sure what to do exactly? Well, considering we're on our own when it comes to sex education that we can really use, this week's tip is going to help you determine how good you are when it comes to all things sex. Of course, this isn't based on how big your penis is, but rather how well you bode when it comes to satisfying the ladies. Let's get started. Pick the options that best describe you and find out what, if anything, you need to do about it. Spontaneity Factor A- Anywhere, anytime You're always prepared to have sex at the drop of a dime and end up having it at the most inappropriate times. You've even been known to pull over on the side of the road just to get it on with your girl.B- Occasional shocker Although you tend to plan your strategy carefully, sometimes you throw caution to the wind and bend your woman over and indulge in animalistic quickie sex when your erection calls for it. C- Calendar sex You don't like surprises and you prefer to have things organized, even when it comes to sex. If it's not in the schedule, chances are it's not going to happen. Kinky Factor A- Crazy freak From tying her to the bed to heading out to swingers clubs, you are one kinky fother mucker . Any woman you take to bed transforms into a freak once you're done with her. B- Subtle star Although you habitually take the safe route, sometimes you engage in role-play or perform a strip show for your chick. But whips and chains are out of the question. C- Generic vanilla You prefer to stick to the three sex positions you picked up from watching porn and would rather leave all that crazy stuff to the movies. How creative are you? And how long can you last?

Figure Out What You Want In Bed

When it comes to sex, too often, guys settle for a little penis play without actually knowing that they may enjoy having other things done to them. But if women generally require a little revving before you dive in, then I think it's high time you had the same standards. Then again, it all depends on what you like. There are guys who want their women to attack the penis head-on, while other guys might enjoy being seduced. That said, here are some suggestions that may help you figure out what you may want when it comes to all things sex: Masturbate slowly The next time you decide to masturbate, do it slowly. Mix it up by stroking with your fingertips rather than a closed hand, and change the tempo every so often. By trying different methods of masturbation, you may figure out that your penis responds to other methods of manipulation and not just the aggressive, "get it over with in two minutes" stroke. Let her explore your body Short of making the request, opt instead to make a game of foreplay wherein your woman has to seduce you by trying to make you erect without touching your penis. Women love a challenge and chances are she'll start licking different body parts, talking nasty and even stripping for you.Increase foreplay time Instead of simply kissing her, then going down, and then getting in, why don't you start venturing into areas of her body that are generally ignored? Lick behind her knees, her inner thighs, her back, and her ankles, and chances are, she'll do the same. Before you know it, you'll discover that you love having your nipples sucked and your G-spot massaged. Remember; reciprocation is key when it comes to sex. Add massage to the mix A body massage can always help you discover new things about yourself. Get your girl to rub everything from your thighs and neck to your back and feet, and you'll figure out that there are more sexual triggers on your body than you ever thought possible. Switch up oral sex It's game time again. Because no one wants directions when they're doing their oral thing, what you can do instead is turn it into a game. Ask her to tell you exactly what to do when you go down on her, and then you can do the same. When it's your turn, get her to suck just the head, then the base, and then your testicles. You can even get her to take breaks away from your genitals and focus instead on licking your thighs or giving your anus a tickle with her tongue (if she's the "it's all good" type... and you've just showered).keep trying new things Sex is no longer new to you, but if you keep trying to discover the unknown, it can be. It's up to you to put forth the effort because sometimes your woman will assume that as long as she's touching your penis, you're satisfied. Until next time, keep her hands off your penis until you're ready to give it to her.

The Female Orgasm part 2

Awaken her body Now that you've managed to stir her mind, the rest is a matter of mechanics and technique. Relax her body Steering clear of her sexualized body parts, take a few minutes to give her a light massage that'll awaken her senses. Rub her shoulders, her back and her thighs -- lightly tap each area with your fingertips. Ignore her vagina The best way to encourage a woman's orgasm is by ignoring the area from where it originates for a while. Start rubbing her body more aggressively, kiss her body and go near her vaginal area without actually touching her inner lips (labia minora). Do the same to her nipples: kiss her breasts without actually placing your mouth over her nipples. Use your mouth & hands Spread her legs and bring your mouth to her clitoris. Use your tongue to lightly tap against it for a minute. Eventually, start pressing your tongue against her clitoris and the hood while you lick it. At this point, use your fingers to manipulate her vagina. Because you have more control with your fingers than you do with your penis, you can manipulate her clitoris and G-spot more easily. She may reach orgasm at this point.Do two things at once If you can, suck her nipples while your fingers are doing their thing inside her. Or, you can tickle the outskirts of her anus while you penetrate her. Accomplishing two tasks at once will confuse her senses and may lead to orgasm. Penetrate her This is a tough one because some women like quick thrusts, others prefer slow thrusts, and yet others like a combination of the two. I recommend that you do the latter. Start off with slow, deep thrusts and then increase your speed -- but not so much that you're no longer penetrating her deeply. If she responds in a positive fashion, place her in a position that will allow for full penetration. She may orgasm at this point. Use toys While many women will have reached orgasm at this point, some may not be able to. Remember; it's not your fault -- especially if you've tried all the aforementioned tips. It may be because she can't surrender her mind to the situation, or isn't as well-acquainted with her body as she should be. If that's the case, sex toys may help her discover the spot that drives her to orgasm. Start off with a simple vibrator and if you like the reaction you get, incorporate other toys into your sex life.there are no guarantees Like I mentioned before, because all women are different, what makes one reach orgasm may not work for another. It's up to you and her to keep the communication lines open about what you like and try your hand at a variety of sexual techniques. Until next time, keep her coming.

The Female Orgasm

Now we all know that every woman is different and there is no surefire method to guarantee the female orgasm. But there are ways to increase her chances of doing so and your chances of bringing her there. There is one thing that all women can definitely agree on when it comes to the female orgasm, however. If you can seduce their brains, chances are, their bodies will follow. And because an orgasmic woman is a happy woman, if you keep her sexually satisfied, she'll want more sex, which, in turn, will garner you more orgasms. So are you ready to make her splash? Seduce her mind If you want to make sure that her body surrenders, you must first have sex with her brain. Talk about sexual plans It's okay to get her mind going with visions about what you're going to do or what you imagine doing to her. Talking about sex is the first step in enriching your sex life.Reveal your fantasies In the spirit of talking about sex, you need to be open about your fantasies, within reason, of course. Tell her about the one in which she's stripping in a gentleman's club, for example, and you have no idea who she is, but she approaches you and begins silently seducing you with a dance in front of hundreds of men. In turn, you can ask her deep, probing questions and get her to reveal all the crazy things she imagines when her brain is wandering into the realm of female orgasm. Reminisce about past sexual experiences If you can recall a time when you made her waters fall, talk about it. By doing so, you will stir those feelings she experienced when she was reaching her peak. Make her feel sexy From getting her to put on lingerie to looking at her as though she was the hottest woman on Earth, making her feel sexy will make her feel sexual. Now, on to the techniques that'll make her orgasm...

7 Original Places To Touch Women

Men love sex. We do. And there's nothing wrong with that. Many women also love sex, although few of them quite as much as we do. If, however, you learn how to touch your woman in ways no man has ever touched her before, your chances of getting more sex from her will increase tenfold. That said, here are seven parts of her body you might want to head to before you get your freak on. Not only will you arouse her immensely, you'll show her that you know that sex isn't simply about penetration alone. 1- Spine While you should never massage the spine directly, feel free to use your tongue or fingers to glide up it every now and then. To drive her crazy, let your tongue graze over the little hairs on her back. Or, you can always use your fingers to tickle your way up to her neck. 2- Behind the neck Believe it or not, for some women, the back of the neck is the spot that makes them melt. Next time you kiss your girl, move her hair away from her neck (if applicable) and breathe on her neck, letting your lips graze against it before you kiss and then lightly bite into it. 3- Scalp While you're kissing your girl, put your hands on the back of her head and massage her scalp for a minute. Feel free to give her hair a little tug from the roots; it will heighten her senses. On to the other four parts you're probably ignoring...

Music That Enhances Sex part 2

Dance Considering you're doing your own horizontal dance, listening to some soft, original dance music will serve to make her sway her hips more so on your penis. Personally, I think this is the best kind of music to have sex to. Ethnic If you're the type of guy (or couple, rather) who enjoys trying out new things every so often, why not put on some bellydancing beats or soft Greek rhythms and let her show you what she's made of? If the music makes her feel sexy, she will proceed to show you exactly how sexy. Not to mention, penetration will definitely feel a little spicier. You can always start out the foreplay by dancing together and then you can, oops!, accidentally end up inside her. If you're in the mood to take things slowly up the foreplay department and move into penetration with ease, then jazz is the kind of music you might want to try out. If there's one kind of music that can get any woman in the mood, it's bossa nova. The Brazilian voices and eclectic music will leave any woman feeling happy and perhaps horny, and she'll be enjoying her orgasm in no time. As will you. play that funky music And there you have it; enough music to keep you sexually satisfied for at least a couple of months. Remember that although music can enhance sex and all its surrounding activities, you should try to adapt the beat to whatever you're doing with your girl. What I like to do is turn the volume up to make a woman comfortable enough to moan a little louder. Add some lighting and take your time, and before you know it, your woman will start turning on the stereo to give you the hint. Until next time, let the beat take over.

Music That Enhances Sex

When it comes to sex, you need to make sure you set the scene for the session. And what better way to do so than by using music to enhance the sexual experience? The kind of music you opt for is entirely up to you, but most guys (and women) will agree that death metal is out of the question. So, depending on the kind of sex you'd like to have, choose your music accordingly. But rather than opt for an album by a single artist, I recommend opting for compilation albums -- i.e. soundtracks and what have you. For now, here are some suggestions you might want to keep in mind the next time you happen into a music store. R&B The great thing about R&B music is that it usually comes with lyrics, so if there's something you want to tell her without actually saying it, you can say it with song. And if not, then let the men and women of this genre help you seduce her. Electronica If you like to chill out and go through various speeds and tempos while doing the deed, then this music will serve to give you and your girl exactly what you're looking for. This music, along with a good bottle of wine, can turn your session into something hypnotic.

9 Movies Women Can Enjoy

4- Caribbean Undercover Stars: Tera Patrick, Caroline Cage As they're being chased in the tropics by smugglers, a couple makes time for some hot, steamy sex. The scenes, both sexual and scenic, are awesome. 5- Touched For The First Time Stars: Jessica Drake, Asia Carrera As Jessica creates a sculpture of a naked man, he suddenly comes to life and they engage in some of the craziest sex she's ever imagined. You may get some great ideas here. 6- E-Love Wanted Stars: Natalia Wood, Elizabeth Lawrence After meeting on the Internet, a man and woman decide to meet in a park, where, as you can imagine, they begin engaging in all kinds of oral and vaginal sex. 7- The Trouble With Sex Stars: Taylor St. Clair, Wendy Divine In front of a roaring fire, a couple engages in some crazy sex while a man watches through the window. It's for the voyeur in all of us. 8- Thief Of Hearts Stars: Sunrise Adams, Nina Ferrari A movie that includes full on sex, as well as the use of toys, and a man who decides that watching a couple go at it might be an awesome idea. A great movie that gets graphic enough to keep you interested the whole time. 9- The Experiment In Sex Stars: Jenna Haze, Sondra Hall You can't go wrong with sex in a Jacuzzi; just ask any guy who's ever been on ElimiDATE . After all the sucking, licking, poking, and prodding is done, they do it all over again. watch and learn If you want more mainstream films to start, then check out another sex tip, but if you're ready to get naked and nastier with your girl, these are the movies for you. Until next time, just press play.

The All-Orgasmic Loveseat

Emily had been shopping all day. By lunch she'd seen so many furniture stores it felt as though she were becoming part of the furniture herself. "Can't we just get that leather one from Harvey's?" she asked her husband, Nick. "I really liked it." Nick dismissed her. "The colour's wrong. And it's way too expensive. Now, what do you think of this one?" As usual, he brushed her comments off and went to test-sit on a garish zebra-patterned monstrosity over by the porch swings. Emily rolled her eyes and sighed. She no longer cared about buying a new couch. All she wanted to do with take her shoes off and relax, maybe open a bottle of wine and get close to Nick like she hadn't done in... was it that long? It seemed an eternity since they'd actually sat and talked, longer since they'd made love in the tender fashion that left her breathless and close to tears with joy. Now he was always busy, always keen to acquire new things with his new-found wealth from his up-and-coming job. It wasn't how things were meant to be, but she'd kept thinking, It won't last long, he's just getting settled, things will be better soon. Watching him puff up cushions and bounce exuberantly on springs, she felt restless and frustrated. What's more, the coffee from an hour ago had done it's work, and the urge to pee was growing stronger by the minute. They never have public toilets in these places, she thought to herself, shifting from foot to foot. "Can we go soon?" she asked Nick, but he was grilling a sales assistant over possible discounts on the zebra. Finally unable to bear the pressure on her bladder, Emily sidled up to a female assistant and asked to use the staff toilet. "Sure," the woman smiled. "Just head down that corridor, turn left, and go through the door marked STAFF." Emily didn't bother to tell Nick where she was going; he wouldn't listen anyway. Hurrying down the corridor, she went through the STAFF door and emerged into another white hallway with several exits leading off it. Desperate, she accidentally opened a door marked PRIVATE STOREROOM, glimpsing numerous pieces of brightly coloured furniture before she ducked back out, and into the toilet. Relieved at last, she studied her face in the washroom mirror. She was attractive, she knew that. A number of men had propositioned her before Nick came along, and all because of her looks. She wondered what her life would be like if she'd accepted any of them... Back in the hallway, she was overcome by a whimsical desire to look at the furniture in the private storeroom. Imagine if she found the ideal couch, all by herself! Indeed, out of the corner of her eye she'd spotted a strange looking red velvet armchair that she wouldn't mind sitting in, if only to rest her feet for a moment. Checking to make sure the hall was deserted, Emily quietly slipped into the dim storeroom and studied the luminously upholstered chairs and sofas. The designs were experimental, without doubt. Some didn't seem to fit the role of couch at all. Again, the scarlet armchair in the corner caught her eye. It was covered in lush velvet, and the shape of it seemed more like a frozen wave, or a pair of lips, than a piece of furniture. The curved headrest seemed designed to comfort and reassure, while the seat cushion looked ready to accept any weight with pleasure. She padded over, slipped off her shoes, and guiltily sat down. Immediately the chair embraced her; it was soft and encompassing, like she'd just sat down in a blob of red jelly. The luxurious fabric caressed her skin. She sank back, sighing, and the chair welcomed her further into its folds. Closing her eyes, she let a feeling of blissful relaxation wash over her. Moments later, she realised the chair was moving. The backrest had begun to squirm rhythmically, gently massaging her lumbar area, while another cushion attended to the sore muscles around her neck. With a barely audible clicking sound, the footrest automatically sprung up, lifting her bare feet off the ground. It too began to move, vibrating against her tired calves. Emily couldn't keep the grin off her face. Now this was a comfortable chair! It had only been a few minutes, yet she felt completely enveloped in pleasure, the red velvet cushions surrounding her and pleasantly touching her flesh. A bizarre idea struck her. Wouldn't it be fabulous to sit in this chair naked? She brushed the thought away; it was ridiculous to even think it. Nonetheless, as the massage relaxed her further, and as the velvet inflamed her nerves, she began to seriously toy with the idea. It would be nice... sexy, even. The whole back area had seemed deserted, and no-one knew she was in here. Even if she only did it for a minute, it wouldn't hurt, would it? She grinned. What the hell. Just for a minute. Almost giggling to herself with guilty pleasure, Emily slipped her skirt and blouse off, letting them fall to the floor nonchalantly. Her underwear followed, and she lay back into the squirming armchair with exquisite joy. Now the velvet was tickling her buttocks and fondling her back, and a new movement began underneath her thighs. Curious, she opened her legs and let the chair massage the inside of her thighs. Aroused by her own daring, she could feel wetness forming between her slightly parted pussy lips. She glanced around carefully; the room was still deserted. With small movements, she eased her hand down to her clit and gently began to tease herself, dipping her finger into her vagina and carefully smoothing the wetness around her cunt. Suddenly, the chair ceased movement, and she was startled into a moment of panic. She half leapt out of the chair, reaching for her clothes and looking desperately around for possible salespeople. To her relief, she remained alone, and sank back into the chair, sighing. Her hand found a previously unseen control panel on the armrest, and she absently pressed a button, wondering what it did. Abruptly the cushion beneath her began to move. She heard faint whizzings, and without warning large leather clamps emerged from the leg and arm rests, grabbing her limbs and pulling her firmly back into the soft grasp of the chair. She was held fast, her legs open, her arms unable to fight. Before she could think of how to respond, something emerged from the seat cushion and positioned itself between her legs. It seemed mechanical, but it moved with the fluidity of an octopus arm. The best description she could think of was a mechanical tongue. It turned out to be a good description. Without pausing, the tongue-thing moved forward and gently began to lick her. With even strokes, it lapped at her clitoris with a surety of purpose, as though it had been waiting an eternity just to touch her. Occasionally it swirled its way around her entire cunt before returning to her clitoris, licking it with just the exact pressure and position as she had always liked. Emily didn't scream. She was too busy moaning. Within instants she'd gone from shocked surprise to absolute pleasure. As if sensing her reaction, the chair began to massage her again, adding to her enjoyment of the strange situation. Her hand moved to the control panel again, and she pushed another button. This time a second, fluidic extension emerged from the cushion and promptly nuzzled itself into her dripping vagina. Now she could barely keep herself from gasping. The second arm filled her, pressing upwards towards her g-spot and moving in and out, while the tongue continued its steady lapping, determined to exceed in giving her a stronger orgasm than she'd ever had before. She writhed and her heart beat loud in her ears. She felt the control panel at her fingers, and guessed what the third button would do. Eagerly, she pressed it. A smaller, thinner extension propelled itself from the chair and inched its way into her ass, vibrating as it went. This time she yelped. It was ridiculous that her body could feel this good without exploding. The tongue lapped, the fluidic penis probed, and the ass thing... well, she had no idea what it was doing. But it all felt amazing. She closed her eyes and tried not to come too soon. She didn't want to waste this experience. But the pressure was building. She opened them again, just to see if there was a slow switch on the control panel, and saw a male sales assistant standing before her, his half-shadowed handsome face watching her intently. Shocked, she wanted to get up, but the chair chose that moment to increase its rhythm. Slave to her own pleasure, she was wrenched into a massive orgasm, the waves of intense feeling making her cry out and leaving her almost dazed in the aftermath. For a few moments she simply lay there, unable to do anything except pant quietly. The leather restraints released, and the massage and vibrations died. Then the horrible realisation hit her: a man had just watched her, prostrate and naked, have sex with a chair. Oh my god. She didn't want to open her eyes again, but she couldn't just sit there and hope he'd go away. Lifting one eyelid, she saw he was still there, and now he was smiling. Through her embarrassment, she couldn't help but notice how friendly his smile was. She tried to sit up, but the cushions still held her. Gently, the man stepped forward and helped her up. His skin against hers was smooth and tanned. "I'm Jason. I invented that chair." She was lost for words, standing naked and flushed before him. He regarded her happily. "I think you've proved it works. Couldn't have arranged a better test if I'd paid someone." His blue eyes sparkled with success. She grasped for a reply. "Jason? As in Jason Recliner?" He laughed. "No. Although perhaps I should change my name. And perhaps you should get dressed." He pointed at her crumpled heap of clothes, neglected on the floor. She dressed awkwardly. He didn't turn away, but studied her cheerfully as she buttoned her blouse. At last she thought of something to say. "I'm sorry. I shouldn't have been in here. I was tired... I just thought I'd sit down for a while..." "Do not concern yourself. It was a good decision, was it not? Of course, you'll have to buy the chair now." "I'll have to...?" "Well, it's not really a 'try-before-you-buy' kind of thing, is it?" Jason said. "But-" She stopped herself, and turned to look at the armchair, quiet now and looking for all the world like a normal piece of furniture. She thought of how much pleasure it had just given her. Buying it didn't seem such a bad idea. "Of course. I'd like to buy it. But is it the only one? Do you have any others?" "That's the prototype. But if it's that successful, I can make plenty more. I think you've shown how well it works. Just tell Bob the sales assistant to sell you the Loveseat. He'll know what to do." Emily did her best to straighten her hair, tried to look presentable for her return to the showroom. She had no intention of telling Nick what had happened, nor of letting him know what their new Loveseat was capable of. She turned to go, yet something held her. "Do you make any other kind of 'loveseat' Mr Recliner?" she asked with a half smile. He returned her grin. "I've got a few plans still on the drawing board." "I'll leave my name and number with Bob," Emily grinned. "Let me know when you need another test done."

9 Movies Women Can Enjoy

While most guys are happy to watch Jenna doing her thing with the boys and girls of the pornography industry, it seems that most women would prefer to watch sex in its more standard state. That is, a man and a woman (or two women) getting it on without any close-ups of ass pimples. The hard part, however, is to tell a woman what you'd like them to do in bed. So, to make this easier on you, I've selected some adult movies you could enjoy together in order to step up foreplay and sex with your girl. But if you wish to pick from a wider selection of skin flicks, you can go ahead and select your own from WantedList.com. Either way, enjoy the entertainment... 1- Insatiable Stars: Marilyn Chambers, Jessie St. James This is a movie about a beautiful woman who fulfills all of her sexual fantasies. Of course, this may serve to inspire your girl to get a little nastier with you, and perhaps even invite one of her sexy friends into the mix. 2- Justine Stars: Justine, Aria Giovanni If your girl is interested in watching girl-on-girl action, or, better yet, is thinking about calling up a friend to join in on the fun, this movie could give her a few pointers as to what to do and how to do it right. 3- Zazel Stars: Sasha Vinni, Anna Romeo Although this one is quite artsy, the women in it are hot and the actual fantasy scenes will do a good job of turning you and your woman on. Give it a look. On to more films that'll get her going...

6 Fragrances That Turn Women On

All five senses are incredibly important when it comes to sex, for obvious reasons. And if you want to ensure that your woman will let you have your way, or better yet, that she'll want to take charge, try using the power of scents to sway her. The following fragrances usually work well with women. Of course, there are many ways in which you can radiate such scents from your location, including: Incense Candles Aroma jars Oils Room spray Leaving pheromones by the wayside for this article, here are some other scents that tend to arouse the senses and make women feel like taking a ride. 1- Vanilla Like the smell of chocolate, vanilla has a sweet, welcoming scent. Its odor increases sexual stimulation in both men and women. So the next time you're ready to get sexual with your girl, invest in a vanilla candle or burn some oil to set the mood.2- Patchouli Patchouli has received much positive press in recent years, all thanks to its ability to make people horny. Okay, maybe not, but it does smell awesome. Experts believe that it awakens and provokes sexual energy and every little bit helps, so experience the scent via incense sticks. Burn one today. 3- Musk Although musk is known to closely resemble the scent of male pheromones, what should concern you significantly is the fact that musk will quite possibly drive her crazy. So invest in some cologne that lists musk as a main ingredient and let her do the rest. If you don't want the cologne, there are incense sticks, as well as oils, available. 4- Peppermint Ah, that minty fresh scent. Peppermint is believed to help you stay awake, alert and energized; that's always a good thing when it comes to sex. This might also encourage your girl to try something new in the bedroom. You can opt to emit the scent via a candle, incense or oil. 5- Ylang Ylang Have you ever smelled ylang ylang? It really does smell like sex is about to take place. So if you're in the mood for some erotic sex, burn some oil or buy some room spray. But be careful; this fresh scent is known to encourage verbal communication.6- Jasmine With its subtle scent, jasmine has the ability to open the other senses to new experiences. If you want to seduce her, use jasmine in an oil or incense. let's get funky You are in no way limited to the scents listed here. If there's a certain scent that you know turns your girl on, then use it. You can incorporate anything from the smell of pasta to the scent of sweat into your sex life... if that's what works for her. Until next time, entice her nose and the rest of her body will follow suit.

The Art Of Foot Play part 2

Penetrate the feet No, don't try to hump her feet; rather, apply slightly more pressure to certain parts of her feet with your fingers. This is essentially reflexology. Place some massage oil (or even baby oil) into your hands and rub them together. Rub your thumbs in circular motions from the heel to the toe. Then, with your hand gently press your knuckles in the soles of her feet. Once you've done this for a few minutes, do each toe individually by placing each one between your thumb and forefinger and rubbing it. When you're done with each toe, give it a slight tug. After that, rub the sides of her feet with your fingertips (thumb on one side, other four fingers on the other). Before you finish up, use both hands to lightly stroke your way from heel to toe. Suck her toes Toe sucking, or "shrimping," is an acquired taste, no doubt, but I believe that you should try everything at least once before you decide that you don't like it. So here goes. Start slow; first, kiss her ankle and work your way down to the top part of her foot. Keep kissing it, occasionally sticking out your tongue to lick certain areas. Then, when you're ready, head to the big toe (not immediately after painting it, of course).Because the big toe is, well, the biggest and the easiest to maneuver into your mouth, start by kissing around it and slowly wrap your mouth around it. While your mouth is covering it, use your tongue to lick it all around. If you're enjoying yourself, move on to the other toes one at a time, or put a few in your mouth at a time. Then, when you're ready, move to the sole of her foot and lick around it. Gently wrap your lips around the sides of her feet. Don't bite at any point. Try the 69 If your girl loves to reciprocate or you think it would be great to get a little toe sucking of your own, then get into the 69 position and, instead of facing each other's genitals, face each other's feet. See the "Suck her toes" tip (above) and do the same thing. this little piggy Sometimes, when sex begins to dull somewhat, it takes a creative mind to keep it interesting. That's where I come in and tell you about how to play with a woman's feet. Then again, playing with her feet can be something completely separate. You can use foot massages and toe sucking as a prelude to sex, or simply to help her relax. So until next time, knock her off her feet.

The Art Of Foot Play

Many a man has obsessed over a beautiful pair of women's feet. Of course, it doesn't have to be a fetish for you to appreciate them. But chances are that if you're interested in today's tip, you may be a foot fetishist soon enough. While for some, the idea of someone's feet in their mouth is disgusting -- we do, after all, spend all day abusing them, and they're stuffed in a pair of shoes -- the feet are nevertheless a great source of power, as the nerve endings can be linked to every part of the body (reflexology's ideology is that the foot's surface is linked to the entire body and that particular points on the feet are linked to particular organs and glands). Now, while foot preferences vary greatly -- some guys like dirty feet, others big feet -- today's tip is going to focus on what you can do to a woman's foot to make her toes curl... literally and figuratively. For argument's sake, her feet are clean, fresh and haven't touched the ground. start out small If you're not a big fan of wrapping your mouth around a woman's foot, you don't have to. There are plenty of ways to treat her feet without having to compromise what you're into. Baby steps, dude, baby steps.Paint her nails You might think that painting a chick's toes is a sign that you're whipped (it's cool, just tell her you have to sex afterwards to reaffirm your masculinity), but what's amazing is that this method of "foreplay" drives women wild. According to the ladies, watching a man focus on keeping the nail polish on the toenail drives them wild. Unfortunately, they expect you to allow the nails to dry before having sex. Rub her feet Pour some cream into your hand, rub your hands together and then massage her feet. Don't squeeze the cream directly onto her feet -- apparently it feels cold. Use your entire hands to rub her feet from ankle to toes, toes to ankle, then back down to toes. Then rub each toe individually by squeezing slightly on the ball of each one. And don't ignore the top and sides of each foot; they're just as important as the soles. This foot massage will help you assess whether or not she's ticklish. If she's extremely ticklish, chance are you can either perform a pressure massage or she won't let you touch her feet ever again. Now it's time to try using your mouth...

Be A Better Kisser

Show that energy Although it's difficult to show energy in a kiss without making it seem like you're on the set of a soap opera, you can kiss her deeply and passionately, and make her feel like she's the only woman in the world who matters to you. If the moment allows, you can let out a light moan while you're kissing her, or you can stop kissing her and look at her before you continue again. Or better yet, when you approach to kiss her, let your lips come close to hers without touching them for a second before you press your lips against hers. Kiss different areas You're not restricted to her mouth; feel free to kiss other parts of her face like her earlobes, cheeks, eyebrows, or even just one lip at a time. You can even make your way down to her neck, collarbone, shoulders, and her hands and wrists. What's more important than the kiss itself, however, is how it's presented. Whether you stick your tongue out to lick her lips or you open your mouth and then close your lips on her skin, make sure that you show her that you desire her.kissing technique Now I'm not going to lecture you on your technique, but when you go in for the smack, here are a few more kissing tips: Don't focus just on the lips or, worse, one of her lips; get inside her mouth and massage her tongue Don't bite her lips or her tongue, unless she's into that Don't suck her tongue or lips Keep your tongue soft and let her tongue lead yours at times Don't give her a soap opera kiss; i.e., not using your tongue and constantly swaying your head from side to side Make sure your lips are soft and your mouth is moist get wet So there you have it; now you know what it takes to make a woman melt. Until next time, kiss every woman with all you got.

Be A Better Kisser

You may not believe it, but if you're on a date with a woman and things are going well, when you lean in to kiss her, that may determine whether or not you'll be having sex with her that night. The right kiss can make a woman want you like never before. The wrong kiss can leave you holding your balls. It's up to you to perfect your skills. Of course, every woman likes to be kissed differently, but there is something all women have in common: they like to feel as though whomever's kissing them feels an intense passion for them. That said, here are some tips to ensure that your girl's lips feel your heat: Use the setting Although you won't always be able to find that perfect location, sometimes opportunities present themselves, and if you learn when to take advantage of them, you may just imprint the moment into your girl's psyche forever. The next time you're in the park in autumn, near the shore at sunset, or even stopped at a traffic light in the car, grab your girl, hold her tight and give her a soft, moist kiss for a few seconds. Not only will you be thought of as spontaneous, but the right setting will give her romantic notions a serious kick, and she will recount the moment to anyone who's willing to listen.Make some hand maneuvers Although your lips do most of the work, where you place your hands is of utmost importance as well. A few things you can do with them while you're kissing her include: Caress her back slowly Hold her waist Cup her face with both hands Hold her chin with one hand Lightly pull the back roots of her hair Intertwine your fingers with hers Do something with your hands rather than just focus all your attention on your mouths. On to an energetic attitude and all the places you can place your lips...

Letting Her Play With Your Backside part 2

finger action Before you get started, you obviously need to clean up, so opt to take a shower together. Cleanliness is key. In fact, you can even perform this act in the shower because it's warm and relaxing. She can start things off by moving her tongue around your anus or even stick it in a little bit -- this is called rimming. It feels exceptionally good to masturbate while she's doing this. It's a matter of preference, however, so perhaps she can alternate between oral sex and anal play. Once you feel comfortable and aroused, she can apply some lube to her index finger. Absolutely, definitely, always use water-based lubrication. It allows for easier entry. Once you're sexually stimulated, your muscles will relax fully. The best way to ensure that you do so (relax, that is) is to lie down and let your girl have her way with you. She should rub around your anus with some lube then slowly slide her finger up there about three inches (almost her whole finger), palm facing up. This may feel strange at first, but it shouldn't hurt. Once in, she should bend her finger in a "come hither" motion to stroke your prostate repeatedly. If it feels good, let her know with a moan.If she's able to either perform oral sex or manually stimulate your penis simultaneously, that'd be awesome. a toy back there For the anal veteran of sorts, a dildo or butt plug works wonders for stimulation. Such toys serve to stimulate your anus and prostate, and leave her hands free to stimulate other parts of your body. Sex shops sell anal toys that are smaller and curved for such occasions. So be aware of your entire panorama of sexual options and experiment if you feel like it. You'll never know how good something may or may not feel until you try it. Before inserting any toy, you need to feel relaxed. You wouldn't penetrate your girl without foreplay (at least most of the time), so inserting anything into your body before you're ready to is not a good idea. From licking and stroking to kissing and using fingers, your lady needs to relax all of you, including your anus. The secret here is to take things slowly. After your muscles are sufficiently relaxed, she can begin to manipulate the toy to stimulate your prostate.give your back the finger Anal play can be a very fulfilling kinky experience. So take it on back and have a good time.

Letting Her Play With Your Backside

I know. I know. It can be downright terrifying to see the words "men" and "anal" used in the same sentence. And although some men will definitely never be comfortable with the idea, it's a very normal, acceptable sexual practice to stimulate the male G-spot, or prostate, during sex. In fact, any guy who's ever had the pleasure of experiencing the sensation knows that having a woman play with his G-spot can increase the intensity of his orgasms tenfold. So don't be afraid to let your woman school you in backdoor politics, especially if you want to get into your baby's back. women warm up to the zone Many women welcome this act and are quite into it. You should be talking openly about sex with your woman as it is, so mentioning that you're up for the idea of some anal play can definitely work in your, and her, favor. Just as you enjoy giving her powerful orgasms, surely your girl would like nothing more than to intensify yours.why it feels so good A man's prostate gland is responsible for manufacturing some of the contents of seminal fluid in ejaculation. It's a walnut-sized and somewhat rigid mound of flesh located between your testicles and your anus, right next to your rectum. When stroked, it can give you an extra-intense orgasm. In fact, it's possible to have an orgasm through nothing but prostate stimulation. Placing a finger or a curved toy inside the rectum is the best direct way to get to it. But enough technical talk. Let's find out how your lady can play with this special organ...

The Erotic Power Of Scent part 2

trigger her scent memory As the TV commercial states, scent is the strongest sense tied to memory. What does this mean? If you can stimulate her nose with a scent all your own, it's like writing your name on that little tiny part of her brain! Here's one way: Let her borrow a scarf sprayed with your distinctive cologne before she goes to work. Then every time she sniffs it, you'll be lodged in her memory. Or let your girlfriend sleep in your T-shirts (especially if you live apart). That way, even when you can't be there, you'll be on her mind. pheromones Though much has been made of pheromones (the substance that mammals make that is supposed to sexually arouse the opposite sex), word is that because humans don't have a typical response or reaction to them, it's difficult to assess whether or not they are working. A few years ago, scientists declared that the Vomeronasal Organ (VNO -- the pheromone receptor) is mostly inactive in humans, but that still doesn't mean they don't work. What it does mean is that although pheromones do exist, there is really no conclusive evidence that we can get someone to react to them. So even though the general consensus is that colognes spiked with pheromones are a load of hooey, this doesn't stop many manufacturers from claiming they'll attract women. You'll just have to find out for yourself if she responds to these odors. And hey, every bit of help counts.get into her nose & her head And one last word -- keep smelly stuff like shoes, dirty laundry, animal bowls, and litter boxes segregated away from your living room and bedroom. Hit these unholy smells with some baking soda, the ultimate smell neutralizer, if you find them lurking about. That way you can clear the air for more satisfying fragrances. If you can please her nose, you're all the closer to pleasing her body, mind and soul. The right scent can put her in the mood for sex instantly. You'd be well-advised to find out what that magic scent is and stockpile it.

The Erotic Power Of Scent

When trying to woo a lady, pleasant odors can make all the difference. Common sense, right? Well, scientific research has suggested that women possess a keener sense of smell than we do. So even if you don't notice certain smells, chances are she will. Follow the tips below to remove the bad odors, and replace them with stimulating ones on your body and in your living space. make your body fragrant Nothing washes away unwanted odors like shower gel. Get one with a theme, like Ulysse by Vicky Tiel or Ralph Lauren Safari, instead of a regular bar of soap. Then you need to choose a light signature smell. Apply sparingly. Try placing dabs of cologne in unusual spots for her to discover.scents for sex One way to give your sheets a distinctively sensual odor is to use scented fabric softener in addition to detergent. Downy makes three female-friendly fabric softener scents: water lily and jasmine, morning glory and honeysuckle, and vanilla and lavender. This is one way to set yourself apart. When you suspect you're going to have sex, light up a scented candle. There is an endless variety to choose from and each has a different intended effect. Here are a few: Lemon or orange citrus: reduces fatigue and nervousness, uplifting and refreshing Jasmine: aphrodisiac, said to induce euphoria Rose: aphrodisiac scent for females Ylang-ylang: sexually arousing spicy-smelling Indonesian flower Sandalwood: heightens sexual excitement by simulating the parasympathetic nervous system, which is dominant during sexual arousal What can work better than candles are fragrant oil-infused candles or oil diffusers that rest on your lamp bulb to send drifts of calming scents throughout the room.

What To Do When You're Not In The Mood part 2

If you didn't sleep well or you worked out too hard, here's what you gotta do... You didn't sleep well the night before After you pull an all-nighter, it's pretty ambitious to try anything involving a bed beyond sleeping like a baby. But sometimes, when duty calls, you gotta perform. What to do beforehand: Although it's the obvious pick-me-up, caffeine just ain't gonna work here. Caffeine is known to shrink your erection or thwart lift-off completely. So avoid it and instead drink water. H2O wakes you up when you're waning and won't mess with your stick. An energy drink may also be of use here. What to do in bed: What you need to do is cut to the chase with a passionate quickie. Shorten the foreplay, forget multiple positions and concentrate on the good part -- the climax. Soon enough, she'll be pleased and so will you.You're exhausted from physical activity Okay, maybe you didn't complete the triathlon, but if you're a normal guy, two miles on the treadmill can make you feel like it. Feeling physically spent will really limit your options for sex, so you need to either recuperate in a hurry or depend on her to pick up the slack. What to do beforehand: Drink an energy drink like Red Bull, SoBe or PimpJuice to get your juices pumping. Figure out which one of the many revitalizing concoctions out there has the optimal effect on you. What to do in bed: Once you're in bed with her, get a little lazy and let her spoil you. She can do most of the work this time. And there are lots of things she can do with almost no effort from you: fellatio, her on top, etc. You get the picture. You take medication Medication can make you tired and weak, and leave you feeling sexually frustrated. Painkillers and anti-depressants are the major culprits here. These substances can clear-cut your sex drive and saw down your penis performance like Paul Bunyan in the Amazon rainforest. What to do beforehand: Some doctors advocate skipping doses of your medication if you have trouble achieving sexual satisfaction. Obviously, check with your physician first to make sure this is okay to do. What to do in bed: A lot of times, if medication is hampering your main vein, you're working on borrowed time. Once 10 to 15 minutes go by, you could be out of luck. Moral of the story? Try to get the job done fast if you're at risk of losing your erection. Hit it while you're hot. get the most done, with the least effort If you play your cards right, the sex doesn't have to suffer because you ran out of gas after a long day. This is your chance to work on your foreplay skills. Tease her, try to make her come, make her wait for penetration -- then keep it short. Stick to the essentials and don't get too fancy.

What To Do When You're Not In The Mood

You're about to hop between the sheets with a lovely Tyra Banks look-alike, but your energy level is at an all-time low. Maybe you worked out earlier that day or eight strenuous hours at the office pilfered the last of your vigor. What can you do to have pleasurable sex despite feeling sluggish? It's time to call on the sex solutions listed below. You feel stuffed, bloated Steak, gravy, potatoes, greens, and dessert -- not to mention the wine you sucked down during your marathon dinner -- have left you feeling stuffed out of your gut. You're feeling full and are not exactly in the mood for love. What to do beforehand: Take an antacid to clear up indigestion and that too-full feeling. Then move around some and get active to digest. Or you can stall her by watching a feature-length film. By the time the credits roll, your meal should be good and digested. If you're feeling gassy, go to the bathroom to evacuate before things get hot and heavy.What to do in bed: If you're still lethargic, use a vibrator to get her started. Some guys are threatened by these little devices, but they're really a blessing in disguise when you don't feel like doing anything laborious. Just think of it like a power tool; it's just making your life easier. By the time you take over for your little battery-powered stand-in, she'll be very happy to welcome you in. You're tipsy Drinking and sex go hand in hand; unfortunately drinking and erections sometimes don't. So this can present a major obstacle when opportunity knocks on your bedroom door. What to do beforehand: Walk it off with a couple of laps around the neighborhood or do some exercises, like a few push-ups, to regain your sobriety. And drink a big glass of water too. What to do in bed: Use your fingers or a vibrator to stimulate her before you try for penetration. Or perform oral sex if you're sure you're not even the slightest bit queasy. When you actually begin having sex, try to focus on finishing in a timely fashion. Close your eyes and think of the hottest, craziest sex you've ever had. Help yourself get the job done.

Persuade Her To Fulfill Your Fantasies

During the course of a relationship, there comes that point where you feel just comfortable enough to put yourself in grave danger of sexually ennui. That means it's time to push the envelope and try to extend your bedroom repertoire beyond that precious comfort level. But exactly how do you get your woman to do certain things in bed? Well, the same way you get your boss, friends and parents to do things. You use subtle hints, reverse psychology and favor trading. Of course, you'll want to do these things without applying any pressure on her or you just might muss up the relationship. So follow the blueprints below to get her to participate in each of these activities. 1- Groom herself Show her, ever so subtly, the ins and outs of how pubic hair gets in the way of cunnilingus. Next time you perform oral sex on her, pause for a moment as you remove a hair from your mouth. It's extremely important to do this discreetly, without drawing unnecessary attention to it. There's no room for overkill here, unless you fancy a slap in the face. Just limit yourself to stopping briefly in the middle of it; she'll notice something is wrong, and when you inconspicuously remove the hair, she'll put two and two together.Another thing to do is trim yourself and let her take notice. If she doesn't say anything about it, then make a comment in passing to ensure she notices and sees how fresh and clean you have become. 2- Give fellatio more often & for longer Make sure you're vocal when she does something you like. She needs to know that she's pleasing you so moan suggestively. Just don't overdo it. Secondly, you must always be freshly showered down there if you want her to put her mouth anywhere near your penis. No excuses. Just be clean. It's a poorly-kept secret that most women love oral sex as much as most of us do. So be ready to reciprocate. Oh yeah, and when it's over, don't forget to mention how much you enjoyed it.3- Accept anal sex The next time you're in the midst of a foreplay session, start by putting some warming lube on your fingers, then begin by using your fingers on her vagina and slowly move to her anus, probing it lightly with your fingers to see how she responds. If she is open to the idea, then you can pursue it. Treat her to a massage that will relax her and get her ready to do more. Have a few alcoholic drinks together to help loosen you both up, mentally and physically. Watch an adult film that touches on the topic of anal sex. This could spur at least a discussion. And who knows, maybe she'll be intrigued. You can find many of these quality movies at WantedList.com. Catch the Showtime reality show Family Business, which is about pornographer Seymour Butts. This can make it seem like anal sex is not that taboo anymore, and that many couples engage in it.

The Best Things To Say To Women In Bed part 2

"You're so good at [insert action here]." Let her know when she's doing something you like. Like us, women take special pride in being good in bed. This phrase is best said with an air of disbelief and an emphasis on "so." "Your skin is so soft and smooth." Ladies spend a lot of time rubbing things such as cocoa butter on their bodies after a shower. It's time we appreciated this strange ritual with a well-placed compliment. Because this is a seductive remark, it's best to say it before sex. However this could also double for use during pillow talk, taking the place of "Honey, I want to buy you the Benz." "I want to kiss every inch of you." Women love foreplay and they love to be pampered. Even if you don't actually intend on kissing every inch of her body, she'll know your heart is in the right place. What you're telling her is that you love and appreciate all of her. It's very comforting to hear."I've never felt this good before." Women love to be singled out as special, different and unique. If she does something to you in bed that has never been done so pleasurably before, tell her as much. Say it so sincerely that she thinks you're going to name your car after her. Just don't trip up and say something like "It's the best ever," which would be overdoing it. "You're so *(expletive)* hot!" Straightforward is often the best way to go. And swearing is one way to tell her that you really mean it. Women often respect the take-charge John Wayne routine.dirty talk There are two ways to talk dirty: aggressive and tame. Aggressive, in which you order her around and even degrade her a little bit. You must start small and feed off of her reactions and replies. Tame, in which you comment on her body and things you imagine doing to her without using any derogatory words. Be sure to gauge how she reacts to what you say. If you've been dating for months and suddenly break out the dirty talk in bed, she might be a little taken aback by your potty mouth. choose your words wisely It shouldn't come as a shock that women love men who say all the right things. It's the second best way they like us to use our tongues. So study the phrases above and adapt them to your own ends.

The Best Things To Say To Women In Bed

Women are verbal creatures at heart. That's why they read erotica, get hooked on soaps and love men with foreign accents. These things make them feel the same way we do when we spot a beautiful woman with huge breasts. Though what excites them is drastically different from what arouses us, there's good news there. If you can paint a picture with a few choice words, you can turn them on. So it's in our best interests to learn to say the right things. With that in mind, here are the best things to say to a lady once you separate her from those pesky clothes. "I want to make you feel good." Simple, yet effective. A wonderful way to relax her and reassure her that she made the right decision going to bed with you. Drop this one right before or during foreplay for maximum effect. "I love the sounds you make when you orgasm." If you know your girl well and know that she does, indeed, orgasm, then this one is for you. And sometimes, even if she does orgasm, a woman feels awkward being vocal during sex. But most of us like a loud woman in bed, because it helps us to know when you're pleasing her. So you can encourage her to turn up the volume by telling her how much you enjoy it."You have such (a) hot [insert body part]." Pick a favorite body part to mention, but make it one you know she's proud of. That way, there's no controversy. Women are notorious for being sensitive to clumsy compliments about their bodies, so tread carefully. "I love the way you taste. I could stay down here for hours." This reassures her that you like giving her oral sex and that there are no foul odors emanating from that area. You can say this one during a short break from oral sex or directly afterwards. It probably comes off best when said in a gravely, semi-exhausted voice. "What are you imagining right now?" This will encourage her to talk about her sexual desires and participate in setting the mood. The idea here is to let her release any bottled-up fantasies or requests that she would otherwise not mention. "This feels so good. I love it when you [insert action here]." Again, this is meant to boost her comfort level (and ego) with a little positive feedback. And, hey, if she knows you like something, perhaps she'll take note for future reference.

Factors That Affect Your Hardness part 2

hardness challenge 2: stress Stress is everywhere in our lives, and its impact on a mans sex life is quantifiable. Getting the career on track, the daily work grind, shopping, food preparation, travel, a new job, family, a new baby, and the illness or death of a parent or loved one tend to put a damper on a mans ability to have -- or want -- sex. When stress starts to take over, a physical response occurs: normal hormonal release is slowed, which eventually impacts testosterone, the master male hormone. Even the heartiest of sexual appetites can become deflated. Blood flow also slows, and that means less blood to flow into the specialized chambers in the penis, which depend on the blood for erections. Unfortunately, life cannot exist without stress. Distress is manifested in sexual, sleeping or eating issues. Thats when its time to go to the doctor. Nearly all of my patients complain about stress levels and the deep concerns they have about stress impact in their sex lives.Hardness Factor solution Just 30 minutes of daily exercise triggers a variety of hormones that relax the body and boost the immune system -- and this helps lower stress levels considerably. In addition, you need to find ways to put stress in its proper place. Not all problems are of equal weight, and figuring out which situation is really worth worrying about helps to put things in perspective. It comes down to this: In order to limit the effects of stress, focus more on the various solution possibilities, rather than the problem itself. If it can be readily fixed or helped, it is usually not worth the negative hardness and health implications, or the mental energy needed to deal with the so-called problem. hardness challenge 3: sleep apnea Sleep apnea is a common respiratory disorder that affects 4% to 9% of adult males. Its most common manifestation is loud snoring and interrupted breathing as a man literally gasps for breath when his air passages close off. These sessions can occur several hundred times a night, resulting in sleep problems and excessive daytime sleepiness. The typical patient is mael, overweight and middle-aged. Large neck size is a risk factor; sufferers tend to have a collar size larger than 16.5 inches. Excessive alcohol consumption and chronic use of sleeping pills can compound the problem. Put down that beer! Heres how alcohol affects your performance in the bedroom

Factors That Affect Your Hardness

hardness challenge 1: impact of aging When you were a teenager, an erection would appear just by thinking about, well, just by thinking. Most men have embarrassing stories of erections occurring at the wrong time and the wrong place -- such as sitting on a crowded bus and having to stand and get off at the next stop. But the passage of time has a way of changing things for all parts of the body, including the penis. At 21, putting a condom on is never a problem, for the penis is literally hard as steel. It throbs and even points upward when fully erect. By 40, it is a different story for many. Yes, the penis is still hard, but certainly not like it was 20 years earlier. Over time, a man loses some of his Hardness Factor as nerve connections deteriorate. The penis may now point slightly downward or to the side. For some, it takes more than a hint or a sexual fantasy to develop a full erection. Testosterone levels start to decline slightly in the 40s and the arousal system now needs more help. By 40 or 50, putting a condom on may actually cause a man to lose his erection. Direct touch to the skin of the penis may be required, so the partner has to take the lead here or provide more caressing of the penis during lovemaking. Ejaculations also take longer and are beginning to lose their power. The refractory period, the time between ejaculations, begins to stretch to 20 minutes or more.In addition to lower testosterone levels, growth hormone and the related hormone, DHEA, also begin to drop. With them go a mans sex drive, replaced by impotence, an increase in body fat and weight, depression, mood swings, decreased muscle strength, and oftentimes a general decrease in well-being and health. Hardness Factor solution Problems with hardness, although common as a man ages, are not inevitable, nor are they a natural part of aging. Erections may certainly start to lose their hardness as a man gets older, and many men do not get past half-mast by the time they are 50. The fact is, if you want a great sex life at 35, 40, 50, and beyond, you can still have it. Physical changes that have a major impact on sexual performance are typically related to lifestyle issues -- and these can all be addressed: the sooner, the better. The best way to ensure a robust sex life in your 50s and 60s is to learn how to increase your hardness in your 30s and 40s. Awareness of these issues -- as well as ones that affect your partner, such as vaginal dryness -- will enable a man to maximize his pleasure. If a man develops consistent hardness problems, there may be an underlying disease process of some kind at fault. The good news, however, is that with the Hardness Factor Six-Week Program, these problems are generally reversible through lifestyle changes and supplementation. For those with more advanced disease, there are always the prescription erection medications to boost hardness.

Make The Most Of Her Pressure Points In Bed part 2

Bigger Stream Where it's located: This point is in the indent of her outer anklebone, between the ankle and the Achilles tendon. How to stimulate the area: Place your fingers on the area rub for 30 seconds. Pressing it releases energy and is believed to produce powerful feelings of pleasure. When to use it: Do this when she's in reverse girl-on-top position. Hold each point while she's thrusting. Bubbling Spring Where it's located: This erotic pressure point is located on the bottom of the feet, 2/3 of the distance from the heel to the ball of the foot. How to stimulate the area: Because this point is so deep in her flesh, you need to press it firmly with two fingers and repeat the process about 10 times. This alleviates fatigue. When to use it: Massage this spot during foreplay. It's too awkward to hit during sex.Wrist Rite Where it's located: This point is found on the largest crease of the inner wrist, in line with the pinky finger. How to stimulate the area: Using one or two fingers (index and middle), press gently for 30 seconds to a minute. This is believed to alleviate fear, tension and emotional instability. When to use it: Do it when she's on top if you want to stimulate both wrists at once, or stimulate one wrist at a time while you're spooning. Shoulder G-Spot Where it's located: This pressure point, also an erogenous zone, is located in the middle of the tendons on either side of her neck. How to stimulate the area: To help her release tension, knead her shoulder muscles slowly and deliberately. When to use it: Do it during missionary, doggy-style or her-on-top positions. Gate Of Origin Where it's located: To find this point, measure three to four fingers below her navel, right above her bladder. How to stimulate the area: Press it very gently with two or three fingers because this spot is very sensitive. This is a major erogenous zone; it should arouse her. When to use it: Do this while spooning, performing oral sex or in the missionary position with her legs resting on your torso. Sea Of Vitality Where it's located: This point is found in the mid to lower back, at about elbow level, approximately the width of two fingers away from of her spine on either side of it. How to stimulate the area: Apply firm pressure for one to two minutes. Stimulating this spot is said to alleviate sexual problems and fatigue. When to use it: Use your thumbs to massage the area during slow doggy-style sex, or use two fingers to press against this area when she's on top.Sea Of Tranquility Where it's located: This point is found in the center of her breastbone, between her nipples. How to stimulate the area: Press it gently with your thumbs, as this promotes relaxation and eases tension in her chest. When to use it: Apply pressure to her chest while in the missionary position. When you're sucking on her breasts, you can also gently press the are. put pressure on all the right spots It never hurts to have a few extra moves in your repertoire, and knowing which pressure points to stimulate is highly useful. Now you can make her feel relaxed... and hornier.

Make The Most Of Her Pressure Points In Bed

By stimulating certain areas -- pressure points, if you will -- on a woman's body, as outlined in techniques such as the healing arts of Shiatsu and Reflexology, you can give any woman a sensual experience and help her release stress and inhibitions. Spend about 20 minutes massaging her pressure points, or reach for them during sex, and you may end up enhancing her overall experience. Read on to learn where each pressure point is, how to stimulate it and what it will do for her. Temples Where it's located: These are the soft areas on the sides of her forehead. Another pressure point is located in the center of her forehead directly between her eyebrows and is referred to as the "Third Eye." How to stimulate the area: Apply gentle pressure and lightly rotate your index and middle fingers on her temples for 30 seconds. You can also push lightly on the Third Eye for a few seconds. This will relieve tension and increase sexual excitement. When to use it: When she's on top or in the missionary position, but only get near her eyes when you're going slowly, so you don't risk gauging them out. Knee Kingdom Where it's located: This point is found between the two ligaments behind the knee, on the crease formed when the leg is bent. How to stimulate the area: Use your index and middle fingers to apply gentle pressure between the two tendons behind her knees, or you can even opt to kiss the area. This relieves stress and fatigue, and promotes relaxation. When to use it: Gently massage this spot when doing it doggy style, when she's on top, or when you're on your knees with your torso upright and have her in the missionary position with her ankles resting on your shoulders. Heavenly Pillar Where it's located: These two points are found on either side of the area where the spine meets the skull (you'll find the little hollows in the bone).How to stimulate the area: Put your fingertips on these points and gradually increase the pressure for about 30 seconds to a minute. This is an erogenous zone, so it'll likely arouse her. When to use it: Massage these spots with your thumbs when doing it doggy style, or massage the area with your index and middle fingers in the missionary or her-on-top position. You can even stimulate this spot while she's performing oral sex on you. Rushing Door Where it's located: This spot is found in the crease on the thick tendons where her legs join her abdomen near her hipbone. How to stimulate the area: This area may be highly ticklish, so lean into these tendons gradually with the heel of your hand and apply pressure for 30 seconds to a minute. This spot is believed to open sexual energy and desire. When to use it: Use during foreplay and when you perform cunnilingus.

Dirty Talk Basics

So you want to talk dirty, but dont have a clue where to start? Gutter bedroom talk is an art form in itself -- but dont worry, it's not that hard to learn how to be good at it. Yes, there may be giggles, but a laugh is better than the alternative of silence and the subsequent hysterics youll trigger when she tells her girlfriends about it. Even in our modern era, talking about what we want when it comes to sex is still difficult. Fantasy requests can be misconstrued as saying you are not enough for me when, in reality, they are a huge part of our sexuality -- which, if we believe statistics, a whopping 80% of our sex lives takes place in our heads. So, talking dirty is part of fantasy sex play, and can be a headboard-busting turn-on for both partners. testing the dirty waters Communication is the key to good sex. We should all know this by now, but we still dont practice it half as much as we should, if at all. The first step to introducing something new into lovemaking is to test the waters in casual conversations. Ask questions like: Have you ever talked dirty in bed before? or If I talked filth into your ear while we made love, what would you do? This gets the idea into her head, and rest assured that shell ponder it after you mention it, and possibly discuss it with her girlfriends to see what they do and if they like it.It is possible, however, that she will flatly refuse to entertain the idea, in which case, its best to drop it. If she is uncomfortable with the idea, she is not likely to change her mind in a hurry and any attempts will probably be a turn off. There are two aspects of successfully integrating dirty talk into your sex play. The first is the content -- subject matter makes or breaks any dirty talk session. Its supposed to turn her on, not make her cringe or burst out laughing. The second is the delivery: Your tone, volume and the warm up are all important. dirty talk dos Read her an erotic story This can be incredibly erotic and is a fantastic way to spend an hour. There are plenty of good erotic writers around, but finding something she will like can be hard. A good bet is to find a womens magazine that has an erotic fiction section in it or -- even better -- a specialized erotica magazine. She is unlikely to be offended if the magazine isnt trashy or aimed at men. In reading to her, you can practice your dirty voice and its also a fun way to spend time together, whether it leads to sex or not. Want to avoid getting slapped? Heres a tip: Dont mention her twin sister

Role Playing For Beginners part 3

Sample scenario 2: The photographer is a female and has a new male model prepared for some nudes she has to do for a client. The theme the client has asked for is dripping sexuality with sophistication -- the client wants the model to express his sexuality in whatever way he or the photographer deems appropriate, using any props necessary. Props: Camera with flash, satin sheets, a stool, household items, scenes (e.g. different rooms of the house, outside, car, etc), champagne. Stripper and Client Description: This role play is focused on voyeurism, but also on lack of emotion in sex. A lap dance is a deeply sensual act, and when done properly, leaves both participants feeling rather randy. Remember: Erotic dancing can be a tough call, especially if a woman is very conscious of her body. A great way to offset these fears is to use lighting, stockings and makeup. Dim lights tone skin nicely, as do red lights (covering a normal lamp with red material also works). Any lumps and bumps are smoothed out. Keep in mind that the removal of all clothes is not strictly necessary, so let her know to feel free to keep on a sexy-but-supportive bra, or a lovely pair of knickers, or both. As long as the moves are hot and the lighting is appropriate, it will look beautiful and the effect will be the same.If finding some moves is a problem, look up dancing videos on the web, or if you dare, go into a real strip club and see what they do. Most cities around the globe now have strip workout classes available for women (and possibly men) which are a fantastic way to get fit and release the sensual beast inside. Sample scenario 1: A dancer in a club is solicited to do a private dance. She takes him into her private booth and closes the curtains, then proceeds to give him the striptease of his life. There are rules: no touching and no kissing. He may put money down her garter belt. He must keep his clothes on. Sample scenario 2: A sexy twist on the paid strip scenario is for it to be impromptu and free. For example, your girlfriend locks you in the garden, then gives you a decadent strip tease through the window where you can see her, but cannot touch her or get in the house until she says. Watch out for nosy neighbors! Props: A sexy outfit is paramount -- a g-string is the generally accepted norm. What you wear on top is up to you, but costumes can be worn such as a nurses or maids uniform. For shoes, stilettos or high heels are the best. Have fun, but keep these important tips in mind

Role Playing For Beginners part 2

Boss and Secretary Description: This scene revolves around the work situation, and the power exchange that frequently takes place between a woman and her male boss. It is supposed that the boss is in control and calls the shots, but when sex is involved, this shifts to a dangerously sexy level where the woman is actually calling the sexual shots. She loves this because it gives her the power in that particular situation, even if she has none (or very little) at other times at work. Sample scenario 1: The secretary hides underneath the boss big desk before an important meeting. The secretary slowly -- and very quietly -- performs oral sex on the boss while he is in the middle of an important business deal. The clients are sitting right in front of the desk. He has to keep a straight face and continue on with his meeting. Alternatively, he may be on the phone (doing this for real is fun) and has to continue with his phone conversation without faltering. Sample scenario 2: On a more voyeuristic note, the secretary wears some very, very sexy underwear to work. She has to try to show her boss what she is wearing underneath in any way she can while still maintaining a professional appearance. She teases him as she does the photocopying, while she puts papers on his desk, while he is talking to her. She has to seduce him without taking her clothes off, until he is gagging for it. A strip tease can also be incorporated into this scenario, where he cannot touch her until she says so. Props: Desk or table, office attire. Photographer and Model Description: This role play is focused on voyeurism. The sexy part about this is the no touching rule, which leads to imaginations running rampant. The photographer and model scene is great for watching each other and acting out fantasies. It can be used to encourage her to become something she may have always wanted to be -- a devil in front of a camera, but with no proper opportunity to do so. Be prepared: Lighting is incredibly important. She wont want to get her gear off if she is going to be flashed in an unflattering light. Use props so she can cover herself in key areas should she want. You want her to be making love to the camera, and the man behind it. This can also be reversed, so you are the model and she is directing you. The beauty here is basically ordering each other to do things. Remember: It is important to clarify what will happen to any photographs that are actually taken. Using a filmless camera is a possibility, or you can use a digital camera and erase the pictures immediately following your sexy session. Sample scenario 1: A male photographer has a studio set up and wishes for the gorgeous model to pose for some sexy nudes. When she arrives they drink some champagne and discuss the shots. Once set up, the photographer tells her how to stand and pose with whatever props he likes.

Role Playing For Beginners

Role playing can be loads of fun, provided it is done with a pinch of panache and a slice of sophistication. Pretending you are somebody else allows you to venture places you wouldnt normally go. It means you are voluntarily forced to go outside your comfort zone, and into another -- acting. The world is your oyster, so suck it up; its not every day you get to take on a completely different persona. Expectations can be thrown out the window, traditions flushed down the toilet. The time you spend role playing will be well spent communicating with and pleasuring yourself and your lover. Learn about some basic scenarios to find one that will suit both your tastes. Headmistress and Pupil Description: This role play dabbles with the rich fantasy world of teenage boys, and quite possibly, the headmistress. The pupil is under the instruction and discipline of the headmistress. This creates a power imbalance, which can be fun to take advantage of with a lover. Delving into your inner teenager while your lover delves into her inner headmistress is a fun way for you to be dominated by her. It gives her power and control, leaving you at her mercy, though there is always the chance of rebellion.Sample scenario 1: The scene is set in the headmistress office, with the pupil in school uniform, and the headmistress dressed looking very stern and serious, but sophisticated and incredibly sexy. The pupil has always had a crush on the headmistress, and was spying on her through her door, masturbating. The headmistress caught him, and saw he was doing it the wrong way. She now teaches him, in the privacy of her office, how to masturbate correctly. If he does it wrong, spanking may be involved. Sample scenario 2: The headmistress calls the pupil to her office after school for disciplinary action. The pupil must write down every sexual thought and fantasy he has about her. Then he must read them back to the headmistress, who gets very aroused at the suggestions, which often include her. She then gives the pupil a lesson he will never forget on how to satisfy a woman the correct way. If he gets it wrong, he may be spanked. Or he may be spanked anyway. Props: Spanking instrument (e.g. plastic ruler), school uniform, pad and pen. Have a fling with your secretary and taking naughty pictures

How To Seduce A Sleeping Woman

Picture it: you get home late from a hard day's work and your girl's already asleep, or you wake up first thing in the morning to go to work and you're in the mood for sex. When you feel like getting it on, but your girl is sleeping, what can you do? Caution: Whichever way you decide to go about it, always gauge her reaction to your moves. If she seems disinterested, then don't pursue it. This is not a scenario where too much persistence can be used. If you can manage to wake her up slowly and comfortably, you stand a good chance of seducing her and getting some sex. Here are some tips to help you do just that. Light candles in the room The flickering of candlelight might wake her calmly. It'll be a nice surprise for her when she does. Another alternative could be to turn on some night lights. Use aphrodisiacs The above-mentioned candles could have a light vanilla scent or any aroma that is pleasing to the senses. This will fill the room with a pleasant scent that might wake her and put her in the mood. Play soft music Put on some soft music in the background. Not too loud, you don't want to give her a rude awakening. Try something slow and bass-heavy with sensual vocals like Moby or Air; whatever she likes to listen to when she first wakes up. Caress her stomach, legs & breasts Caress her thighs, stomach and then move on to the breasts. You don't want to start off by touching the breasts. Work your way towards them. Take your time; don't rush any movement. Be delicate and slowly move to heavier petting . Kiss her Put your lips on her back, the back of her neck, her neck under her chin and her ear lobes. Use some discipline -- no tongue action yet, just soft kisses. Then, gently kiss her lips. Women seem to really respond to this. Play with her hair, whisper and slide your fingers to the right area

Get Her To Give More

Your lazy girl is laid-back, and you have to learn how to incorporate her laid-back style into your sexcapades. Because she is laid-back, you will need to entice and tease her with a slow delivery. The idea is to get her excited without sending her into an orgasmic fury. Make her want you with desire. Most women will do anything when they want their satisfaction -- make her want it, and shell move. Heres what you can do: Start by including her solo work and watch each other as you pleasure yourselves. Surprise her with one of her toys and use it on her or watch her use it herself. You can watch some porn or read some erotic stories together and act out your favorite scenes. If your girl has some voyeurism in her, perhaps you could make a home movie -- if shes uncomfortable with the longevity of a private video, hook the camera up to the TV, dont record, and watch as you two go to work. Figure out a way to present her with a sexual challenge and trigger her competitive spirit. The inexperienced girl Most people, when given a game with no rules, no known object and no time limit will sit and look at one another. They will be clueless of what to do, why theyre doing it, and whether theyre doing it right or wrong. This is, essentially, what you have with an inexperienced girl. She tries very little because she may not know if what shes doing is good, bad, indifferent, weird or perverse. The safest thing for her to do is nothing. Lucky for you, the inexperienced are wonderful since they are open to new things and can be molded. Generally, they are willing to try what you like and they havent yet developed a taste for what they like or dont like. Hopefully, your girl is open to experimentation and she has a sense of curious exploration.Heres what you can do: Visual aids are great because they are easy to understand, accessible and great avenues for introducing new elements to the mix. The inexperienced need a template from which they can build their knowledge and they need to practice what they learn. Experience can only come through trial and error and you need to make the learning process fun, unthreatening and encouraging for your sexual neophyte. Help her out by vocalizing what you like, guiding her hands in the way you like to be touched, and make sounds of pleasure. It is important to tell her what feels good and let her know how amazing you think she is. better to give than to receive Good sex is like life: It requires your active participation, openness to change, experimentation, and improvement. It takes effort and creativity and is utterly suffused with communication. If your creative approach to getting her to give more sexually has failed, you will have to sit down and talk with her. Tell her what you need from her and why, but dont bring this up in bed before, during or after sex. Pick a non-threatening time and place. Play it cool and dont antagonize or become argumentative, accusatory or defensive. Talk about why you feel and think as you do, and focus on the goal of a happy solution for both of you.

Get Her To Give More

You're in a relationship and theres kissing, touching, fondling, ogling, and oohing and ahhing. Are these expressions of desire entirely one-sided? Are you the sole provider of the long caresses and bodily movements? Are you wishing that your girl were a little more attentive and gave a bit more sexually? Provided that there are no underlying psychological problems, your girl probably fits into one or more of these categories: the shy girl, the lazy girl or the inexperienced girl. She may not be a sexual goddess with the moves and prowess that will plaster a permanent smile on your face yet, but she can definitely learn to give sexually as well as she receives. The shy girl It is the 21st century, yet the current expectations of the good, "girl next door" versus the porn-star performance have a decidedly puritanical slant. Trust me -- she feels the pressures of both expectations in addition to the pressures that you put on her.She may know what you want, but she is hesitant to act like Jenna Jameson for fear of how youll perceive her afterward. She might not be voicing her concerns, but be assured that all kinds of things are racing through her head. The worst part about those thoughts is that they are manifesting as inactivity, pensiveness and reluctance to act. A shy girl is worried that youll laugh at her seduction attempts and she may feel that her actions are artificial. In addition, she doesnt want to be perceived as foolish or silly with her actions. Heres what you can do: Make her comfort paramount. This can be accomplished by talking with her and doing more romantic things, such as kissing and caressing. Do things that she likes and is comfortable doing and compliment the way she kisses you, touches you, and how she feels. Boost her confidence by creating a playful and fun atmosphere. Above all, dont judge her and make your own enjoyment evident. If you are having difficulty creating a playful activity, there are many games on the market. One that is fun is the worded dice game: You simply do what the dice say to do. Have fun with it and let your own little insecurities be known to her. She may feel better knowing she isnt the only one feeling awkward.The lazy girl Ultimately, lazy girls lack the enthusiasm to get beyond their own pleasure. They have a fundamental lack motivation and may even find the climatic end unworthy of the effort. The question is: Are you ready to motivate her? The lazy girl usually knows how to handle herself and may even wonder why she needs a guy if she has her toys and some erotica. For her, self-pleasure doesnt involve the fuss of deciding what lingerie to wear, whether or not her legs are smooth, when her last Brazilian wax was done or if her garlic breath is a turn-on or turn-off.

She's More Experienced part 2

Dont avoid the unknown If she wants to take control of you, let her -- dont think you have to match her lick for lick. However, keep in mind that she would like to be "taken care of" at some point too, and if you dont come up with the goods, she wont be back for seconds -- unless she is really desperate. A sexually experienced woman will just do what she wants with you, guiding you all the way, because she knows just how she likes it. Whats more is that she probably knows how you like it too. She will direct you, be suggestive and communicate with you on a variety of levels. Let her do what she wants and enjoy the ride. Just dont expect it every time. She will grow bored if you dont participate much. She may also pull out some freaky stuff that may make you panic. Dont do anything you are not comfortable with, but dont resist it just because you havent done it before. Its good to try everything once. Just dont bluff or pretend that you know what you are doing or shell see right through you. Theres nothing wrong with a guy who has less experience. In fact, many women like it when a guy says, Wow, Ive never tried that before, because it makes them feel special.Move on when its time Dont freeze at the crucial moment. If you are thinking, It's time we stopped kissing and moved on to something else, then make that move. Dont wait for her, because she may be waiting for you. It is expected of men to be a bit assertive, so make that move! If you dont know what to do and you are already naked, lay her down and kiss and lick her everywhere, then go down on her and taste her while your hands roam her body. Dont stay in any one place for too long -- keep moving. That way, you are bound to do something she likes. Keep quiet Talking about how much sexual experience you've had is not a healthy step at the beginning of a beautiful thing. This discussion will inevitably lead to you questioning her on how many sexual partners she has had, and you may not like the answer, so dont ask the question. This is not the sort of thing you need to know anyway, and she definitely doesnt need to know it about you. The revelation of this information isnt the end of the world, but it is unnecessary, so if she asks you, be honest -- just dont blab on and on about your sexual history, and dont lie about it either. Remember: All women hate liars. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Focus on good bedroom talk instead.learn from the best The easiest way to succeed in your adventures is to be reasonably confident, but not cocky -- excuse the pun. She may see through your inexperience, but shell appreciate your efforts either way. Having a guy who doesnt think he is Dirks cooler, smarter, sexier, better hung younger brother can be very refreshing for a woman, as long as he possesses a willing smile and a good attitude. Take the opportunity to gain valuable experience so that next time you wont feel like such a dweeb. A keen student can be great fun, so dont be afraid to give her the reins and the chance to pass on her gems in a real student-teacher way. Hmmm that actually sounds like some fun role playing.

She's More Experienced

Finding out that your girl has done it more times and in more different places than you have can be disconcerting. It is often best that you dont show or tell her that this bothers you. Women love a sexually confident man, so telling her that she scares you is not going to help your manly image. She doesnt want a guy who shrivels at the fact that she knows how to give him pleasure because she has done it so many times. Nor does she want a man who recoils in horror when she tells him how she wants him to do certain things to her. how to get onto her great list The best way to deal with this woman is to just suck it up; live, learn and be open to her advice. It may be scary, but being with a girl whos more experienced means that you are going to learn things that will change your sex life forever. Here are some tips to help you get there.Be really good at one thing This can be kissing, a sensual massage or cunnilingus -- but whatever it is, make sure that you're darn good at it and that she enjoys it. This presents her with the illusion that you have already been educated by some other woman. If you are really good at even just one thing, she will easily accept that you are not perfect at everything and thoroughly enjoy the fruits of schooling you, however limited you may be. Be confident in your touch An uncertain touch shows her that you dont know what feels good, and this clearly displays your inexperience. This is why women love those charming playboys; they have done it all so many times that they get it right the first time. She is hoping that you have touched enough women -- or at least one woman enough times -- that you know what feels good and what doesnt. Granted, not every man has been blessed with even one decent ex-girlfriend, but dont let this hold you back: If in doubt, enjoy yourself. Another reason women choose playboys is because they love to put their hands all over a womans body -- this makes women feel sexy. Touch her because you love to do so, and she will be thrilled that you are enjoying it so much. Learn to relax Yes, its hard, I know, but try. She will be able to feel it if you are tense and trying too hard to please her. Just relax and feel free to let her take over anytime she likes. You will learn a lot. If you are not relaxed, you will end up committing a line of faux pas, such as kissing her like you are a bull terrier crossed with a leech or hurting her by being too rough or careless. Being relaxed allows you to ooze confidence, so take a deep breath, make a conscious effort to relax your face, shoulders, neck and back, breathe out, and be fluid. Learn when you should let her take control and when you should jump in...

Menage A Trois Tactics part 2

Follow up Your girlfriend went into this willingly, but that doesnt mean you can just roll out of bed the next morning as if nothing happened. Some reassurance that shes still pretty, fun, intelligent, and overall the best girl this planet has ever produced would be well-advised. Consensual or not, you were hooking up with someone else. If that doesnt cultivate the slightest hint of insecurity, then you have the most confident girl in the world. And if thats the case, your next birthday present is a no-brainer for her. with a stranger Talk it out Its likely that this will be a spontaneous action, so set up some ground rules with your girl beforehand so you're ready when the right guest presents herself. You should get a general sense of what your boundaries are and come to a conclusion about the type of girl youre both looking for. If your girl is willing to share a stranger with you, shes probably no stranger to free agency and likely has an idea of how she wants it to happen. But this shouldnt be assumed. In any case, preplanning and being on the same page will make scouting much easier -- and a whole lot more fun.Let her pick Beyond the pure sexiness of your girl choosing the third member as if she were selecting an ice-cream flavor, its just a smart idea to put her at the helm. Youre probably going to enjoy anyone she picks, and this way you can be sure that she does too. At the very least, itll go a long way toward minimizing any threat she may feel from the other girl. By all means, be her creative advisor, but let her make the final cut. Unequal treatment It can be deceiving when your girlfriend agrees to a threesome with someone neither of you knows, but dont fool yourself into thinking she brought home a radio-controlled monster truck that shes just going to drop off in an empty parking lot with you. This is for her too, and you better make certain she gets enough attention from you and the new toy. In fact, she should have more than enough. A good rule of thumb: Spend twice the amount of time on your girlfriend than you do on the new partner or encourage the two of them to focus their efforts on each other. If there is any question at the end of the night about who was your favorite, just tell your girlfriend it was her -- imagine the consequences if you say the opposite.thrice as nice Theres a reason why threesomes are one of the most commonly admitted male fantasies: Theyre great. Therefore, when achieved, they should be heartily enjoyed. That said, be as prepared as possible. Your relationship will forever change, but will the change be for better or worse? It is a preposterous challenge to look beyond four boobs and into the future, but if you value your current relationship, it is a necessary consideration. Having settled that, enjoy your "you sandwich."

Menage A Trois Tactics

Sex can almost always be simplified to three simple statements: 1. Sex with someone else is one of natures greatest gifts. 2. Self-gratifying sex is one of natures greatest loopholes. 3. Sex with three or more people is why you had to take an extra semester in college. When it comes to the coveted threesome, good sense is the prevailing phrase. Enjoyment is the purpose, but eliminating the threat to your relationship should be top priority. If you do it wrong, this one night of ecstasy may ruin many nights to come or, in the worst case, end them altogether. Never fear: With the proper planning, you could make it a night to remember and hopefully one to repeat. with one of her friends Talk it out Just as your third-grade teacher used to say to the class: There are no stupid questions. If this act is something that you and your girlfriend are planning, you would be well-advised to seek answers to the following questions: What does she want to get out of it? Whats OK, and more importantly, what isnt? When and how does she want it to happen? Which flavor would she prefer for your condom? Superfluous is not in the dictionary on this one, so dont hold back. You dont want to be in mid-menage and realize that youre in some serious relationship trouble.In the event that you find yourself in a spontaneous or Jagermeister-assisted act, pool your remaining sobriety to walk on the side of caution. Pick the right girl Make sure your temporary playmate knows how to keep a secret. Yes, there is a surface attraction to everyone learning of your escapades, but in this case, the risks do not justify the rewards. If the cat gets out of the bag, it could cause a rift between your girlfriend and her other friends, it could make her feel slutty or used, it could change how other people perceive the two of you, and it could change your expectations of each other. Above all, it may draw some unwanted attention -- do you really want your slobbering buddies knowing how "freaktastic" your girl is? Youll also want to go with a non-threatening third party for the sake of your girls ego. Maybe someone slightly less attractive or less desirable, like one of her friends to whom she clearly feels superior. It may be a tough choice to make, but remember that jealousy will put a serious damper on the night. What to do after your party mix and how to scout a stranger

Your First Time With Her part 2

You should be patient and make it your utmost concern to please her and let her know how much pleasure shes giving you. This can be done by your very vocal appreciation of her movements, her body and your moans and groans. This isnt the time for over-sentimentality, professions of undying love or crying jags. If you shed tears, shell wonder who the real woman is -- her or you. after Be warm and generous Theres something nice about staying the night. And whether you like to admit it, there should be cuddling. Many women do enjoy this, and most men do as well. However, if you prefer your space, learn to read the signs, or give some indication that your intentions are to please her immensely. If she invites you to her place and she mentions how she will need to get up early in the morning or that she is a troubled sleeper, shes telling you that its more than OK with her for you to leave after both of you are glistening with sweat and smiling like loons. If she tells you about this great coffee place down the street that she visits every morning, she may be telling you that she would like you to stay for breakfast. Your response should be honest. Women can and will interpret much more than they ought to. If she suspects that youre dissembling she will probably resent you. Your best play is to be gently upfront with her. Let her know what your intentions are. Work, appointments and life keep revolving and sometimes have to take priority. Just make sure she knows that you want to see her again, and make sure your words follow through with action. first but not the last A great first experience will invite a second, third and fourth.You can help to insure your success by following the guidelines above. Dont forget about the little things. If she winds up staying the night, get her a glass of water and place it next to the bed. Leave the bathroom light on and the door slightly ajar so she can find her way in the middle of the night. Keep a soft, clean bath towel for her to use and offer her a T-shirt to sleep in. These details will help her see that you care enough to want to see her again. She wont feel like a one-night stand, especially when you want her to come again.

Your First Time With Her

Youve been out on the dates, made those late-night phone calls and sipped your coffee or digestif with her. The dessert has been devoured and you find that the walls of the restaurant have been replaced by the walls of her home or your apartment. Youre almost too aware of that soft surface beckoning you, and you impatiently want to sink under the plush covers -- that is, while you plunder and sink into the woman you most want to unravel. Yet, while you fumble with clothes, a niggling little thought appears in rapid and dampening succession. Does she want me to stay? Is the bathroom clean? Is that my roommate coming home? Is her roommate coming home? Did I wash the sheets? Did I put that picture of my ex away? Tiny little questions like these can quickly become your bane if left unchecked. After all, these considerations can mean a second encounter or can sadly result in your unreturned phone calls. Here are some tips to secure that your first time with her will lead to a second time and a third and a fourthbefore Be clean and receptive At this point common practices of cleanliness apply. By "common" Im referring to your home or apartment as well as your body. Your space should be free of garbage lying around or your dirty laundry sprawled out. This also includes removing any pictures of your ex or underwear from some girl you had over the other night. If your bathroom is unclean, she will not be comfortable -- she wont want to stay and she wont want to return. If you have pets, put them away for the night. This includes any roommates. Any scents in the bedroom should be light and clean-smelling, nothing heavy or lingering. during Focus on her The first time you experience each other should be free from accoutrements. The focus should be solely on each other. This is especially true if you havent yet established comfort levels for sex play. This is not the time to break out the sex toys, the fetishes or any pornography. Do break out the condoms though. It would also help if neither of you were dangerously inebriated. It is good to have her sound judgment on yes or no, and your sound mental faculties to heed what she says.

How To Correct Her In Bed

Remember those days when you made a mistake and someone brutally pointed it out, and then proceeded to beat it into the ground for the next 30 minutes? Maybe it was only yesterday; the point is that no one likes to have their insecurities, ineptitudes and unpracticed moves criticized. But criticism is necessary to improve your sex life and your relationship. There is such a thing as constructive criticism, and it is dependent on delivery and execution. If you callously state that she sucks in bed, Im thinking youll have a wee bit of a problem that night and in the foreseeable future. If your girl is understanding and not prone to being hurt by your brash words, then keep doing what youve been doing. Not all women need to have things sugarcoated. However, if you need a little help encoding your otherwise harsh criticism into something palatable and girlfriend-friendly, read on. She's a banshee A girl on top is a beautiful thing, except when shes bending you in ways that are anatomically incorrect. While she is riding you with wild abandon, you may notice that her movements are a bit too forceful. Maybe her back is arching with almost impossible flexibility when you feel the angle or the pressure on the boys become unbearable. At this point, you might grasp her hips to still their movement or pull her forward for a better angle. Either is good, a long as you stop the action thats causing you discomfort and keep the momentum going without criticizing her verbally. You can keep grasping her hips to help her ride you; women generally like their hips to be firmly held. If the problem persists, you can let her know what feels good by your moans and groans when shes at the angle you like and riding you at the speed you enjoy. Shell definitely get the hint. She gives you painful oral sex She has finally reached the promised land, but instead of absolute bliss, you experience pain. Youre concerned about the scrape of her teeth in the painful vortex she calls suction and her utter neglect of the boys. What do you do to fix this situation?

Is She Faking It? part 2

Sudden orgasm Now, what if she is not enthused during the build-up? You are mightily pumping away or gradually easing into your groove, and without warning, bam! She comes with a loud and sudden scream, an affected shudder, a dramatic sigh, and then nothing -- except maybe her unconcealed boredom and her desire to be somewhere else, evidenced by her agility and quickness in leaving your warm bed. Often, a satisfied woman will languorously dwell in bed. Shell snuggle or fall asleep in blissful satiation. Chances are that she faked it if she was bored, had a sudden attack and dashed off to go watch TV. Shes distracted Do her eyes wander while you make love? Does she seem to be concentrating on something other than the moment and your hands, lips and body moving across hers? If she looks distracted for the duration of your intimate moment, she is not feeling that orgasm shes trying to evince. Usually, right before a woman achieves an orgasm youll see an intense concentration and focus so she may enjoy those overwhelming feelings. If shes looking at you in a kind of abstracted way, she is probably not being so truthful in her moans and cries for more. Maybe its taking her longer to have an orgasm or maybe it was done faster than it has ever been done before. Use your judgment. You know what she sounds like when shes riding that crest. You know how her eyes darken with passion, and the approximate amount of time it takes for her to feel unbelievably hot, wet and irresistible. If these things seem off, your spidey senses should definitely be ringing. signs shes for real Youll know that shes for real when her body temperature is up, her labia are swollen, wet and are a darker pink or purple than usual. Theyll also give off voluntary and involuntary muscle contractions, and her clitoris will be larger than normal. Her breasts may feel bigger in your hands as theyll be a little more swollen, and her nipples will be hard and erect. These things just cant be controlled by a woman and will be easy for you to see and discover. how to deal with an actress Talk to her to find out what she likes and how she likes it. Be her willing student and learn how her body works. Ask her to show you what she likes and how she likes it, and to let you know when youre doing something she does or doesnt like. Encourage her to be vocal.What you dont want to do is get angry, blame her, antagonize her, or make her feel guilty or lacking in some way. Let her know that time has no meaning when making love. If she feels like she wants to have an orgasm, she can; if she enjoys the sensations without the orgasm, thats great too. There should be no pressure to achieve orgasm placed on her to fulfill her or your sexual expectations. If you can do this for her, she will assuredly appreciate your intentions and leave the acting behind.

Is She Faking It?

This is a subject that has plagued mans curiosity for ages -- most likely because the problem is pervasive and of a pandemic proportion. We informally polled 15 female friends and the result was that all of them admitted that, at one time or another, theyve faked an orgasm. Yup, thats right, at some point, it is highly likely that your girl has padded your ego, screamed aloud and didnt feel more than the jolt she feels after a bite of dark chocolate -- maybe even less than that. While we're certain that more than half of all women have faked an orgasm, not all of them fake it all of the time. But how can you tell? Read on and well explain why she might fake it, how you can tell if shes faking or not, and we'll even provide you with tips on what to do about it. her reasons Aside from her unwillingness to shatter your ego by stating it was your lack of technique that resulted in her artificial happy ending, there are a myriad of other possible reasons for her to fake an orgasm. One such reason could be the amount of alcohol she consumed. While some women claim that their inhibitions are lowered in their inebriated state, thus, increasing their arousal, the reality is that alcohol is a downer. Physiologically, it reduces sexual arousal and vaginal lubrication. It takes longer for a woman to achieve orgasm, if she can at all. Another possibility is her perceived expectations of you and sex. She may feel that shes disappointing you if she doesnt come. She might also think that youll regard sex as a failure if she doesnt reach her peak. Maybe shes tired or is thinking about things; women can live in their heads. If shes distracted, tired or worried about something, chances are she wont be having an orgasm tonight. signs shes a fakerShes not wet A woman simply cannot fake being wet. If shes producing enough of her own lubrication to be pleasurably moist down there, you can safely assume that shes enjoying herself. So, when you rub, kiss or slide your leg between hers and encounter friction and dryness, you can assume that shes not turned on. If she appears to be having a good time, she is most likely acting her way out of your bed in an attempt to end it quickly.

Give Her A Sensual Massage part 2

Head to the erogenous zones We all know the parts of a woman's body that get the most attention. Areas like the vagina, nipples and feet are targeted because men often don't know that a woman can be aroused in other locations. Her wrists, fingers, ears, the back of her neck, and the insides of her elbows and knees are probably visited as often as tourists travel to Iraq. Feel free to rub, kiss, lick, and even nibble on these neglected regions. She will feel appreciated, and thus aroused, by your attention to detail. Remember to take your time and read her body language. However, don't neglect her most important arousal areas, such as her clitoris, breasts and labia. She's accustomed to having these areas stimulated, so she probably expects them to get some of your attention.Give her a sensual bath A sensual massage need not be limited to land lovers. If the oil has become too much for you, you can give her a sensual bath. Simply fill the tub with some warm water and bubbles, blindfold her and put her in the bath. You have the option of getting in with her, but you'll likely have more freedom to maneuver and focus on the task if you stay out. If you wanted to increase the ambiance, you can light some candles and burn some incense. Rub her body, stimulate her insides and glide your hands all over her until both of you can no longer take it. Remember that your ultimate goal is to get her to jump out of the bath and run for the bedroom, where the two of you can get on to greener pastures. get your rub on The art of massage, and particularly sensual massage, has taken a backseat when it comes to sex. Be an original lover and give her a night that she will want to repeat. Remember that if you treat her to this, chances are that she'll repay you with a little favor that you'll greatly appreciate.

Give Her A Sensual Massage

She loves massages and she loves sex, so wouldn't it be spectacular if you could combine the two acts and create a night that she won't soon forget? Whether you want to add a little spice to a fizzling romance or you're looking for a way to impress a new lover, a sensual massage is your one-way ticket to Pleasureville. Many men think of this wonderful fusion of intimate acts, but they seldom step up to the plate. They either fear rejection or they aren't sure how to initiate a sensual massage. The truth is that most women are very receptive to a massage, but how receptive your woman will be to a sensual massage depends heavily on her mood. You can help by starting with a regular massage and easing your way into a more intimate affair. Here's how to get started. Prepare Before you get started, you'll need some items apart from your hands and a body to put them on. To help you maximize her enjoyment of the evening's entertainment, make sure you invest in baby wipes, massage oil or lotion that is safe for internal use, a blindfold, and a towel.As well, there are some things you need to think about before you jump right into the sensual massage: Your hands must be clean and your nails trimmed. Your hands should be warm. Never apply the oil or lotion directly onto her body; place a good amount in your hands, rub them together, and then begin the massage. Start out with a light touch; your objective is to arouse her, not bruise her. Give her a full-body sensual massage This doesn't mean that you should attempt the tedious task of massaging every square inch of her body. Rather, give her a sensual massage with your body. Your hands aren't your only tools; make good use of your oiled arms, chest and stomach. If you don't think that she'll fully appreciate your torso, feel free to put your mouth and tongue into the sensual massage mix instead. Kissing, licking and warm breath on flesh are usually welcomed with an erotic response.Use your hands in different capacities While you use one hand to caress her body, use the other to explore her on the inside. In particular, find her G-spot with your finger and bring her to an earth-shattering climax. This would be an ideal time to incorporate the blindfold, as removing one of her senses will increase the stimulation she'll feel from your sensual massage. When you're giving her a sensual massage, reach all the important zones...

Healthy Sex Life Habits part 2

A way of life: not another diet Life isnt about eating your way through every menu and drinking your way to stupefying lows. Eating isnt about excess gratification. Excesses, if any, should come in the form of scintillating sexual activities. Certain foods and large quantities can put a damper on your sex life by making you feel sluggish and by being detrimental to your vital health. Keep your body healthy by monitoring what you put in it. Eating is simply a way for your body to have its nutritional needs met. Here are some tips on eating: You know your body, recognize the signs. If you have the tendency to overeat try this: slow down. Remember that your stomach doesnt signal to your brain that it is full until about 20 minutes after you reach that trouser unbuckling, top button-relieving state. A good pre-coital game plan is to drink water and to avoid fatty, heavy foods, which will make you feel sluggish and tired.Sugars give you a spike and high but they make you plummet just as quickly. Alcohol is a downer. Really, it is. You can have trouble getting/maintaining an erection, difficulty ejaculating, and a decreased sexual desire if you drink too much booze. It can also reduce your fertility levels by half. Ouch. Caffeine has the same effect. There are certain foods that increase libido. For those in the baby game, Vitamin C and antioxidants can prevent sperm defects and promote sperm mobility. Daily doses of Calcium and Vitamin D can increase male fertility, and sufficient levels of Zinc will keep your testosterone and semen levels good to go.healthy body, healthy sex Health is important for life and sex. Without it, neither can exist. Sex is life and, certainly, life is a product of sex, but how good or bad it is depends entirely on you. By making slight changes to your lifestyle such as taking the stairs, joining a gym, getting off the couch and thinking about the quality of food you put in your system, you will finely tune your mind and body into sex-worthy shape. Maintain a healthy, active, focused life and your sex will improve immensely.

Healthy Sex Life Habits

A great sex life involves more than having good technique. It is a lifestyle that expands beyond the bedroom and into the everyday. What you do or dont do for your heart, mind, and body affects your sexual health. If you are finding any difficulties during sex such as a lagging libido, waning stamina or erectile dysfunction, you may find that adopting certain painless lifestyle changes will boost your sex life and make you healthier and happier. It will also make her happier. And if shes happy, you will certainly be getting some. Its all about oxygen: exercise Your body gives what it gets. If your sloth-like performance in front of the television has you wondering why you cant quite get it up, or when you do your arms give out before she reaches her peak, consider your activity levels. When was the last time you left the couch and went for a run or, instead of the elevator, took the stairs? Your heart pumps oxygenated blood into your body and into the star of your coming attraction.You need regular exercise at least three times a week for 30 minutes to work your heart, pump your blood, and increase circulation. A proper cardiovascular workout is just what you need to improve your stamina and performance in bed. Fringe benefits include better appearance and overall self-esteem. Women are most attracted to a confident man. Arrogance and insecurity is only a thin veil that women see right through. You wont be just another act when you start feeling as good as you look. Ladies notice the difference between a poser and a real man. Include grooming in your routine and now you have a sex-worthy body anytime, anyplace. Get regular exercise, keep nails clean and trim, body hair shaven, waxed or tamed, and you will just know you look good. The best part is youll feel good too. What are you waiting for?Working the mind: mental acuity You see them all over the place. Logic and crossword puzzles, Sudoku; people are trying to get their flabby minds toned and ready for a challenge. Why? Maybe some of them realize the advantage of an agile mind when it comes to life in the bedroom. Sex is both mental and physical. What you can do with your mind when youre having sex is astounding. By using focus, you can sustain your erection and keep yourself from ejaculating so you can control her mind-blowing orgasms, one after another. If you lose your focus, you can lose your control and the game can be over within seconds. Stamina is as much physical as it is mental. True mastery comes when you can tell your body what to do, not the other way around. Keeping your mind flexible also helps you get rid of any banalities in your sex life by keeping you creative. It helps you refrain from repetition and laziness, and steer clear of boring patterns in your approach and practice of great sex. Train your mind just as you train your body. It needs exercise and will allow you to reap priceless rewards.

Spice Up The Missionary Position part 2

Bicycle While this one may take a bit more choreography, the pleasure is certainly worth the few extra seconds it takes to bend and place your bodies in delicious ways. Have your girl lie back on the bed and place her right leg on your right shoulder. Bend her left leg and place it beside your right side. Ease forward into the honey pot and feel the sweet sensation. For some added stimulation, your partner can use her free hands for a little clit rub or to stimulate you. Golden Gate Bridge The only time youll want this bridge to fall is when shes overcome with a heavy, pulsating orgasm. Place her on her back with a comfy, fluffy pillow under her shoulders. Kneel between her legs, keeping your knees bent at 90 degrees and guide her up toward you with your hands under her waist. Position her vagina in line with your penis and insert. Use short thrusts to penetrate and ignite her senses. She can aid you by wrapping her hands around the backs of your legs to keep you close. Long, sweeping thrusts are not recommended as your control over the motion will be compromised and the position could be lost. This might become frustrating, so keep with the short strokes -- unless you are simply too well-hung to lose your way.Coital Alignment Technique If you want to experience her writhing in pleasure beneath you, check this position out. CAT (coital alignment technique) focuses on the alignment of both you and your partners pelvic bones, which enables the base of your penis to rub against her clitoris. As she lies on her back, place yourself on top and enter her. Slide a couple of inches up to align your pelvic bone with hers and this will ensure the base of your penis is rubbing against her clit. Use an upward and downward sweeping motion. This is not the time to use regular in-and-out thrusting. Both of you should have your legs straight out and positioned beside or on top of one another. Your girl can bring you in deeper by wrapping her legs around your calves. Dont forget to touch and kiss her body as this deviation from straight missionary allows for great sensual body-on-body contact. missionary fun Digressing a bit from the norm is a healthy and exciting foray into sexual practice and pleasure. There is nothing wrong with the missionary position; however, you can liven up your sex life by introducing alternatives to everyday routines. Modest changes can yield fiery results. Have fun and play with your partner by taking old favorites and making them new again.

Spice Up The Missionary Position

The missionary position is a tried and true sex position that is used as a good old standard. You know what to expect, she knows whats coming and both of you are comfortable and satisfied. This very mundane position works well when needed so dont retire it just yet -- it can be modified. You can make whats old new again. So when the standard missionary just wont do, here are some satisfying maneuvers to keep your partner satisfied and aroused (not to mention impressed) by your ingenuity. The Jack Hammer The name says it all. With a penetrating, downward maneuver you control the speed, depth and force of penetration. Your partner lies on her back with a leg on each of your shoulders. It would be wise to make sure shes limber enough and up for this kind of action. Kneel, placing your knees beside her waist. The next step is easy: Lean forward and ravish her. If needed, rest your hands on top of her thighs to steady and control the movement. Initially, youll want to make sure shes alright in this position, as you can cause some discomfort if she is unused to stretching in such a way.Rocking the Cradle With a gentle motion you can rock her world. With you on top there isnt much your partner can do to add sensation to this position besides relax and contract her vaginal muscles. The brunt of the work is done by you. Lie on top of her and place her legs up over your shoulders while you rock back and forth. Some upper-body stamina is required. Firm foot placement is also a necessity to help you rock and pleasure your partner with the intoxicating motion. But make sure you dont crush her with your weight or flatten her legs to her body. She wont appreciate the novelty of being rocked in a cradle if she feels trapped underneath you.

14 Oral Sex Tips

We all know that the road to a lasting sex life is paved with -- among other things -- oral sex. But most of us could use a few pointers on how to sharpen our oral skills. Oral sex is always grounded in preparation: You want to be enthusiastic and passionate about giving pleasure to your woman, and give her all the pleasure you can. That way, you can virtually guarantee that she'll want to go down on you as well. That said, here are 14 ways to enhance your oral expertise. 1- Start slow Kiss your way down her body and tease her thighs and buttocks for a while before you make contact with any part of her genitalia. This will turn her on before you start the real action. Get close so that she thinks you're going to zero in on her at any second, but don't give in immediately.2- Warm her up Before you remove her underwear, breathe hot air through it against her genital area. Breathe softly but warmly for short bursts at a time. You can alternate between doing this and kissing her thighs and stomach. 3- Don't dive in When you begin to kiss and lick her vulva, work your way in slowly from the outside. Start by licking the outer edges of the outer lips (labia), then very slowly spread them, and lick and kiss the inner lips, and around the vagina. Do this gently, as though you were still teasing her. You'll work your way up to more intense action eventually. 4- Wait for the clitoris Try to hold off from coming in contact with her clitoris for as long as you can, even as you kiss her labia and vagina. When you do begin to lick it, do it softly, and focus on the clitoral hood (just above the clitoris), since most women prefer indirect clitoral contact before they're fully aroused.5- Lick the alphabet If you're not sure which strokes are best to approach the clitoris, try Sam Kinison's famous suggestion and lick the shape of every letter in the alphabet as a means of offering a wide variety of approaches. Make them wide from time to time to cover the whole genital area, and make them small at other times, centering on the clitoris itself. 6- Suck it up As she becomes more aroused, you can gently suck her clitoris into your mouth and flick your tongue over it. This combines suction with a much faster rhythm. Women like that.

Understanding The Female Orgasm

When it comes to the female orgasm, most guys are confused. This is understandable considering that many men are clueless regarding the different types of orgasms and stimulations that can be given, not to mention if a certain part of the vagina has to be manipulated in order to give a woman an earth-shattering orgasm. Well, if you're among the bewildered, have heart; today's tip will help you understand the female genitalia and the female orgasm inside and out. what happens? When a woman orgasms, regardless of which area of her body you're manipulating, her body physically reacts in the same way. During an orgasm, she feels: stimulation in her clitoris her heart rate, blood pressure and breathing increase tension builds within her pelvis muscles contract throughout her body, especially in the vagina, uterus, rectum, and pelvic floor tension is released upon orgasm blue clitoris Believe it or not, it is possible for women to get what is often called "blue balls" in men. As you know by now, the clitoris and penis are remarkably similar after conception, but males go on to develop penises. If a woman gets incredibly turned on, her clitoris, like the penis, becomes engorged with blood. If the blood isn't released via orgasm, she will experience discomfort -- just as men do. So when you tease her, you build up awesome tension, and when she finally orgasms, it will be an explosion of release. Keep in mind, however, that roughly 26% of women have difficulty reaching orgasm. And usually, it's her own mental block that keeps her from reaching orgasm -- it's not you. different types It was Sigmund Freud who first suggested that there were two types of female orgasm. However, sex researcher Alfred Kinsey refuted the claim and his view was that there is only one type of female orgasm. Others sexperts claim that women can have three types of orgasm: clitoral, vaginal and blended. But considering the latter is literally the other two put together, I wouldn't necessarily classify it as a type.

7 Woman On Top Positions part 2

4- The close-legged trip While you sit on the bed with your butt resting on the heels of your feet and leaning back on your hands, have your woman (who's on her knees) get on top of you, and slowly make her way up and down. This allows for full penetration. 5- The back arch While you lie on a bed with your legs spread open and hanging off the side of the bed, let her sit on top of you with her back facing you. With her closed legs on the ground as well -- arching her back and using her hands to lean back on the bed -- she can maneuver herself up and down at will on your member. 6- Up & down As you lie on your back with your legs closed and knees slightly bent, have your woman sit on top of you and face the other way (her butt, once again, is facing you). Instead of moving up and down, she can simply rock back and forth. This will provide both clitoral and G-spot stimulation, and isn't that what all women want? 7- Easy butt grab Lie down flat with your legs spread. Get your woman to lie on top of you, legs straight out but closed. She has the choice of either rocking back and forth or elevating her butt at will -- or both. And your duty? Well, all you really have to do is grab her butt at will. try it all If your woman is up for it, let her take charge once in a while and climb on top of you. It gives you the night off from doing all the tiresome work, and chances are she'll orgasm quicker while she's in control. So get on your back, and let her take the reigns.

7 Woman On Top Positions

Female-superior positions You're ready to go to bed and sleep the night away, but your woman is feeling a little frisky. Great. Does that mean you have to do all the work -- again? Hell no! Today's tip focuses on female-superior positions in which you get to lie back and relax while your woman does all the dirty work. But wait: How can you convince her to do her thing without sounding like a dictator? Easy, all you have to do is tell her that you want to watch her work that sexy body of hers, and she'll be on top of you in no time. As for getting her to move into the following positions, you can always simply maneuver her body subtly. After all, you are the man, and even when she thinks she's in control, in reality, you are. For now, here are seven positions you'll want her to get into. 1- The standard I'm sure you've had a woman ride you in the standard fashion before. Lie down and bring your woman on top of you, leaning on her knees for momentum. She can either keep her torso upright, or she can lie on top of you while she does her thing. 2- The butt face As you lie down on your back, have your woman get into a doggie style position with her butt facing you. Placing her feet atop your rib area, she can guide your manhood inside her and you can enjoy the view.3- The squat While you lie on your back on the bed, your woman should get on top of you. However, instead of using her knees to go up and down, she will instead squat and use her feet to go up and down slowly. If she's a trooper, she will depend on nothing but her feet to move. But be aware that this is for women who have strong legs; otherwise, she won't be able to last longer than a few seconds.

5 More Rear-Entry Positions part 2

3- Stand down, boy While she bends over on the edge of the bed, her feet and shins hanging off it, you stand against it and make your way in. Of course, if the bed is too high or you have a significant height difference, you will have to make some adjustments. She can raise or lower her body to accommodate you, and you can stand straight or bend your knees. 4- Stand down, girl If she's much shorter than you, you may not want to attempt this position. Otherwise, have her face the other way and bend down so that her butt is sticking out toward you. Her torso should be parallel to the ground. While you kneel on the edge of the bed, hold on to her hips and make your way in. Make sure to go slowly, as she needs to maintain her balance. Better yet, let her control the tempo.5- Climb to the top While she's in position, stand up and place your body right above her butt. Then, bend down so that you can place your penis inside her. Ensure that you're balanced; otherwise you may end up falling on top of her. Place your hands on her back without pressing down, or use the help of a wall or bedpost to maintain balance. Be careful not to thrust too quickly initially; ensure that she enjoys the sensation first. it's a doggie-style world Now that you have even more variety to add to your bedroom ventures, make sure that you use them sparingly and wisely. And don't forget that penetration is just a fraction of what good sex entails. Make every moment count.

5 More Rear-Entry Positions

Doggie style positions Ah, doggie style... the position most animals use to get it on, humans being no exception. As one of men's and women's favorite sexual position, doggie style has been a welcome addition to people's sex lives for ages. The last time I advised you on adding some variety to the rear-entry position, you maneuvered yourself and your girl into sexual oblivion. Well, now, here are five more variations you can try. 1- Tight-legged Getting into the typical doggie stance, have your girl keep her legs closed and open yours around them. As well, get her to arch her back and lean on her hands rather than lean down and rest on her elbows on the bed (or whatever surface you happen to be on). To help her maintain that stance, wrap your hand around her hair and give it an occasional tug while you're having sex.In addition to hair-pulling, you can rub her spine lightly and even hug her waist while you penetrate her. 2- Upright torsos Get into your regular doggie stance, but lift your torso along with your girl's so that you're upright while you penetrate. Doing this in a location where she's facing the wall or, say, the bedpost, will allow her to place her hands there to maintain balance while you're going in and out. Use your free hands to caress her breasts and butt, rub her shoulders and get a better grip for penetration. This position also allow you room to easily kiss her mouth and neck.

Get Her To Play With Herself part 2

Masturbate with her Mutual masturbation is a really sexy experience few women have had the opportunity to enjoy. Every female gets wet at the sound of her man groaning with delight, making this a potential sexual favorite. A man touching himself because he has to -- because his woman has made him that horny -- is powerfully intoxicating. Its a situation sure to end in broadened horizons and mutual ecstasy. Helping hand: Lie beside her on the bed and make eye contact. While holding her gaze, start teasing yourself slowly. Tell her how much you want her, and that you cant help touching yourself. In your sexiest voice, softly suggest she touch herself as well. When she does, let her hear your appreciation, even if only in the form of a well-timed moan. This will double her pleasure until youve both achieved orgasm.Spin it as instructional This is a good way to broach the subject with a woman who already knows what she needs in bed -- the liberal, independent woman whos not afraid to try anything once, yet has never been invited to try this. Ask what turns her on, and then request a demonstration. Use a soft, sexy tone and the request will sound highly erotic. This scenario will seem far less taboo than simply asking her to masturbate for you. Helping hand: While shes lying down on the bed, ask how she touches herself. Does she take her time? Does she tease herself first? Tell her you want to be able to please her better than she can please herself. Once shes begun, support her efforts by telling her how sexy it is. Encourage her every step of the way and desire is bound to rule in your favor.spice it up If you really want your woman to masturbate for you, the best way to achieve this is to let her know how much pleasure you get from it. Some women are well aware of this, and theyll be thrilled to perform for you. Others will need a bit of coaxing before they feel comfortable with it. Select the technique that best accommodates your womans personality and be patient. The idea will surely appeal to her once her inner vixen has had time to surface.

Get Her To Play With Herself

How to get her to masturbate for you Masturbation can be a tricky subject for some women; while most enjoy it on a regular basis, few would be comfortable openly discussing such things with a significant other. This is often the result of having been raised to think of it as an inappropriate (and unnecessary) indulgence. Fortunately, this mindset is fully reversible. And its easier than you think. All she needs is the right encouragement and a man whos willing to let her set the pace. Try one of the following tips and it wont be long before she discovers how much of a turn-on masturbating for you can be. Express a desire to watch This is, without a doubt, the key factor in getting her to touch herself. If its her first time, shell be faced with a number of mental obstacles, one of them being performance anxiety. Add to that the fact that most women dont fantasize about watching men masturbate, and she may have difficulty believing you really want to see her do this. She may also feel like shes being placed under a microscope, which can lead to worries about how she appears during the performance. Let her know its guaranteed to drive you wild and shell gain the confidence needed to tease you into oblivion.Helping hand: Turn her on with the usual foreplay and then ask if she ever gets hot when thinking about you. When she admits to doing so, soften your voice and ask if she touches herself as well. She may be slightly embarrassed by the question, but rest assured that it will have excited her. Once shes fully aroused, share your fantasies. Tell her how badly you want to watch; tell her how sexy it would be. Convince her, and watch how quickly she warms to the idea. Help her masturbate If you know shes too shy to have an open discussion about masturbation, this is an excellent way to help her ease into it. The idea is to guide her through it, showing how perfectly acceptable -- and fun -- it can be to touch herself for you. By guiding her hand to her clitoris, the masturbation taboo is slightly diminished because shes not doing it completely on her own. Shes doing it with you, which can make all the difference to a woman having difficulty suppressing her inhibitions. Helping her masturbate will eventually lead to her flying solo for you, after shes realized how pleasurable the experience it can be. Helping hand: This works best when shes already turned on and down to her knickers. Get her into a kneeling position and slide behind her on the bed. Slide her hands over the curve of her waist, her tummy and her breasts -- areas that arent going to freak her out. Show her how sexy it can be to touch herself with a mans assistance. Once shes begging for something more, ask her to touch herself and slowly guide her fingers downward to her clitoris. Let her set the pace -- you may lead, but go too quickly and it could backfire. Be patient and theres a good chance shell let your fingers do the walking.

Foreplay Tips part 2

"When she spreads her legs a bit, that's a clear indication that she wants you to touch her a little deeper. " 3- Strip down Strip shows aren't just for men anymore; women have gotten wise to the idea of having men perform a peel dance for them. While I don't suggest you dance for her as you take off your socks or install a pole in your bedroom, I do recommend that you remove your clothes slowly (especially if you're fit). Remove your socks before you do anything; they're awkward and nothing turns a woman off faster than seeing a naked man with his socks on. Now that you're set to go, start by removing your shirt (unbutton it slowly while maintaining eye contact), then your pants, and finally your underwear. At this point, undress her just as slowly. Sit her down and remove her clothing in the same order you removed yours. 4- Use your fingers and give her oral pleasure Once again, I have to say that every woman is different and, therefore, every woman likes to be touched differently. However, the same techniques that you hopefully used in high school are still effective in the majority of women. Bring your hand to her vaginal area and, with the tips of your fingers, rub her outer lips (labia majora) by spreading them apart and bringing them back together; that should start the lubrication process. When she spreads her legs a bit, that's a clear indication that she wants you to touch her a little deeper. At this point, you can start lightly rubbing her inner lips (labia minora), and then move up to her clitoris, which you should rub in a circular motion. Some women like their clitoris to be touched gently, while others prefer a more vigorous contact; read your girlfriend's body language for a sign of what you should do. After a few minutes, bring your mouth to the area and, while you continue to use your fingers to play around inside her, gently suck on clitoris to give her some great oral pleasure. 5- Watch some sex and kiss her Porn can be a great way to get you and your girl in the mood, provided that your girlfriend is the type who enjoys adult entertainment. Put on something that both of you can enjoy (preferably other couples having sex and something tailored to women), and lay naked with each other while you watch it. Remember that an "accidental" caress here and there is perfectly acceptable, even preferable. Every now and then, stop watching the movie and kiss her or play with her body. Make sure to pay more attention to her than you do to the movie. As well, if you see something kinky that you'd like to try, make a comment about it and gauge her response, which will give you an indication of whether or not she's game. The idea here is to get her imagination going. foreplay formation And there it is. Five easy ways to drive your girl insane with foreplay. Of course, you don't have to do them all in one day. Keep things lively, fun and erotic, and she'll be incorrigible. One last time: Every woman is different and if you're attentive, you should be a success.

Foreplay Tips

" During foreplay, the power of suggestion can be as great as sex itself. " Foreplay is the one thing women can't get enough of -- OK, there are a few other things as well, but foreplay is an important one. In general terms, women are emotional creatures, and that's why they like, enjoy and often need foreplay. Unlike their male counterparts, women aren't raring to get down to it. This is because their bodies need help conjuring the lust and lubrication required for intercourse and their emotions dictate that they feel a sense of closeness and mutual respect with their partner. All of this can be achieved through foreplay, which will also help your lady friend feel desired by you; if you simply want to jump her bones, she'll feel like a tool or a machine designed to get you off. Now, each woman is different, and some might like to bump uglies without any foreplay, but the odds are that your girl will need to grease the wheels first. That said, here are five foreplay tips that'll help you turn everyday frolicking into something that will have any woman you seduce begging for satisfaction. 1- Talk and tease During foreplay, the power of suggestion (especially with some dirty talk) can be as great as the sex itself for many women. If you can describe how you want to touch her, where, and with which of your body parts, she'll visualize it easily and eagerly. And if you know how to have sex with her brain (it is a major sexual organ), you can bet that she'll be begging you to have sex with the rest of her in due time. If you need to touch her while you dirty talk her during foreplay, avoid touching her breasts and vagina. Instead, focus your mouth and hands on her neck, wrists, inner thighs, lower back, and ears. 2- Get started in public Foreplay doesn't need to be restricted to the bedroom or inside four walls. If you and your girlfriend don't start crying at the thought of public displays of affection (PDA), try doing some fun things out in the open. And by fun things, I mean such things as rubbing her breasts or respectfully patting her ass in a restaurant, kissing her passionately while having drinks at a bar or dirty dancing at a nightclub. Make an effort to turn her on wherever you are. If you show her that she turns you on via PDA, when you finally do find yourselves in a private situation, the good times will lead to some carnal indulgences.

G-Spot Vs. Clitoris part 2

Feel free to mix it up in your quest to bring her to orgasm. Because of its location, her clitoris can be stimulated in three main ways, each of which can take her over the edge. Manual stimulation offers the easiest starting point, as you can still maintain a visual of what you're doing and you can more easily gauge her reaction. Oral attention adds the extra element of warmth and moisture that can help move things along. Intercourse, especially with you on top, can provide a rhythmic addition to her stimulation if you position yourself correctly and have your pubic bone hitting her in just the right spot -- which can take a little practice but is worth the effort to perfect. If you can't seem to get this down, it's always OK to ask her for a little help; with positions that put her in the driver's seat, both of you will have your hands free to give your sack session a little boost. g-spot What The G-spot is a small walnut-sized bundle of nerve endings. Where Located inside and on the front wall of the vagina (toward her belly button) about half-way between the opening and cervix, the G-spot feels rough to the touch when stimulated. How Because of its position, it's impractical for your lady to give you a helping hand on this one. Therefore, stimulating her G-spot is basically up to you, and can be approached in two ways: During intercourse, it's possible to position yourself so that your penis rubs against her G-spot with standard maneuvers. Rear-entry positions will give you the best shot; have her rest on her elbows rather than her hands to give you a better angle. Your fingers are infinitely more dexterous than your other sexual parts and can give you the ability for trial and error in locating her G-spot as you can feel around more slowly and specifically. During foreplay, insert your finger and crook it into a come hither motion pointing toward her belly button and gently probe the surface. You'll be looking for a small spot that is more dense than the surrounding area -- and dont worry, she'll let you know if you find it. pleasure points Now that you have some basic directions, it's time to hit the road and enjoy the ride. Just like with every trip, there are going to be bumps in the road that you'll have to take into consideration, some possible detours, and of course, a little customization for your specific travel partner. Hopefully, with the basic route in order, you'll be ready to wow your lady with your intricate knowledge of these two must-visit destinations.

G-Spot Vs. Clitoris

The last thing you want to do when you're a little lost is ask for directions -- especially when you don't know your way around the bedroom. No one will argue that the female body is straightforward and without mysterious secrets, so you shouldn't feel too bad for needing some pointers on her pleasure zones and the intricacies of the female orgasm. To make it as simple as possible, there are two basic ways to go about bringing your lady to orgasm: stimulating her clitoris and stimulating her G-spot. Each area needs its own type of attention and will bring very unique sensations for her, and both are worth knowing a bit more about. Keep reading for the quick and easy reference guide to satisfying your woman -- no map required. clitoris What The clitoris is the only organ in the female body devoted solely to physical pleasure and is the physiological equivalent of the head of a man's penis -- packed with nerve endings and sensitive to touch. Where Located on the outside of the female body just above the opening of the vagina, the clitoris is a small protrusion that becomes more pronounced when a woman is aroused. How Mankind has circulated many theories on what works best in stimulating a woman to orgasm via the clitoris, and there are some basic ground rules for approaching her nether regions. Keep it light; the area is very sensitive and she'll respond much better to a slow start. She'll let you know if an increase in pressure is required. Include the surrounding area and don't focus too intently. The nerve endings extend out from her clitoris and she'll get pleasurable feelings from attention being paid to the entire area. In fact, too much direct attention can even be uncomfortable for some women, so variation is key. Speed is important to her, just as it is to you when she visits down south. Steadily increasing strokes that are sustained are going to be much more successful than sporadic or inconsistent probing. A road map to her G-spot

She's A Virgin part 2

Turn her on No doubt it sounds like an obvious tip, but this one is more overlooked than you might realize. You want her so hot shes purring with lust and begging for it -- and you want to keep her that way until the moment of truth. Unfortunately, many men break the mojo just before penetration. Its not intentional, they just get a bit tense knowing theyre about to cause their partner a minor amount of pain. Relax, she knows what's coming and shes not going to hold it against you. Go slowly, but dont forget to kiss and caress her as you do. This gives her something else to focus on and keeps her aroused, which will actually decrease her sensitivity to pain. Be willing to slow down and stop She may be ready and willing at the start of the evening, but be prepared for that to change before the deed is done. Rest assured, it doesnt mean she doesnt want you, it just means shes not ready. Some women are more sexually liberated than others -- her virginity might be something she cant cope with losing right now. On the other hand, she might just need a little reassurance. She may need evidence that you really care about her and are willing to wait. A willingness to stop and take a step back is often all the proof a woman needs. It may even be enough for her to decide to keep going. Either way, a little compassion in this area will earn you major points. innocence unleashed Just because shes a virgin doesnt mean shes a cold fish; shes probably just waiting for the right man to come along and show her how its done. A little compassion in this arena could land you a very loyal woman whos eager to please. Dont shy away from the "good girl" -- step up to the plate and show her what shes been missing out on.

She's A Virgin

While virginity may seem a bit outdated and old-fashioned, a number of women in their 20s and 30s are exactly that -- virginal. If youre dating a "future sex kitten" and shes decided youre the one, youll want to keep several things in mind as you rock her world. Unlike sexually experienced women, if she's a virgin, she doesnt really know what to expect, apart from what her girlfriends have told her -- which means shes either going to be anticipating lots of pain or lots of ecstasy, depending who shes talked to. Regardless, shes definitely going to be nervous, and thats where you come in. The following tips will help to ensure that if she's a virgin, her first time will be anything but awkward. Avoid ultimatums No one likes being under the gun. Its absolutely OK to let her know youre ready to take things to the next level, but you dont want her thinking thats all youre after. Women who are still virgins at 25 and 30 are unlikely to cave to the pressure, anyway -- theyre obviously pretty skilled at saying no! If she's a virgin and hasnt given the goods up yet, thats an indication shes waiting for someone special. Laying the pressure on will make her feel cornered, trapped and objectified -- not exactly the hallmark of Prince Charming! Take control Youre the experienced one here, and shes going to need your firm, but gentle, guidance. In fact, shes going to expect it, so dont be afraid to lead with confidence; women love men who take charge in the bedroom. Let her determine the pace, but never lose sight of whos teaching whom. She may be screaming with delight, begging you to shag her silly -- but that doesnt mean shes ready. Youre the expert; its your job to gauge her level of arousal. You want her incredibly horny (and as wet as you can get her) before you go the whole nine yards. Shes going to remember this for the rest of her life. You want her reflecting on this moment with a saucy grin, not crossing her legs in pain at the memory. Relax her Its natural for her to feel a bit jittery, but you can ease much of that anxiety with a few simple tricks. Shes likely to be feeling self-conscious, so start with a few confidence boosters. Tell her shes sexy and let her know she looks fantastic in your bed. Even if she already knows this, hearing you say it will do wonders. Spend extra time kissing, letting her know you're focused is on her, and not just her body. Talk to her as you touch her body, find out what she likes and what she doesnt. It may sound one-sided, but this should be all about her and what shes offering you -- as opposed to what youre taking. Let her know this, and shell relax completely.

The Importance Of Foreplay part 2

set the mood To learn the importance of foreplay you have to know how to set the mood. The next step is paying attention to romantic details. Creating the right environment for sexual intercourse can be crucial, especially at mature stages in the relationship. For example, make sure the room is warm, the lighting subdued, and the sheets clean. Once the mood is right, take the time to undress her because the act of removing your partner's clothes can be an important part of foreplay. Many have found that undressing increases the eroticism, it stimulates and intensifies the feeling. Often, women spend a lot of money on nice lingerie because it makes them feel sexy and they want it to stay on for a while. Instead of getting her completely naked, remove her bra strap, kiss her shoulder, then put it back on again. Do the same with her underwear, and, again; compliment how good she looks in it. kissing and foreplay During foreplay, go as slow as you can. This will tease her. Begin by kissing and caressing her. A kiss is usually the first physical expression of desire but it is also often forgotten during sexual intercourse. During intercourse, you should kiss every part of your partner's body and not be restricted to the mouth. Most women complain that their partners don't kiss long enough and rush the movement directly to the genital area. Don't be shy to experiment on every part of her body and remember to prolong the foreplay with more kissing and caressing. a good time for learning This article focused on the importance of foreplay as it is a learning experience. Foreplay is the perfect time to spend understanding what your partner likes because without that, you will never learn what she really needs to be fully stimulated. Don't be shy; ask for feedback and also give your own. Both partners profit from good communication during foreplay and lovemaking. Also, without cutting the intensity of the moment, ask her what she really likes and what makes her go wild. the time of her life As a general rule, if she is satisfied with her sexual experience, she will usually make sure that you are satisfied as well. Good luck, and remember that only practice makes perfect. Don't ever forget the importance of foreplay.

The Importance Of Foreplay

Traditionally, "foreplay" was considered to be something that a man had to do to get his partner ready for sexual intercourse. Today, foreplay has become an integral part of the whole lovemaking experience. It is true that impromptu sexual encounters without foreplay can sometimes be some of the best sexual experiences, but in general, most women will agree that good sexual encounters mean that you learn the importance of foreplay. A more vigilant form of foreplay will bring increased pleasure to both partners, and make the whole lovemaking experience more enjoyable. spice up your sex life Especially with age, both partners will need a little extra spice to get fully aroused and achieve maximum pleasure. Hence you need to learn the importance of foreplay. The man will need to prolong foreplay to get an erection and the woman will need the same to become properly lubricated. Most sex experts agree that there is no such thing as spending too much time on foreplay. The trick is to start intercourse when both partners are peaking with excitement and are having a hard time controlling their desires.what is foreplay? You've gotta learn the importance of foreplay, which can encompass a wide range of activities, including hugging, fondling, undressing, kissing, petting, and performing oral sex. Why is foreplay so important? First of all, men who cuddle and kiss their partners and know how to enjoy sensitive foreplay will often find that their partners will not only enjoy sexual intercourse more, but will also see their partners reach orgasm more easily. Most women need prolonged stimulation in order to reach a state of complete arousal, and foreplay will provide them with the required stimulation. no ultimate foreplay There is no such thing as the ultimate foreplay, and it is not about pressing the right buttons in the right order. It is about understanding what makes your partner get hot and delivering the things that make her experience intense pleasure. All women are different. Some get off on being lightly kissed all over their necks while others enjoy direct oral stimulation. There are many ways to give your partner extreme sensations, but one thing is for sure: It all begins in her brain. Simply tell her how beautiful she is and how much you appreciate her sexy body. By complimenting her appearance, especially if her confidence level is low, you are giving her added security and excitement, as well as giving her good reasons to go all out with the foreplay.

Give Her Multiple Orgasms part 2

Try different variations If you know the kind of stimulation she likes, such as clitoral, vaginal or G-spot, it may be wise to keep it that way and just change the position or technique. This will help you give her multiple orgasms. For example, if your girl achieved her last orgasm quickly and easily through clitoral stimulation, hit the same trigger, but try a different angle or speed. This will effectively aid her in reaching another intense orgasm. Conversely, if she has received a lot of clitoral stimulation she may want a break from her little bud being constantly massaged or manipulated. In this case, a vaginal or G-spot rub may hit the spot. Understand that after orgasm some women may experience an almost uncomfortably or unbearably sensitive clitoris. She may not want continued touching in that area. When and if this occurs, attend to another sweet spot while her bundle of nerves recovers. Here, communication continues to be a key point. Make it about her Help her to understand that the night is all about her pleasure. Make her feel that you have the entire night to devote to her satisfaction. Pay no attention to the time it takes. Your patience will have multiple payoffs (i.e. give her multiple orgasms), but if she feels rushed, she will be less inclined to relax and feel comfortable -- feelings that are not conducive to achieving multiples orgasms. An excellent way to emphasize how much you enjoy making her feel good and to show her that it really is all about her is to bring her to orgasm before penetration. She will feel that you really do want her to reach great heights throughout the night, and that you consider your satisfaction secondary -- dont worry, whens she has had enough youll get yours. multiple miracles Remember: Orgasms are for her all night. If she wants a lot of little explosions or one huge inferno, it is for her to decide. This isnt the time to flex your sexual prowess and try to make your woman come over and over if she doesnt want to -- she might prefer the one peak. Remember that the goal is her satisfaction, not your egos inflation by hearing her scream out repeatedly. Just listen to her or ask. Dont assume that you know what she wants and how she wants it. Take your time and you'll give her multiple orgasms.

Give Her Multiple Orgasms

It seems that everyone is talking about multiple orgasms these days. Whats more is that its almost assumed that men have the necessary skills and abilities to give a woman an O face and make her come again and again. Theres a lot of pressure today for men to perform well and to know how to give a girl what she wants. For some women multiple orgasms are like candy: theyre addictive, sweet and very satisfying. Orgasms that occur in succession, a steady stream of one after the other, are called the serial multiple. The sequential orgasm can be like a roller coaster ride interspersed with peaks and lulls with a few minutes between each incredible burst of ecstasy. Female orgasms can also be like scaling Mount Everest, a continuous buildup to one incredible peak. All forms of orgasms are attainable, but it is up to the womans biology and preference to do so. It is folly to assume that she wants to ride that roller coaster or just scale Everest once in an evening. It is very important to communicate with her about what she wants and desires. Talk to her, listen to her and let her know that you want to pleasure her in the ways she wants. If she wants you to give her multiple orgasms, keep reading and put yourself in the know. Create an atmosphere Her comfort is paramount. In order to give her multiple orgasms, shell need to surrender herself to the experience, and shell need to be at ease to do so. You can help calm her mind and quell her inhibitions with a little environmental preparation thats sure to put her on the road to sexual bliss. Clean sheets, downy pillows, tissues by the bed, soft lighting, and subtle scents in the air will aid in creating that easy atmosphere. Take a few minutes to clean your pad, take a shower and shave before she arrives. Also, set your cell phone to silent or turn it off. Finally, if she is a new or newer lover; cut the cord and remove any pictures that remain of your ex. Sweet-talk her While her body rests from its latest mind-blowing peak, keep the momentum and energy going with your mouth, mind, lips, and tongue. OK, you could go down on her, but Im talking about keeping her mind sexually engaged and her body humming with sweet words. You will be able to maintain her physical desire if you describe and tell her how amazing she feels, how incredible she looks as she explodes, and how shes driving you insane with her beautiful body. Be creative and inventive with your words. Women enjoy feeling a strong and firm grip on their body, so take hold of her as you ready her body for yet another orgasm. Shell appreciate your pillow talk and physical desire. The sexier and more comfortable she feels, the more shell let go.

Understanding The Clitoris part 2

Vibrator We're sure you've all heard about how your girl's vibrator can be your best friend. Her battery-powered playthings can definitely help you be in more places at once, which is always a good thing. However, have you thought about ways to ensure clitoral stimulation during intercourse? Lining up your pubic bone to hit her in the right spot can be difficult to figure out and having her "help out" while you penetrate means that she has less hands available to be all over you, so why not try the newest vibrating product to help you both out? Many companies now offer stretchy rings that you can slide onto your member that come with the added bonus of a small knobby protrusion with vibrating capabilities that can ensure an extra boost for her with every thrust. Lubricants The focus of a lot of creams and sexual potions usually centers on the tingling effect or the numbing effect, depending on what you're looking for. While it's true that lubrication is key to making her experience pleasure rather than discomfort when you tackle her clitoris, it's best not to get too caught up in the newest, most flavorful or scientifically superior bottle on the shelf. A plain old personal lubricant on its own can be your best friend when it comes to ensuring an optimal experience for your partner. Don't believe us? Try masturbating with no slippery aid. Enough said.Mouth All women appreciate that you've decided to get up close and personal -- really, they do -- and your mouth (and tongue) are your best aids to helping her achieve an earth-shattering orgasm every time. The built-in lubrication and warmth are obvious pros in favor of oral sex, as is your ability to mix up the sensations with your lips and tongue teamwork. If you're looking to move past the basic flick and swirl and show that you really understand the clitoris, try creating a bit of suction by taking her clitoris into your mouth with some gentle sucking or pulling away when she's close to orgasm, and gently blowing on it to heighten her sensation and prolong the encounter. Penis We don't want to ignore your favorite sex toy when we're discussing her orgasm and understanding the clitoris; your penis can get in the game and help out during foreplay to really get her going as well. During intercourse, your member might not get too much face time with her clitoris, so it's worth taking a bit of time to introduce them -- they're sure to be fast friends. Before sex, why not try having your woman lay on her back with her legs clamped together tightly (on her stomach works too) and slide your member between her legs right where they meet with her pelvis. Moving back and forth in this position lets your penis rub between her labia and, more importantly, directly over her clitoris. Not only does this trick feel great for both of you, it's sure to heighten your collective arousal and result in possible orgasms for everyone.no longer so elusive Understanding the clitoris is the sign of a man that is invested in his partner and her pleasure, both of which are noble qualities. Even though it seems like a bit of a mystery, there's nothing to be afraid of, and many things to gain, namely a happy and satisfied woman. And remember, a satisfied woman is going to be more interested in making sure that you're satisfied too, and you can't ask for more than that.

Understanding The Clitoris

What You Need To Know The clitoris is the most sensitive of women's erogenous zones. There are numerous ways to stimulate the clitoris, including sex toys and oral sex. Sex toys can help you stimulate her clitoris while having intercourse. "The vast majority of women require clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm." If we told you that there was a way to make a woman putty in your hands, would you listen? Guess what, guys: We've figured out exactly what it takes to satisfy your woman -- in the bedroom at least. You might think that a few kisses and the presentation of your proud erect member might be enough to make her quiver, but you might be missing the most important factor in your, and your woman's, sexual satisfaction. Women have so many erogenous zones that it can get a little overwhelming for a guy trying to figure out the magic combination to her satisfaction. You've already gotten a play-by-play overview of the most popular -- her G-spot -- so now it's time to fully consider the never-fail, go-to spot for her orgasm. It's time to focus on the most important square inch on her body: her clitoris. Understanding the clitoris is the key to a woman eager to come back for more. Get comfortable and pay attention, here's everything you need to know when it comes to understanding the clitoris. about the clitoris Just in case you need a refresher course, here are the basic facts: Her clitoris is a small bud-like formation that is located slightly above the opening to her vagina, at the top of her inner labia. Clitoris size and shape differs from woman to woman, but it is generally between 1/8 to 3/8 of an inch in size. Her clitoris is the equivalent of your penis; it's packed with nerve endings and becomes engorged when she's aroused. Vital info: The vast majority of women require clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm -- penetration just isn't always enough on its own. Sounds like a good enough reason to makes its acquaintance, doesn't it? how to play with it Language Sexual stimulation is largely a cerebral activity for women; turning her on requires attention to her brain, not just her body. Even if you and your woman have yet to venture into talking dirty to each other, rest assured that whispering in her ear about what you plan on doing to her, or how turned on you are, can be enough to get her wanting more. The more aroused you can get her before the clothes come off, the easier your next job will be and this is key to understanding the clitoris. Fingers It goes without saying that clean hands and neat fingernails are key if you plan on going exploring, but what you might not realize is that diving in and honing in on her clitoris to start with might not be your best plan of attack. Your fingers are nimble: use them to your advantage. Stroke her thighs on your way and caress the areas on either side of her clitoris, including her labia, before gently making the first contact. A lot of women may find direct pressure uncomfortable, so try aiming just below or just above her clitoris and making small circular movements. Because the clitoris actually extends well into her entire pelvic region, rest assured that her enjoyment will only be enhanced by full manual coverage. Just a note on pressure: Be sure not to get too rough with her sensitive areas before you get to know what she likes and are clear on your understanding of the clitoris. A light touch will be more successful on most women, and those who need a little more are probably going to get frustrated with your restraint and beg for a harder touch. Sounds like a win-win situation to us. Understanding the clitoris can be fun and stimulating for you both...

Positions To Help You Last Longer part 2

Last-longer position 2: Face me Another great position that'll help most men last longer in the sack is the "sitting inside each other" position. You sit with your legs crossed and she sits atop you doing the same and controlling the tempo. The great thing about this position is that you get to rub her back or pull her by the shoulders and suck on her breasts with ease. As well, she can bite into your neck or rub your back while you both enjoy a constant sexual pace. When you become accustomed to this situation and learn adequate penis control, then you can give her some new instructions and get her to squat up and down on your member while she puts her hands on your knees for balance. Last-longer position 3: Ride 'em cowgirl Although some guys lose control, considering they don't have any power when the woman on top does all the maneuvering, many men find a woman's back-and-forth thrusting (rather than up and down) very comfortable. Allowing her to take control of the situation can help you concentrate on keeping your orgasm at bay. As well, you get to watch your sweetheart bounce around while she does her thing. Once the thrusting thing becomes child's play for you, you can try letting her squat. But be warned: The squatting position is likely to make you lose your mind (and your semen) a lot faster. That's because her vagina tends to hug your penis rather tightly, and your genitals and hers are the only two body parts that are touching. Last-longer position 4: Front-to-back This position should usually be reserved for morning sex. With her back facing you, lift up one of her legs and insert yourself inside her warm fleshy area. Although the initial feeling may be that of tightness, if you brace yourself, the feeling will become more comforting. Many guys are able to control themselves and last longer in this position. last longer with these positions Move slowly and don't rush things. Getting overly excited won't do you any good so just keep things calm and at an unhurried, steady tempo. She'll be impressed with your ability to control yourself. Obviously, these positions won't work wonders for everyone, but they will definitely feel great for many. Remember, if you have a problem, see your doctor promptly and don't play the game of denial. And there you have it, some easy ways to keep her satisfied and get a little satisfaction of your own at the same time.

Positions To Help You Last Longer

Positions To Help You Last Longer Are you tired of losing control every time you make love to your woman? Do you want to discover sex positions to help you last longer and that will keep you erect and feeling the good friction without the "Oh no, I'm already at the edge" feeling? Well, today is going to be a very happy day for men out there who get too excited around the vaginal playground. These tips and position suggestions will allow you to delve into your sexual desires without fearing that the finale is just a pump or two away. So, before you burst just thinking about it, we'll get to our positions to help you last longer. Beyond positions to help you last longer Keep in mind that it takes more than just sex positions to help you last longer. First off, you need to keep a positive frame of mind. Don't turn it into a self-fulfilling prophecy by continuously telling yourself that you can't do it. You can, especially if you believe you can. If you have some sort of medical drawback, like erectile dysfunction, then these positions to help you last longer obviously won't work for you. Be realistic and get yourself to a professional as soon as you can to optimize your sex life. Positions can be a game Turning foreplay into a game of lustful sexual containment can be more fun than the actual sex itself. Make your foreplay last. After all, when have you ever heard a woman saying: "He kisses my lips and goes down on me for way too long?" That's what we thought. Enjoy the time you have together and stop focusing on the actual sex because that'll likely cause you to get more nervous, and end up leaving her in the bathroom with a vibrating shower nozzle. Make it a total body experience, not just a penis one -- oh, and learn to please her in the shower as well. Lasting longer can mean some one-on-one You've all heard it before: Practice makes perfect. Don't be shy guys, you did it when you first discovered that something other than urine comes out of your penis, and you can do it now. Masturbation is not a four-letter word (there we go, stating the obvious) and if you want to understand your own waterworks, you're going to have to play the "getting to know you" game with yourself. By stroking yourself and figuring out at which point you feel like ejaculating, you can learn how to maintain your erection and avoid premature incidents. Also, you can bring yourself to the point where you feel like you're about to lose it and stop yourself until the feeling goes away. Keep it up until an adequate amount of time has passed and then let the rivers flow freely.

Sexual Healing part 2

Your body is always in motion, emptying, refilling and replenishing. When the prostate fluid is stagnant, it can build up a toxic load from the rest of your body by simple absorption. This toxic load can ultimately lead to a dysfunctional or enlarged prostate and cancer. Regularly emptying your prostate gland via ejaculation is a good way to keep your prostate healthy, and thus provides sexual healing. The sexual healing doesnt stop here, however. Prostate massage is your friend. To fully empty the prostate of all prostatic fluid, you need to give it a digital (or other) aid. Emptying the prostate means your body will produce a whole new batch of fluids, as well as give your prostate gland a vitality boost with fresh oxygen and nutrients, and maybe a great orgasm to boot.Sex boosts your immune system Wilkes University, in Pennsylvania, has shown that people who have sex twice a week have higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A. This antibody is known to boost the immune system. Another study at the Ohio University College of Osteopathic Medicine found that orgasms boost levels of T3 and T4 lymphocyte cells (white blood cells that produce antibodies that fight infection) by as much as 20%. Sex is a pain killer It is well known that sexual arousal and orgasm produce endorphins -- our feel good factor. Endorphins are known pain killers, but they are not the principal factor. Oxytocin, the latest culprit in sexual healing, has become the new pet for scientists studying sexual responses in humans. This chemical is also thought to be at least partially responsible for bonding between partners. This has also been observed in animals, and sheds some light on monogamous and polygamous animals (and humans). In numerous studies, oxytocin has been shown to increase pain thresholds by up to 115% -- thats why when you get your butt slapped during sex play, it doesnt hurt like it should. Sex reduces depression There is a quip that is not particularly funny: Depression or sex? Choose. Depression often leaves men devoid of sexual desire, and antidepressants are the biological killers of sex drives. A 1999 study found that sex hormones are secreted at different rates; testosterone production is decreased in depressed men. However, according the American Psychological Society, men (and women) who have sex regularly can ward off depression simply by getting active in the sack. Exercise in general makes us feel good and boosts mood. It regulates appetite and hormones, and because of the increase in oxygen and nutrients in the brain, it has a normalizing effect on the entire body. Exercise (and, therefore, sex) reduces the amount of cortisol in the brain, which is the chemical responsible for stress. Oxytocin, another important chemical involved with sexual arousal and orgasm, increases feelings of intimacy, which can ward off loneliness and sadness and help us feel closer to our partners. It also reduces stress and tension. A recent study in Australia found that depressed women have more sex more often (both single and in relationships), and include more bells and whistles in their copulation (foreplay, between-play and after-play) than their happier counterparts. This was thought to be due to the increased intimacy during sex that made the women feel better, albeit temporarily. However, according the American Psychological Society, men (and women) who have sex regularly can ward off depression simply by getting active in the sack. Exercise in general makes us feel good and boosts mood. It regulates appetite and hormones, and because of the increase in oxygen and nutrients in the brain, it has a normalizing effect on the entire body. Exercise (and, therefore, sex) reduces the amount of cortisol in the brain, which is the chemical responsible for stress. Oxytocin, another important chemical involved with sexual arousal and orgasm, increases feelings of intimacy, which can ward off loneliness and sadness and help us feel closer to our partners. It also reduces stress and tension. A recent study in Australia found that depressed women have more sex more often (both single and in relationships), and include more bells and whistles in their copulation (foreplay, between-play and after-play) than their happier counterparts. This was thought to be due to the increased intimacy during sex that made the women feel better, albeit temporarily. Is there such a thing as too much sex? Yes! When a penis becomes erect, no blood flows in or out -- the blood inside the penis at that time must provide all the oxygen required to keep the penis alive. That is why the penis must have a rest. It is during this time of flaccidity that the penis regroups and replenishes oxygen and nutrients into the tissues. Viagra and similar drugs can cause an issue with oxygen supply by maintaining erections for unnaturally long times; this is known as priapism, which causes the slow miserly and painful death of an engorged penis. sexy medicine Sex is one of societies most misunderstood activities, which is somewhat amusing since most people do it for a reasonable portion of their adult life, and if they arent doing it, they wish they were. It doesnt take a scientist to know that sex is good for us and provides a dose or two of sexual healing. However, too much sex, or too little sex, can be unhelpful to our health; moderation is the key.

Sexual Healing

Here are the ways that sex can improve your health We all know that sex makes us feel good; it is common knowledge that arousal and orgasm trigger processes in our bodies (mainly feeling good and relaxed), but what are these sexual healing processes, and how far do they go? Do they really help us achieve better health and happier lives in the long term? Although there are precious few studies on the links between sex and death, a recent Welsh study has shown that men who have regular sex (three times a week or more) live longer than their one- or two-time-a-week counterparts. There may be a few factors that influence this, like sick men have less sex in the first place, and healthier men having more sex due to their vigor. It is difficult to measure accurately; however, the study has pointed out something that has been assumed -- but unproven -- for a long time: Intercourse has a protective sexual healing effect on human beings. It is proven beyond a doubt that married couples live longer than singles, though this again can be due to a number of factors. More stable living habits (food, rest, etc.) and companionship rate highly among reasons for this. Here are some findings on the relation between intercourse and sexual healing. Read about them, and then, for your healths sake, get busy. Sex reduces the risk of heart disease A study published in the Journal of the American College of Cardiology found that men with erectile dysfunction were 58% more likely to develop cardiovascular disease. This does not prove, however, that having regular sex reduces the risk of heart disease, only that the reverse may be true. Factors that predispose someone to erectile dysfunction and heart disease are the same; your erections, like your heart, rely predominantly on the ability of your blood to reach the right places and stay there. This requires your veins and arteries to dilate and contract in all the right places and generally behave properly. Smoking, poor eating habits, lack of exercise, and other unhelpful lifestyle choices significantly impact your bodys ability to perform these functions by impairing your veins and arteries. So, its not the sex that provides sexual healing and reduces the risk of heart disease and erectile dysfunction; the way you treat your body impacts sex. More research has focused on the hormonal affects of libido, arousal and orgasm. DHEA (dehydroepiandrosterone) and testosterone are both key hormones in libido. Both these hormones have been linked to reducing the risk of cardiovascular disease, and are protective of the heart muscle after a heart attack. Doctors do not generally deem sex after a heart attack to be unsafe -- this may be why. Sex reduces the risk of prostate cancer Some cardiologists believe they see a link between lack of ejaculation and prostate cancer. A little understanding about how the prostate works tells us the prostate produces and stores ejaculate fluid. It is fair to say that storing fluid in one place for a long period of time is not a great idea -- just take a look at a pond with no water flow in or out.

Small Penis Sex Positions part 2

The snake For this small penis sex position, youll want your woman lying flat on her belly with her legs closed. For the sake of ease and comfort, slip a pillow beneath her hips until her bottom arches upward. Keeping your knees bent, straddle her hips while maintaining an upright position and place your genitals just behind her bottom. Gently spread her thighs just enough to allow penetration and slide your way in. Take care to keep your weight off her body during intercourse; if you feel the need to brace yourself against something, bend forward until youre able to touch the bed -- it wont detract much from the position. Bite-sized tip: If you really want a tight fit, hold her thighs together as you penetrate her. This is also an excellent position from which to administer a sexy spanking. The rabbit ears Lay your woman down on her back, spread her thighs and draw her legs up until her knees are close to her ears. Slip a pillow under her bottom, as this will place her vagina at an angle better suited for this small penis sex position. When you penetrate her, it will feel as though youre filling her vagina completely. Once sex starts to get wild, however, it can be difficult for a woman to hold her legs in that position. We suggest using your own arms to hold her knees in place; simply place either arm in the crook of her knee before you brace your hands on the bed. Bite-sized tip: This is an excellent position for her to masturbate in. You may want to encourage her to slip a hand between your bodies to stimulate her clitoris while youre rocking her world from inside. The V-formation With your woman lying flat on her back, move between her thighs and enter her as you normally would from a kneeling position. Next, raise her legs and grasp either one around the ankle; youre going to elevate her legs entirely and then spread them apart until they form a V. Youll be able to thrust quite deeply from this small penis sex position, so you may want to gain leverage by bracing your palms against the wall or a headboard. To do this without changing the position, simply drape her legs over your shoulders. Bite-sized tip: This position will give you an excellent opportunity to tease her clitoris. Free one of your hands up by resting one of her legs on your shoulder, and stimulate her clit until she orgasms. prime positions While its true that society tends to place a great deal of importance on size, the simple truth is that a penis of any size can bring a woman to orgasm, provided the man makes the most of what he has. Yes, that might mean you need to stimulate her clit during intercourse, but thats often necessary with a large penis as well. Foreplay is what matters most; one good orgasm from a mans tongue will pretty much win any woman over. Combine that with our small penis sex positions and your woman will be more than satisfied, we promise.

Small Penis Sex Positions

The average erect penis is estimated to be somewhere around six inches in length. If youre one of the millions who fall a bit short of this statistic, you may have concerns about size in relation to your sexual performance. Fret not: While its true that size can have its advantages, its not really the length that matters -- its the width. Additionally, women dont particularly enjoy having their cervices rammed into, which often happens when a man is overly endowed. There is nothing sexy about painful intercourse, and thats precisely what many women complain of when a mans penis is too large. Believe it or not, the right combination of foreplay and stimulation can make a woman worship a small penis just as readily as a large one. Read on as we discuss the best small penis sex positions and how to make the most of them. before you get inside Obviously, theres a great deal more to sex than just penetration, and most men fully recognize the benefits of foreplay. The man with a smaller-sized penis should take even greater advantage of this, prolonging foreplay until his partner is fully and completely aroused; the closer she is to orgasm at the start of actual penetration, the easier it will be for her to climax via one of our small penis sex positions. Focus on foreplay Foreplay should include anything and everything your woman enjoys. Kissing and caressing are always appreciated, but dont limit yourself to the old standbys. Not if you want to really rock her world. Toss in some sexy pillow talk to start, and be sure to have her favorite sex toys on hand. If shes a bit kinky, you may want to try some sensual biting or even a bit of a spanking. The key here is to lavish her with the kind of attention you know she responds well to; you want to get her so hot that she cant help begging for sex. before you get inside Obviously, theres a great deal more to sex than just penetration, and most men fully recognize the benefits of foreplay. The man with a smaller-sized penis should take even greater advantage of this, prolonging foreplay until his partner is fully and completely aroused; the closer she is to orgasm at the start of actual penetration, the easier it will be for her to climax via one of our small penis sex positions. Focus on foreplay Foreplay should include anything and everything your woman enjoys. Kissing and caressing are always appreciated, but dont limit yourself to the old standbys. Not if you want to really rock her world. Toss in some sexy pillow talk to start, and be sure to have her favorite sex toys on hand. If shes a bit kinky, you may want to try some sensual biting or even a bit of a spanking. The key here is to lavish her with the kind of attention you know she responds well to; you want to get her so hot that she cant help begging for sex.before you get inside Obviously, theres a great deal more to sex than just penetration, and most men fully recognize the benefits of foreplay. The man with a smaller-sized penis should take even greater advantage of this, prolonging foreplay until his partner is fully and completely aroused; the closer she is to orgasm at the start of actual penetration, the easier it will be for her to climax via one of our small penis sex positions. Focus on foreplay Foreplay should include anything and everything your woman enjoys. Kissing and caressing are always appreciated, but dont limit yourself to the old standbys. Not if you want to really rock her world. Toss in some sexy pillow talk to start, and be sure to have her favorite sex toys on hand. If shes a bit kinky, you may want to try some sensual biting or even a bit of a spanking. The key here is to lavish her with the kind of attention you know she responds well to; you want to get her so hot that she cant help begging for sex. Stimulate the clitoris Prior to intercourse, youll want to spend as much quality time with the clitoris as she can handle. Whether you do this via oral sex or manual stimulation, make sure she climaxes at least once before you move on to penetration; this will help alleviate any performance anxiety you might experience once youre ready to try the following small penis sex positions. the positions The doggie When performed at the correct angle, the doggie can make even the smallest penis feel quite large. Youll want her positioned in such a way that shes able to comfortably place her head and shoulders on the pillow, while having her bottom raised in the air. To help create the most effective angle, her back should be arched and her thighs should be drawn together. Not only is this the easiest small penis sex position on our list, but its also one of the most popular. Stimulate the clitoris Prior to intercourse, youll want to spend as much quality time with the clitoris as she can handle. Whether you do this via oral sex or manual stimulation, make sure she climaxes at least once before you move on to penetration; this will help alleviate any performance anxiety you might experience once youre ready to try the following small penis sex positions. the positions The doggie When performed at the correct angle, the doggie can make even the smallest penis feel quite large. Youll want her positioned in such a way that shes able to comfortably place her head and shoulders on the pillow, while having her bottom raised in the air. To help create the most effective angle, her back should be arched and her thighs should be drawn together. Not only is this the easiest small penis sex position on our list, but its also one of the most popular. Bite-sized tip: Lean forward during penetration, maintaining as much physical contact as you can comfortably manage; this will keep things intimate, enabling her to reach her sexual peak as quickly as possible.

Morning Sex part 2

Gently wake her Your woman most likely does not want to be greeted immediately by your erect penis waving in her face, so take it easy. Touch her softly and slowly. Give her little kisses all over her face and body. Let your fingers play with her hair. This sensual approach will ensure that she wakes up in a positive, loving mood and makes it much more likely that shell take pleasure in morning sex. Make her feel sexy Your girl may not feel very sexy when she first wakes up, so to get her in the mood be sure to tell her how beautiful she is -- even if shes a bit of a mess. Ignore the disheveled hair, the pillow creases on her face and her less-than-pleasant morning breath, and tell her how badly you want her. If you find it difficult to keep a straight face while telling her how hot she is first thing in the morning, try using a position that doesnt put you face to face. Spooning her from behind is romantic and sensual, while it also conveniently allows you to avoid the misery of morning breath. start your day with a bang Getting busy in the morning can be an excellent start to your day. It gets the feel-good hormones pumping and puts a smile on your face, making it much easier to put up with whatever hassles your day brings. Like anything, having morning sex every single day will get old after a while, especially for your girlfriend who typically does not peak sexually in the morning hours like you do, so be sure to mix it up and get busy at other times of the day too. And there you have it; some easy ways to keep her satisfied and get a little satisfaction of your own at the same time.

Morning Sex

One of the many differences between the sexuality of men and women is that men tend to enjoy morning sex, while women mostly prefer to keep bedroom activity reserved for nighttime. This probably has a lot to do with what is referred to as nocturnal penile tumescence (NPT), which causes a man without erectile dysfunction to have three to five erections as he sleeps. NPT is more commonly referred to as morning wood or morning glory. Whatever you call it, waking up with an erection is as good a reason as any to initiate a little early action. Unfortunately, your girl may not be in the mood the minute she opens her eyes, but if you approach it properly she will very quickly be just as into morning sex as you are. Prepare the night before In order to avoid having to get out of bed in the morning before initiating your early lovin you should do some preparation the night before. Keep some breath mints near the bed so you can quickly take care of your dragon breath before things start to get sexy. Also, be sure to go to the bathroom before you go to sleep to prevent having to get up to take a leak as soon as you wake up. Dont forget to have a condom ready to go within arms reach too. Set your internal alarm Its important to wake up early enough to get a little action in before either of you are due at work. So, set your internal alarm clock to wake you up with enough time to enjoy a little morning make-out time to start your day. Its best if you can wake up before her so you can rouse her into consciousness with your smooth moves. Remember, you might be ready to go, but it could take a while for her to get warmed up, so factor this in when youre figuring out how much time you will need for your morning sex. Morning sex could mean the difference between a good day and a great day ...

Sexual Body Language part 2

Arms splayed out If she's holding herself close she may not be feeling wild abandon -- her arms may be around you, her hands may be on your chest, above your head, wherever, except they're being held in close to her own body. If she's on top she may need her arms to maneuver herself and give herself some leverage to get the best angle. This is certainly not a definitive gesture, but can be useful. Her body should be responding to the situation at hand. She shouldn't be worried about covering herself up or where her arms are. If her arms are stretched wide, either held out to the side or splayed out on the bed sheets, you can bet her sexual body language is telling you you're right where you need to be and she's comfortable (and enjoying the ride). Vaginal muscle movement You have one of your most sensitive parts inside one of her most sensitive parts -- with each movement inside of her you can feel the walls of her vagina, the muscles and flesh. The vaginal wall is an incredibly strong muscle and she will probably use this to some extent for her own pleasure during sex. You may also feel the contracting and relaxing during orgasm -- her vagina spasms and this will clench you to some degree -- but not always, so dont use that as a benchmark. Some women do have great control, and those who do are likely to have better sex and orgasms in general. If you dont feel any clenching, dont panic. You may know already by the feel of her vagina when she's not far away from orgasm -- she may let you enter further, or the overall sensation may be "just right" for you both. Only you can tell, so pay careful attention to her sexual body language and whats going on inside of her. learn the language of lovin' Women love sex as much as men do, but what's sometimes missing is the self-knowledge, and of course a skilled partner who brings out the erotic best in himself and her. If you're unsure as to whether your lover is enjoying herself during sex, there is a need for more investigation. Communicate verbally and non-verbally; ask her what she wants you to do, carefully watch and listen to her responses to what youre doing and dont assume that what worked for your other girlfriends is going to work for her. Every woman (and man) has different tastes and wont necessarily respond to the same touches, so try a few different things and dont stick to a routine. Experiment, tease, tantalize, change positions. When you hear her moan, youll know you've hit just the right spot, so don't stop there.

Sexual Body Language

Sometimes it can be hard to tell whats going on with your girl: Is she enjoying herself? Are you doing it right? Is she satisfied? Women can be hard to read, especially when it comes to sex. Though, all in all, if she is getting off you are bound to know about it on some level. If youre not so sure and need some reassurance, check out her more subtle signs -- her sexual body language. She will show you -- hopefully in no uncertain terms -- how youre performing. Her body will display some overall signs of arousal that she cant fake, but remember every woman is different. So, yes, it can often be just as difficult to get nonverbal feedback on your performance when there are so many variables. So, we've put together some general sexual body language signs that she's getting exactly what she wants from you. Rapid breathing Our breath when resting is a very peaceful and tranquil movement of air in and out of our lungs. It has the delightful title of "inspiration" for breathing in, and "expiration" for breathing out. When a woman is turned on, however, this breath comes in urgent puffs and probably has some involuntary moans escape with it as the air is forced quickly past her vocal cords. The increase in heart rate when her body prepares for orgasm means her internal organs and muscles are demanding more oxygen. If you can hear her breath change, youre on the right track. If you can feel her heart thumping, youre well on your way. This is her sexual body language giving you signals that she's aroused. However, if she's breathing normally after having her "big orgasm," perhaps shes a big faker. General writhing around and body movement If your girl is curling her toes and writhing against you, chances are she's probably enjoying herself. Grinding and pushing against you means that she's really getting into it. If she's lying there limp, then things probably arent happening for her. Try changing positions, or stop entering her and warm her up from the beginning with your mouth or hands and see how her sexual body language progresses from there. Thrusting hips When she meets your thrusts, youre doing something right. It's pretty safe to say that if she's matching your body movements and is in time with you, then she's getting something out of it. Good sex is often very synchronized, as that is how our bodies are designed to produce orgasm; repeated movements in the right spot build to a climaxing. The trouble is finding the right spot, of which there are many. If she isnt meeting your thrusts then her sexual body language is telling you that she wants something else, so change positions and see how she responds.

Get Her To Have Dirty Sex part 2

Play a sex game So youre both open to the idea of getting dirtier in bed together. Now, how do you get started? Talking about it is a lot easier than actually introducing the nastiness into your sex life. A sex game might be just the thing to help you get started. Visit a sex shop and check out the card and board games they have for sale. These are usually aimed at couples that want to add some excitement to their love life and they should give you some ideas. Or, use your imagination and make up your own game together at home. The idea is to get both of you to open up and start trying things out. If all else fails, you can always fall back on the old standard of Truth or Dare. Watch porn or read erotic stories Get each other in the mood by watching porn stars get it on or by reading some stimulating erotic fiction. Even if shes not normally into watching porn, when youre trying to get dirty with each other, she may be open to incorporating a video or two. Erotic writing of a less-than-professional caliber can be found all over the internet, but there are also quality sexy stories available from people with actual skill. Take a trip to the bookstore together and pick out something that looks promising. Initiate You are probably going to have to be the one to make the first move if you want to get a little nastier in the bedroom. Even if youve piqued her interest, shes still not likely to start things off herself. Start talking dirty, set the mood and hopefully shell follow your lead. she may surprise you For most women, revealing their private, filthy thoughts may be difficult, let alone actually acting on them with you. Once you get her comfortable talking about it, disclose some of your own secrets ideas, gather some inspiration and try new things. You may be surprised to find out that your girl is more of a freak in bed than you wouldve guessed.

Get Her To Have Dirty Sex

The minds of men are frequently occupied with sexual ideas that would repulse the average woman. While this is the typical case, dont assume that your girlfriend doesnt have a dirty side. One of the advantages of being in a long-term relationship is the opportunity to share your sexual fantasies with each other and try them out. Unfortunately, it may be a challenge to get your girl to reveal her nasty inner thoughts. In order to determine if the girl youre with is open to experimenting with dirty sex, start off by testing the waters with a few questions on the more innocent end of the sexual spectrum. Try: Have you ever tied anyone up or been tied up? Do you own any sex toys? What do you fantasize about when you masturbate? What is something youve always wanted to try? These questions should get her to open up and start sharing some intimate details of her sexual personality with you. Then you can lead her down the path to dirtiness and hopefully get her to have dirty sex. If she gets scared off or grossed out by these questions, you have yourself a non-kinky girl -- too bad for you Still, even the innocent can be corrupted. Here are our suggestions to help you get her to have dirty sex. Tell her about your fantasies If you get the feeling that shell be receptive to taking a darker turn in your sex life together, take the first step by revealing some of your secret fantasies. Dole out a little at a time and see how she reacts. Hopefully, shell share some of her inner thoughts in return; when she does, make sure you show plenty of enthusiasm for her ideas if you want to get her to have dirty sex. An important thing to keep in mind when having this sharing session is to keep it in the realm of fantasy. Dont start telling her about dirty sex youve had in the past with other women or your whole plot will come to a screeching halt. Make it new for both of you Approach the dirty experimentation like its new for both of you. Think of something youve never tried before and suggest that you try it together. If she knows youre starting out on a level playing field, shell be more likely to let her inhibitions go and get wild with you. If you want to get her to have dirty sex with you and you act like youre an expert in the area, chances are shes going to freeze up on you instead of enjoying herself.

Kissing Women: Their Favorite Places

Chances are good that you are not using one of the best tools in your sexual arsenal to its full potential. This secret weapon is your mouth. Were not just talking about oral sex here, although you should be giving her oral pleasure on a regular basis if you want to be a good lover, and were going to go beyond kissing on the mouth in this article, which you should have mastered by now if you want to kiss her anywhere else. Your mouth can be applied to various other parts of her body by kissing, licking, nibbling, biting, and sucking. Anywhere you touch her with your hands will most likely feel even better when stimulated by a warm, wet mouth. When it comes to kissing women, some of their favorite places are obvious, while others are frequently overlooked. Ears The ears are an often-neglected area of the body that can be the site of intense pleasure for her and using your mouth is the best way to stimulate them. Gentle nibbling on the earlobe is a reliable way to send shivers down her spine, but you should also try lightly brushing your lips against her ear, which will rouse the soft, fine hairs there creating waves of tingly pleasure. Back of the neck One of the easiest and most dependable ways to get her in the mood is to place your mouth on the back of her neck. This works especially well if you take her by surprise. When shes at the sink doing dishes or working on the computer, approach her quietly from behind, sweep her hair off the back of her neck and kiss her there. She will soon forget her task and want more. Face There are few things more personal than kissing a woman on the face. Your warm, fuzzy feelings for her can be expressed by placing sweet, light kisses on her cheeks, forehead, jaw line, even her nose and closed eyelids. But dont lick her face. Just dont. Its icky, not sexy. No biting either. Her face should be treated with tenderness and reverence. Collarbone While her clothes are still on, one of the most intimate places you can lay some kisses is along her collarbone. A womans exposed collarbone is sexy and your mouth on it makes her think of your mouth on more private parts of her body. So start off with kisses there before you move on to places you cant reach while shes fully clothed. Hips Her hips are more sensitive than you would guess. It could be because they are so close to the center of her physical pleasure. Whatever the reason, kissing, licking and nibbling at her hips will send currents of delight down to her toes and up to the top of her head. Dont neglect this place she wants your mouth to be. Breasts Putting your mouth on her breasts can be intensely sexy, but doing it wrong can turn her right off. Kissing, licking and sucking are all recommended and even some gentle biting can be acceptable as long as you take it easy. Her breasts are delicate, so dont forget that you have to treat them appropriately. Unless shes into hardcore S&M, hard sucking and biting are no-nos. Her breasts should not have bruises when you are done with them. Also, remember that her nipples are not the only parts that need some attention. Use your mouth all over her breasts for maximum effect. No-go areas No matter where your mouth ends up, its probably going to make her feel good. However, there are a couple body parts you should always get permission to apply your mouth to before exploring, including her feet and her bum. Some girls simply arent into having your mouth in these sensitive areas, so ask her before you go there. On the other hand, some girls would enthusiastically welcome some toe sucking or some tongue action down below. Find out where she stands and use your mouth accordingly.

Threesomes: Make Them Happen

What You Need To Know Some women are flattered when you suggest a threesome, so keep an open mind. Begin by sharing a threesome fantasy and then letting it become a reality organically. Set up ground rules to avoid relationship problems:Sure, sex with your partner is smokin, but how much hotter would it be to add a third person to the mix? At Good In Bed, we know that a threesome, or menage a trois, has crossed the minds of most couples at some point or another, whether as a fantasy or the real thing. And while not everyone is comfortable even suggesting one, a little honesty can go a long way to help you make the fantasy a reality or even just incorporate the fantasy into your own sex life. Heres how to make threesomes happen. Keep an open mind When one partner suggests a threesome, its easy for the other to feel worried about the state of the relationship. Really, a threesome sex fantasy is a compliment. Any time Ive had a partner approach me with the idea, Ive felt flattered and viewed it as a positive sign of their comfort level with me, regardless of whether I actually chose to participate. Make it a fantasy first Your ability to talk about a threesome is a good indicator of the strength of your relationship (and communication is key when it comes to making threesomes happen). In the Good In Bed Guide to 52 Weeks of Amazing Sex, the authors discuss how to get the most juice out of this fantasy, as well as other sexy scenarios. Can you two discuss other sexual topics openly and without embarrassment? If so, this chat is probably going to go a lot more smoothly. Start off by enjoying the concept of a threesome as a sexy secret fantasy between the two of you. Pretend youre going to have one and choose celebrities or random people from a crowd that appeal to you both. Now gauge your partners reaction. Does she show a spark of interest in the real thing? If not, keep it as a fantasy and use sex toys, porn or role-playing to incorporate it into your sex life. If she is interested, move on to the next step. Discuss the details If your partner shows interest in an actual threesome, its time to hash out the details. How do you envision it? How does she? Its no surprise that about 95% of heterosexual guys prefer a woman to be the guest star, and while some female partners agree, others are more interested in adding another man to the mix. Talk about your preferences, including whether you both want to partake, whether one of you wants to watch, or a bit of both. Set some ground rules Setting up some threesome rules are a crucial part of pulling it off. Research shows that women can be awfully protective of their emotional bond with their boyfriend or husband. Its important to realize that if she feels threatened by your guest star, your threesome is going to end pretty badly -- and so might your relationship. Talk about the ground rules before the night begins: Are you OK with her kissing the third party? Is she all right with you penetrating another woman? Discuss all the potential outcomes so you both know what to expect. Dont push your partner into anything shes not ready for. And remember: Make her the star of the show.

4 Tricks To Make Her Orgasm part 2

"Whether youre kissing her there, stroking her or gently teasing her with a tickler, just make sure your moves are curvy." Whether youre kissing her there, stroking her or gently teasing her with a tickler, just make sure your moves are curvy." Kiss the right side of her spine Touch on the right side of a womans spine makes her melt more so than the left side, perhaps because the left side of the brain controls her right side and it's the logical side that can talk her into anything. Whether youre kissing her there, stroking her or gently teasing her with a tickler, just make sure your moves are curvy. Youll cover more mileage, not to mention get better mileage out of your touch, since its significantly more intense than a straight touch. climax trickery Time for you to take your tricks for a test drive. With all that attention, her skin will be flushed, her pupils dilated, parts of her shaking, and those she can steady, shell be pushing into you -- until shes done and cant take anymore, that is. Now thats how to make her orgasm for real and, trust us, you'll be able to tell the difference.

4 Tricks To Make Her Orgasm

What You Need To Know Use the erogenous zones to your advantage - like the back to the right of the spine. Take your time when you're down below. It's scientifically proven that warmer feet lead to more orgasms. Shes arching her back, moaning and groaning, and giving Meg Ryan a run for her money. Youre impressed by your ability to make her squirm like that, but deep down your thoughts race between: "What if shes faking?" and "If not, how do I hit this magic button again?" If youve ever been there, or for that matter would like to find yourself in that enviable position, check out these four tricks to make her orgasm. Put on musky cologne Smell is the strongest of the five senses when it comes to sexual functioning for two reasons: First, since anything musky mimics testosterone, itll kick her libido into high gear. Baby powder can have a similar effect by activating her scent print, which links babies to procreation. Second, because smell, sex and memory centers share close quarters in the brain, the scent of arousal leaves the most lasting impression. The second she gets a whiff of your musky cologne, shell be transported back to the last time she smelled it on your body. Warm up her feet Every guy knows that when a woman hits the sack she loves to wedge her cold feet between his legs to warm up. Warm feet do more to make a woman physically comfortable than just about anything else -- even more so if you want her completely naked, which is not likely to happen if shes cold, even with the lights off. What most of you probably didnt realize was the importance of warm feet in increasing the likelihood of her experiencing an orgasm. According to Dutch scientists from the University of Groningen, the odds are increased by 30%. Maybe leaving the socks on isnt such a bad idea after all. If you want to try something sexier, a foot massage with a warming gel can do wonders, especially if you concentrate on the pads of her toes and the webbing in between, which are linked to her nether zones according to reflexology charts. Moreover, lips, hands, feet, and genitals get the lions share of brain space, where feet and genital centers are neighbors, making them share sexy information. Why else do you think women call shoe shopping retail therapy -- especially when theyre not getting any at home and feeling bummed out? So socks or stilettos, you choose, as long as theyre keeping her tootsies warm.

6 Female Libido Killers part 4

Sedatives: Medications like Xanex, Diazepam and Valium are known to lower ones sex drive and ability to be aroused. Occasionally, this may result in an inability to reach orgasm, which can be a terrifying and stressful experience. Most sedatives do exactly that -- sedate the body and mind. Having high energy levels and normal brain-body function is impaired significantly, leaving women feeling more like a lobotomized zombie than a sex goddess. It is hard to help things like this when the doctor seems to be in charge, and the reasons for being on sedatives are unique. Keeping the body as toxin-free as possible is always a good idea, so exercise, water and doing fun things will help her regain her health and well-being. Other prescription drugs: Antihistamines can effect lubrication and cause drowsiness; antipsychotic, anti-seizure, anti-cancer, and non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs can all effect libido in a negative way. Recreational drugs Ecstasy: This drug is great for making out, and her sex drive is likely to go through the roof when shes on it since her body is in the best mood ever, and everything feels great. The negative effects of ecstasy use are the after-effects of low serotonin -- depression of normal body functions while the body realigns itself chemically and physically. Ecstasy is an aphrodisiac, but regular use is bad news. Marijuana: Smoking pot has a depressant effect on the body, therefore, this drug is a libido killer. It also dries the vagina (and mouth) up, which is not helpful. If you want to have sex, dont get her stoned. Amphetamines (speed, crystal meth): Amphetamines are known to cause sexual dysfunction in both men and women. While speeding, sex is likely to be far from her (and your) mind, but talking a lot, and really fast, will not be. Opiates (seroin, cocaine): Opiates are linked with the inability to orgasm and low sexual desire. Men may find they cannot get an erection, and women can have problems with moisture. Most people who use heroin say that sex is very low on the list of important things to do. Cocaine can be good for confidence, and sometimes increase sensations, but overall it is a slack aphrodisiac. Illnesses and disorders Thyroid: Problems with the thyroid directly affect hormones, which in turn wreaks chaos with a womans sex drive. It is one of the most undiagnosed problems with low sex drive because it is not really talked about as a symptom. Adrenal glands: The adrenal glands are responsible for producing some of the testosterone in women, so when this gland is not performing to its peak, the amount of testosterone (the sex hormone) is lowered. This means shell experiences less desire to have sex at any time. This gland is what keeps a womans sex drive active after menopause (when the ovaries, which are responsible for the rest of the testosterone, cease to function). Hysterectomy: The removal of the uterus (and sometimes the fallopian tubes and ovaries) effects women differently. In studies, half the women experienced an improvement in their sex lives, with 21% seeing a decrease in desire and enjoyment. This shows that it could go either way. Depending on the circumstances of the hysterectomy, there will be many other factors influencing her sexuality and well-being. Because of the low levels of testosterone, she may end up with other problems, like thyroid deficiency, low energy levels and moodiness. long live the libido Defining the problem is the first step toward discovering why were not getting laid as much as we should be. Whether it's overuse of McDonalds or overuse of ecstasy, everything we put inside us effects our bodies and, therefore, our sex drives. If you can find the real problem, you can fix it. A word of caution: Approach things you think would benefit from a change with tact and sensitivity. You dont want to be booted out onto the sidewalk with teeth marks on your neck.

6 Female Libido Killers part 3

Female Libido Killers Testosterone is responsible for much of a woman's sex drive, so the loss of her already low levels is bad news. This can be a trade off, because we all love raw sex. Going off the pill may not be the best idea, so get her to ask her doctor for an alternative type of birth control. Depo-Provera injection: This injection is a high dose of artificial progesterone. This tricks the body into thinking it is already pregnant, but progesterone inhibits the production of estrogen, which is essential for the health of her reproductive system and, therefore, essential to her sex drive. The lack of estrogen can cause a problem called atrophic vaginitis, which can make sex painful and cause serious and uncomfortable problems with the urinary tract, vagina and vulva. This form of birth control has been linked with mental health issues, weight gain and vaginal problems that hinder sex by making it painful and uncomfortable. Aside from those symptoms, it decreases sex drive considerably in most women, which is obviously not good for you. Implanon implants: Similar to Depo-Provera, this implant is a slow release of progesterone that can last in the body for up to three years. The good news: Her sex drive may hit the roof (or the floor), taking you with it. If it works for her, it is a good (and sex-a-plenty) alternative to the pill. The bad news: This matchstick-size implant can wreak havoc with her body, resulting in a very high sex drive, but almost black-widow-like behavior (she'll hunt you down, screw you, then eat you alive). The side effects -- moodiness, obsessive behavior, acne, and depression -- can be very destructive. It also causes swelling of the brain. Every woman experiences different changes in libido, both positive and negative, while using this form of birth control. Prescription drugs Antidepressants: Some antidepressants can increase libido in women, while others, such as Prozac, reduce it significantly. There are some that have had fewer reported sexual side effects, so if one antidepressant doesn't work well, there are other options. Overall, antidepressants help encourage sex because she will be feeling better about life in general and will have more energy, but orgasm can often be delayed or not happen at all. In this case, good communication is essential because a chemistry problem can turn into a psychological problem very quickly. If you have to kiss and play around while she gets better, then so be it; pressure to have sex is also a libido killer. Blood pressure drugs: Most blood pressure drugs kill a woman's sex drive, so other drugs may be prescribed to counter this. The doctor may try a few different types of blood pressure drugs to find one that won't affect her sex drive. The reason for the high blood pressure needs to be addressed so she can get back to full health, and easy ways to help this are encouraging exercise and good diet, and doing fun, stress-free activities.

6 Female Libido Killers part 2

Better your sex life by ditching the burger and fries and avoiding these female libido killers... It can be an extremely stupid thing to suggest to a woman that she exercise more, so by suggesting physical activities you can do together (like going for jogs or rollerblading), you are improving your own sex life (and overall health and happiness) as well as hers. Poor diet Diet plays a major role in painful periods, and in overall happiness and well-being. Her diet can be stopping her from feeling her best, so taking a good look at what goes in will help to determine what her body dishes out. After all, we are what we eat. Again, suggesting she stop eating crap food is going to land you in the dog house, so make these changes to your own eating habits so she doesnt feel she is being picked on. Let her learn by your example. Swap the chips for a salad, the Coke for water, and both your energy levels will rise as a result. More energy for life means more energy for sex. Toxic overload If we dont help our bodies clear out toxins, they will build up and give us zits, odors and low energy levels. Helping our bodies rid the toxins will make us feel better quite easily and quickly. Smoking, pollution, lack of exercise, bad diet, and being overweight all make us feel less stellar than we should, and these factors also kill our sex drives. The best ways to rid our bodies of toxins are to drink plenty of water and antioxidants like green tea, and get exercise. PMT PMT can affect her in the week or days before her period. All women experience premenstrual changes, but some have what is clearly defined as a serious problem. You probably know of women who suffer from PMT: they are the women you refer to as The Bitch or The Psycho. Their behavior is irrational, illogical, emotional, and fraught with tension and anxiety. One minute they may seem perfectly fine, and the next they are a raging maniac, crying, yelling, and being irritable.This may be a bad time for trying to have sex, and saying something like, Have you got your period? will go over like a lead balloon. In saying this, sometimes increased premenstrual aggression means sex is especially vigorous and primal. Women are extra sensitive during this time because of high estrogen levels. The best way to deal with this is to avoid arguing back, and if you want to help fix the problem, encourage her to do some exercise and other stress-relieving activities (and yes, sex is one of these, but do try others). Birth control Oral contraceptive pill: The OCP is a small pill that controls the bodys hormones artificially to prevent pregnancy. The good news: The freedom gained from the pill is an aphrodisiac; knowing she wont get pregnant is liberating, and definitely encouraging for both of you. The bad news: The pill can be dangerous for a womans libido. Her hormones are leveled completely (and artificially), which rules out the sexual peak at ovulation (most birth control pills force the body to skip ovulation) and just before her period. It effects the body by increasing the levels of something called SHBG (sex hormone-binding globulin), which attaches itself to testosterone in her bloodstream, rendering it useless.

Women's sexual response

Do all women have the same sexual feelings? No they don't. In actual fact, women vary enormously in their sexual drive. Some don't feel very interested in sex at all whereas others are passionate and wild about it. But an extraordinary change has taken place in the last 50 years or so. Back in the mid-20th century, it was generally felt by doctors that most women fell into the 'not very interested' group - and that only a few were enthusiastically sexy. By the 21st century, all that had changed. Today, it is widely assumed by the media - and by many of the public - that most women are easily aroused by sexual stimuli and that only a minority have little interest in sex. In fact, that isn't really true. Our research indicates that although most modern females are much more 'open' about sex, and are keen to enjoy it; it takes them time to learn how to do this. Indeed, a small study which we completed in 2005 indicated that a considerable proportion of young women just starting at university have thus far developed very little interest in sex (or knowledge about it), and have not even learned to reach orgasm yet. However, many of them do become very much more sexually charged as the years progress. Learning how to reach orgasm We have found that younger females frequently have no real knowledge of the process of sexual arousal. In particular, women often need quite a lot of help to learn how to reach orgasm. Unlike males most of whom can 'come' easily from the moment they reach puberty females will often spend a couple of years experimenting with their sexual feelings before they eventually learn how to come regularly and reliably. But once women have learned to cast off their inhibitions and enjoy sex, they tend to respond to sexual stimuli in very much the same way. What are women's sexual reactions? A woman's first response to sexual stimulation is usually a nice, warm feeling all over her body as she begins to let herself go. At the same time her pulse rate starts to go up, and the pupils of her eyes get bigger. Incidentally, this widening of the pupils makes her more attractive sexually. In the olden days, drugs like belladonna ('beautiful woman') were used to produce this effect. What happens to her sex organs as she gets aroused? Laboratory studies carried out in Holland in 2004 show that as s soon as a woman starts thinking with interest about sex, her vagina begins to moisten. (This is the female equivalent of erection in men.) The reason for this moistening is to lubricate her vagina, in preparation for possible sexual activity. At the same time, various other things happen: her clitoris the most erotically sensitive part of her body swells up. her labia (the lips of the opening of her vagina) also swell up. The effect of this is to open up her vaginal opening slightly, in preparation for intercourse. inside her, her vagina opens up making room for the possible entry of a penis. What happens next? As she gets more and more aroused, her breasts will swell a little and her nipples will become more prominent. Her breathing gets faster and she starts to gasp. Her eyes tend to become glazed and she is likely to lick her lips - thus making them even more attractive to her partner. If she is fair-skinned, a faint pink 'rash' will develop at the base of her neck and over her breasts. And finally? And finally, she climaxes. What generally happens here is that she experiences a series of waves of ever-increasing pleasure, till eventually the last one is so mind-blowing that she nearly passes out. At that moment, nearly all women cry out sometimes very loudly! The muscles of their faces and bodies contract violently (but very enjoyably) and then after a while everything relaxes. So that's the end? No, not really. These days, most women can if they want to - go on to have further climaxes. But this will only happen if: they are happy and relaxed they are being skilfully stimulated they have learned how to have multiple orgasms. This is of course, a dramatic difference between the sexual response of females and males. Nearly all men have no chance whatsoever of enjoying multiple climaxes!

Exploring Female Sexual Fantasies

Freud once stated that only unsatisfied people have sexual fantasies. Well, the bearded shrink was wrong; studies of human sexual behavior have proven exactly the opposite. Sexual fantasies have been shown to be associated with high libido as defined by high sex drive and orgasm frequency. This was especially true for women: those who had more sexual fantasies also had higher sexual desire and sexual satisfaction. Pleasure fuels a desire for more pleasure. And while there exists a common false belief that men daydream about sex every seven seconds or so during their waking hours, women also frequently fantasize, especially after they have become aroused. Indeed, women who have sexual fantasies during arousal are much more likely to experience orgasms than women who do not. So don't feel guilty if you find yourself fantasizing about Angelina Jolie while making love to your girlfriend or wife. While you are humping away at your imaginary Angelina, she is probably dreaming about being ravished by Brad Pitt on some deserted island in a modern-day remake of From Here to Eternity. In fact, research has shown that women are just as likely as men to have sexual fantasies during intercourse; and just like men, women often fantasize about having sex with other partners.what does that say about her? Just because she is fantasizing about someone else does not mean she is unhappy with her man. For reasons similar to those that cause men to imagine themselves with other partners, the "spice" of the fantasy simply adds to her arousal and provides that extra "oomph" to bring her over the top. While she might be plenty happy with her man's performance, dreaming that it is Brad Pitt who is giving her that pleasure just enhances its orgasmic potency.what do women fantasize about? One person at a time Nevertheless, female fantasies are different from male ones in several major ways. Men tend to fantasize about a greater number of sexual partners, and many men like to "swap" their imagined partners, while women tend to "stay" with one specific person during their fantasy. Vivid fantasies, free of precise details Men tend to focus on activities and body organs during their fantasies, which led researchers to describe male fantasies as consisting of "sex acts and parts." Even though women's fantasies are just as vivid, they are frequently unable to provide the same descriptive details about the objects of their fantasy. Women's fantasies are also less explicit -- women are far less likely than men to visualize their imagined lover's genitals than men are. Instead, women appear to be more involved with their own emotional responses than with the characteristics of their imaginary partners. Their fantasies frequently include descriptions of their imagined selves, such as: "I look so sexy wearing my favorite blue lingerie that he can't take his eyes off me." Women are also more likely to describe feelings that their fantasies evoke: "I felt happy and free."

Sexual Problems in Men part 3

What Tests Are Used to Evaluate Sexual Problems? Several tests can be used to evaluate the causes and extent of male sexual problems. They include: Blood tests -- These tests are done to evaluate hormone levels. Vascular assessment -- This involves an evaluation of the blood flow to the penis. A blockage in a blood vessel supplying blood to the penis may be contributing to erectile dysfunction. Sensory testing -- Particularly useful in evaluating the effects of diabetic neuropathy (nerve damage), sensory testing measures the strength of nerve impulses in a particular area of the body. Nocturnal penile tumescence and rigidity testing -- This test is used to monitor erections that occur naturally during sleep. This test can help determine if a man's erectile problems are due to physical or psychological causes. How Is Male Sexual Dysfunction Treated? Many cases of male sexual dysfunction can be corrected by treating the underlying physical or psychological problems. Treatment strategies may include the following: Medical treatment -- This involves treatment of any physical problem that may be contributing to a man's sexual dysfunction. Medications -- Medications, such as Cialis, Viagra or Levitra, may help improve sexual function in men by increasing blood flow to the penis. Hormones -- Men with low levels of testosterone may benefit from hormone supplementation (testosterone replacement therapy). Psychological therapy -- Therapy with a trained counselor can help a person address feelings of anxiety, fear, or guilt that may have an impact on sexual function. Mechanical aids -- Aids such as vacuum devices and penile implants may help men with erectile dysfunction. Education and communication -- Education about sex and sexual behaviors and responses may help a man overcome his anxieties about sexual performance. Open dialogue with your partner about your needs and concerns also helps to overcome many barriers to a healthy sex life. Can Sexual Problems Be Cured? The success of treatment for sexual problems depends on the underlying cause. The outlook is good for dysfunction that is related to a treatable or reversible physical condition. Mild dysfunction that is related to stress, fear, or anxiety often can be successfully treated with counseling, education, and improved communication between partners. Can Sexual Problems be Prevented? While sexual problems cannot be prevented, dealing with the underlying causes of the dysfunction can help you better understand and cope with the problem when it occurs. There are some things you can do to help maintain good sexual function: Follow your doctor's treatment plan for any health conditions. Limit your alcohol intake. Quit smoking. Deal with any emotional or psychological issues such as stress, depression, and anxiety. Get treatment as needed. Increase communication with your partner. When Should I Call My Doctor About a Sexual Problem? Many men experience a sexual problem from time to time. However, when the problems are persistent, they can cause distress for the man and his partner, and have a negative impact on their relationship. If you consistently experience sexual function problems, see your doctor for evaluation and treatment.

Sexual Problems in Men part 2

What is Erectile Dysfunction? Also known as impotence or ED, erectile dysfunction is defined as the inability to attain and/or maintain an erection suitable for intercourse. Causes of erectile dysfunction include diseases affecting blood flow, such as atherosclerosis (hardening of the arteries); nerve disorders; psychological factors, such as stress, depression, and performance anxiety (nervousness over his ability to sexually perform); and injury to the penis. Chronic illness, certain medications, and a condition called Peyronie's disease (scar tissue in the penis) can also cause erectile dysfunction. What is Inhibited Sexual Desire? Inhibited desire, or loss of libido, refers to a decrease in desire for, or interest in sexual activity. Reduced libido can result from physical or psychological factors. It has been associated with low levels of the hormone testosterone. It also may be caused by psychological problems, such as anxiety and depression; medical illnesses, such as diabetes and high blood pressure; certain medications, including some antidepressants; and relationship difficulties. How Are Male Sexual Problems Diagnosed? To diagnose a man's sexual problem, the doctor likely will begin with a thorough history of symptoms. He or she may order other tests to rule out any medical problems that may be contributing to the dysfunction. The doctor may refer you to other doctors, including a urologist (a doctor specializing in the urinary tract and male reproductive system), an endocrinologist (a doctor specializing in hormonal issues), a neurologist (a doctor specializing in disorders of the nervous system), sex therapists, and other counselors.

Sexual Problems in Men

Introduction A sexual problem, or sexual dysfunction, refers to a problem during any phase of the sexual response cycle that prevents the individual or couple from experiencing satisfaction from the sexual activity. The sexual response cycle has four phases: excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. While research suggests that sexual dysfunction is common (43% of women and 31% of men report some degree of difficulty), it is a topic that many people are hesitant to discuss. Fortunately, most cases of sexual dysfunction are treatable, so it is important to share your concerns with your partner and doctor. What Causes Sexual Problems? Sexual dysfunction can be a result of a physical or psychological problem. Physical causes: Many physical and/or medical conditions can cause problems with sexual function. These conditions include diabetes, heart and vascular (blood vessel) disease, neurological disorders, hormonal imbalances, chronic diseases such as kidney or liver failure, and alcoholism and drug abuse. In addition, the side effects of certain medications, including some antidepressant drugs, can affect sexual desire and function. Psychological causes: These include work-related stress and anxiety, concern about sexual performance, marital or relationship problems, depression, feelings of guilt, and the effects of a past sexual trauma. Who is Affected by Sexual Problems? Both men and women are affected by sexual problems. They can occur in adults of all ages. Among those commonly affected are seniors, which may be related to a decline in health associated with aging. How do Sexual Problems Affect Men? The most common sexual problems in men are ejaculation disorders, erectile dysfunction, and inhibited sexual desire. What Are Ejaculation Disorders? There are different types of ejaculation disorders, including: Premature ejaculation -- This refers to ejaculation that occurs before or soon after penetration. Inhibited or retarded ejaculation -- This is when ejaculation is slow to occur. Retrograde ejaculation -- This occurs when, at orgasm, the ejaculate is forced back into the bladder rather than through the urethra and out the end of the penis. In some cases, premature and inhibited ejaculation are caused by a lack of attraction for a partner, past traumatic events, and psychological factors, including a strict religious background that causes the person to view sex as sinful. Premature ejaculation, the most common form of sexual dysfunction in men, often is due to nervousness over how well he will perform during sex. Certain drugs, including some antidepressants, may affect ejaculation, as can nerve damage to the spinal cord or back. Retrograde ejaculation is common in males with diabetes who suffer from diabetic neuropathy (nerve damage). This is due to problems with the nerves in the bladder and the bladder neck that allow the ejaculate to flow backward and into the bladder. In other men, retrograde ejaculation occurs after operations on the bladder neck or prostate, or after certain abdominal operations. In addition, certain medications, particularly those used to treat mood disorders, may cause problems with ejaculation. This generally does not require treatment unless it impairs fertility.

Can you have multiple orgasms?

Being Multi-orgasmic, is it a fallacy, here are some of the details. Definition of multiple orgasms: experiencing orgasms within half a minute to a minute apart, which is quite close together. Each orgasm in a multiple session doesn't have to be earth shattering, it can be waves of pleasure, or even tension releases, we all experience orgasms differently and at different intensities, so multiple orgasms also vary with each individual. Women Fact: Women are more multi-orgasmic than men because they don't have to go through as long a refractory period as men. And when they do orgasm they remain on a plateau stage, which means they stay aroused even after an orgasm. Once a woman experiences an orgasm, she is likely to be able to achieve another if she keeps stimulating her genitals after, though your clitoris may be too sensitive, use other indirect stimulation on your vagina, labia, anus or breasts/nipples. During intercourse the best position to use is female dominant as she has full control over how quickly and deeply she is penetrated and how much friction she feels against her clitoris. Most women that experience multiple orgasms are usually in their late 20's and early 30's, usually as they become more aware of what their bodies like but that doesn't mean it can be experienced if you are outside this age range. There are many women in their 40s that achieve multiple orgasms. How to be multi-orgasmic? Masturbation is the absolute best way for anyone, to learn about their bodies and what they like sexually. So, when you masturbate, stimulate yourself to the verge of orgasm, then pause, hold back, wait and continue in a slower more relaxed pace. Repeat the whole process, until you absolutely can't hold off any longer, then allow yourself to orgasm. As you start to calm down then stimulate your vagina, and the area around the clitoris until you feel the waves building up, then move more directly to your clitoris. Use your fingers or a small vibrator such as the "fingertron" for more tips about masturbation and vibrators see the two articles on these subjects. With your partner during intercourse? The most advantageous position for a woman to experience multiple orgasms is the Woman-On-Top position. This allows her to initiate and direct most of the movements as far as how quickly and deeply she's penetrated and she can also control the amount of stimulation to her clitoris. What about Men? Generally, men are not as multi-orgasmic as women because when men ejaculate they go through an unresponsive stage this can last for only minutes but may last for hours, meaning that unlike women, who can continue genital stimulation right after orgasm, men can not. Following ejaculation, men have to start from the beginning, getting aroused to totally erect all over again. The key to men being multi-orgasmic is to learn to hold off on ejaculation. We must explore male orgasm to understand this. Generally, men have an orgasm and ejaculate at the simultaneously, leading themselves to believe that the two go hand in hand, but this is not necessarily so. The act of ejaculating and experiencing and orgasm are two different things for men. Many men have ejaculated without experiencing orgasm and vice versa, climaxing without ejaculating. And that's the key, because by not ejaculating you'll remain in a high stage of excitement. Men need that rest period after ejaculating. Many of the men that experience orgasm without ejaculating experience a very short unresponsive rest period. Can a man learn to be multi-orgasmic? Developing strong PC muscles can help you control when you ejaculate. You can do this by trying to use your internal muscles to move and lift your penis, this will help you control yourself, and it looks rather sexy. Another method you can use is to stimulate yourself to the verge of an orgasm, once you reach that point, use your index finger and thumb to pinch down on your testicles. Take a deep breath and go again, this will teach control. During intercourse Get your partner can stimulate you to the verge of orgasm, or show your lover, and they can pinch your testicles, take a deep breathe and start again, until your ready to orgasm. Either that or when you feel yourself getting close to orgasm, stop all stimulation to yourself and concentrate on your partner, then when you've leveled out, start up again, its all about control. It's a wonderful experience if you can learn to experience multiple orgasms. Although, it should not be the prime goal all of your sexual encounters, remember also that if you can't it's not a problem, because only 60% of women can experience multiple orgasms. The most important thing is that you and your partner enjoy each other while you're together, sharing lots of foreplay before engaging in intercourse. Make that the very last thing you do and even once youve finished, bask in the afterglow with your partner.

Sex On The Beach � Fantasy Fulfilled

The only persistent fantasy Ive ever had, though, the only one thats hung in there with me through the years, is the Sex on the Beach fantasy. It has turned out to be more difficult to bring this one to life than Id expected. As it happens, private beachfront time when the sun is shining and the temperature is just right for some naked sexy time is a hot commodity. Just ask the hordes of vacationers crowding our shores every sunny day between Memorial Day and Labor Day each year, or rather, dont, because they dont want to hear it, which rather highlights the problem. Where theres a will, theres a way, however, and where theres a will and a way and some plane tickets and possibly even a passport or two and a boat and some nautical charts and a cheerful husband, there can be the realization of a happy girls dream. Coleridge wrote how a reader might have to engage in a willing suspension of disbelief in order to appreciate the fantastic worlds that literature could open up. Sex on the beach is sort of like that. Sex is, as Im sure youve noticed by now, and holy hell if not please get in touch because you are doing something wrong wrong wrong, a slippery business. On the beach, the slippery soon becomes the sandy. And sand + friction on certain body parts is just not OK, unless maybe youve got some kind of sandpaper fetish, in which case, who am I to judge. If youre really going at it, and if youve gone so far as to bust out passports and travel by plane and boat to get here, you most certainly are not sort of lethargically and methodically knocking one out for the hell of it, sand is going to make its way up into the unmapped depths of your delicate bits. My advice to you on this matter is to pretend youre re-enacting that scene in From Here to Eternity and roll around in the surf a bit from time to time to rinse the grit away. We tried to avoid the potential sand in the hoo-ha problem by starting out on a towel under a beach umbrella, but that was just plain silly, because the towel was a crumpled up nuisance almost instantly, plus it sort of defeated the whole out there in the open on the beach point of it all. And anyway, the splashing around proved to be more fun and led to the fulfillment of a fantasy my husband didnt even know he had until about thirty seconds before it was fulfilled. On that subject let me just say this: if youre on your knees and there are any hints of waves at all, try to make sure that you are facing away from the incoming tide in order to avoid a mouthful of seawater. Youre welcome. My husband spent a fair amount of time with his back to the noonday sun. For this I am profoundly grateful. For his trouble he was rewarded with not only my gratitude, but also a preposterous sunburn on his previously lily white ass. In my haste to strip him down to nothing as soon as wed hit this private beach, the judicious application of sunscreen fell by the wayside. Damn it, there was beach sex to be had! So, yeah. His ass peeled a few days later. Whatever. I had an insane orgasm in the middle of a Caribbean beach in broad daylight with nobody around but seagulls and maybe a stray hermit crab. Small price to pay. Ultimately, whatever the specifics of what youre into and who does what to whom and where your leg is and where his face is, feeling so free to luxuriate in the sun and on the beach and in the water not only giving and receiving pleasure but doing so knowing that it was something Id thought about for so long was the best part. And now I get to check that one off the list and move on to the next one! Anybody have a helicopter I can borrow for a few days? So tell me, do you have an fantasies that you plan on fulfilling or will you just keep them within the confines of your mind?

make women squirt

Some women don't know how to orgasm, while others need little more than a whisper in order to reach orgasmic heights. And then there are the others -- those women who have the capability to squirt their juices all over the bed, the floor, or even you. Although we'd like to believe that every woman is capable of reaching such heights of sexual ecstasy, unfortunately, there are many women out there who disagree. And if they're not willing to open their minds to the idea of ejaculating, then that's their prerogative. Nevertheless, if you are with a woman who is very sexually in tune with herself, and would be willing to let you manipulate her vagina until she ejaculated all over you, then today's tip on female ejaculation is going to leave you soaking wet. Before you make her ejaculate A woman's ejaculate is expelled from the urethra, the same place where urine comes out from. And although studies have found that the clear liquid is not urine at all (the juice is released from the Skene's glands, or urethral sponge), if your girl doesn't have complete control over her PC (pubococcygeus) muscle, there is a chance that she may actually pee all over you. If this does end up happening, be cool about it. Think about it; it's normal for her to feel as though she's about to urinate when she's about to ejaculate. If she tries to hold it in, she won't ejaculate; she has to let go. If she does end up urinating, and you trip out on her, she'll never try this again. Accept the golden shower, and don't freak out. Let her go with it; eventually she'll learn the difference between the sensations. And although you can manipulate her vagina all you like, if your woman is inhibited, then chances are she won't be able to reach this pinnacle of sexual satisfaction. She may even get annoyed by the feeling, so make sure she wants it. OK, so she wants it. If you're about ready to start seeking the liquids, read on to find out what you have to do. Make her ejaculate with your fingers While there are some women who can ejaculate through clitoral stimulation, or through other sex play (penile penetration or even breast-sucking), the most effective way to achieve this outcome is through G-spot manipulation with your hands.Obviously, we're not implying that you should head directly for the G-spot when you're trying to make her ejaculate. Start out with some foreplay and lick her clitoris first -- get her "pumped," so to speak. Once she begins to get excited, insert two fingers inside her vagina, with your palm facing up. But don't stop licking her clitoris (unless, of course, you can't do two things at a time).About an inch or two inside the vagina, you will likely hit a round ball of skin -- that's the G-spot. Keep stroking the area with pressure; it may start to become more solid; just keep doing what you're doing. Tip: Use your other hand to gently press down on the area between her navel and her mons pubis (her pubic mound) for increased stimulation. If she tells you that she feels like she's about to urinate, assure her that it's near impossible for her to pee and that she should just let go. Although her instincts may be to hold back, reassure her with encouraging words like, "Oh yeah, I can't wait for you to drench my hands." As she begins to reach orgasm and starts to ejaculate, prepare yourself to either be greeted by a light gushing liquid or an actual drenching spray. Both are normal and the amount of liquid can reach anywhere from a teaspoon to a cup. Have some towels handy. After she gushes like crazy, chances are she'll want a break because her vagina might become extremely sensitive (think of the head of your penis after you ejaculate). So, don't go for a second round right away unless you get the distinct impression that she's ready for more.Keep getting the goods Achieving the almighty squirt may not be as simple as described above; it may take some experimentation, persuasion and different positions. As well, you may want to try stimulating other parts of her body while you head inside. For example, have her lie down on the bed, face up, and kneel next to her (your body should be facing her belly button). While your fingers are stimulating her G-spot, use your other hand and your mouth to manipulate her nipples.You could also opt to rotate between penile penetration and finger penetration in the doggy-style position. And, of course, there are women who can ejaculate through sex alone, so place her on a surface where her vagina easily meets your penis and penetrate her, making sure only your penis connects your bodies. And if all else fails, you can always call on a vibrator to help your woman get in touch with her juicier side. keep on simulating Every woman has the ability to reach incredible heights of orgasm. It's up to you to convince her to let go of her inhibitions and make her ejaculate all over you.

Kitchen Play

I stood in the kitchen watching him finish the dishes, as I dried my hands. I decided I wanted to be playful, so I twisted the towel up and snapped his hot, sexy ass. He jumped, and turned and looked at me with a rather awkward smile on his face. So you want to play like that? he said, as he took his hands out of the dish water and flicked water at me. Then he started walking towards me. What ya going to do now missy? he said with a big cheesy grin on his sexy face. Bring it buddy! I said as I started backing up from him. He was looking straight into my soul with those big blue eyes. God they made my heart skip a beat every time he looked at me like that. And he knew it thats why he teased me with them. I could feel myself becoming wet with anticipation. I was hoping that he was in the mood. He leaned into me, kind of testing the waters. But I leaned in towards him too. I placed my arms around his neck as his lips met mine, and we kissed passionately. Our bodies moving closer together as his hands stroked up and down my back. We continued to kiss, than he lightly bit my bottom lip. He moved his hands down to my ass and pulled me tightly into him. He acted like I was going to run from him. But I loved him and wanted to show him that every day. He started to kiss my neck and I quivered in pleasure. Then he stopped and pushed me back. I thought that was it, what had I done wrong? He reached for my hand and led me to the kitchen table. At the side of the table we now stood. Staring into one others eyes, both smiling and wanting what was about to happen. Jared placed his hands around my neck and pulled me into him. We kissed again, very lightly, very passionately. I placed my hands on his sides moving them slowly up his tee shirt until I could feel his shoulder blades, then moving them back down. I loved the feel of his soft flesh underneath my fingertips. He quickly pulled his shirt off then went for mine. We resumed our kissing, and I could tell his excitement was building as I could feel his fully erected cock, trying to make its way out of his jeans. We pulled each other closer so that our flesh met, his hand moved to my back to unclasp my bra. He pulled it off to reveal my small perky breasts. He looked at them for a second, and then moved his head down to lick and kiss my right breast. He circled my nipple with his cold wet tongue and it grew hard. Then he moved slowly to my left breast giving it the same attention. I loved it but couldnt take the pleasure so I pulled his head up and kissed him passionately. We were probing each others mouths with our tongues, and he once again bit my lower lip. I pulled at the front of his jean until I got the button undone. Then I thrust my hand down until I find his balls and squeeze. He gasped as I moved my hand upward and took hold of his dick at the base. I stroked it slowly, as he gasped again in pleasure, but stopped me. He pulled the remainder of his clothing off, and started kissing me as he guided my hand back to his manhood. My breathing was getting heavier as I continued to stroke his long hard cock. How I wanted to feel him thrusting inside of me. I licked my lips as I could almost taste his sweet, salty cum on my tongue. I felt him unbutton my jeans and slip his hand down to my very wet pussy. His finger found its way easily between my lips. The smile on his face showed how excited he was to be playing down there. He moved his finger very lightly up and down my lips from the entrance of my vagina to my clit. Up and down, down and up, with a little rub to my clit, over and over again. He could tell I loved it, and I knew he was too. We were now stroking each other in a rhythm getting a little faster with each stroke. He pulled my hand off his cock and looked at me as he moved my hands to my sides. He lowered himself down, kissing my neck, breast, and tummy and then descended down to my waist line. He tugged at my jeans as he kissed and licked around the top in a teasing motion. He slowly pulled the remainder of my clothing off, than gave me a little push to sit on the table. He continued his kissing and nibbling around the top of my thighs. He laid me back and opened my legs, as he probed and licked gently up and down my wet pussy, with an occasional light flicker to my clit. My breathing got noticeably louder as he moved up and down with his tongue, catching my clit more and more with each stroke. I pulled on his hair as he parted my pussy lips with his finger. He was now toying around the entrance to my vagina with his fingers. He pressed two fingers into my vagina as he sped up the licking to my clit. I could feel my orgasm coming on as I arched my back, and my legs began to tremble. I dug my fingernails into his scalp as I squirted my juices on his tongue. Thank you, that was amazing! I said as I pulled him up and kissed him. I wanted more though, so I pulled his dick towards my very wet pussy. He pushed just the head of his hard cock into me, moving in slowly. Teasing me, then he slammed the rest of his manhood into me. He thrusts a little faster with each stroke. He pushed my legs back towards my head so that my ass was raised slightly off the table. He continued his thrusts faster, harder, and deeper. I felt my vagina tighten around his dick and my juices began to flow. He continued to penetrate me harder and harder. He started to jerk, so I knew he was close too. I pushed him off of me and slammed him into the wall next to us. I dropped to my knees, my tongue finds the bottom of his balls and ever so slowly I lick up his shaft. As I near the top I began to trace the tip of his shaft, around and around my tongue wetting a ring just under the tip. Then in one quick movement I consume Jared's shaft all the way down to the base and ever so slowly release it, all the while letting my tongue flick along the bottom on its way out. He allows me to do that two more times before he begin to face fuck me, thrusting in and out of me. Then all of Jared's muscles in his body seize as his load bursts into my mouth and down my throat as I hungrily lap up the rest. Now that was a great desert. I said as he pulled me up and began to kiss me passionately

Mystical world of sexual fantasy.

Every woman on earth has fantasized about some explicit sexual fantasy that she may or may not have been too ashamed to talk about. Whether it's your girlfriend or your wife, this top ten list is sure to touch on a forbidden fantasy of her own. Although most women prefer to leave their fantasies at that, others have a list that they are slowly but surely accomplishing. So the next time your woman seems to be wandering off in thought, who knows, she may be cruising around in the mystical world of sexual fantasy. So do you think you can guess what some of them are? This list took a lot of time to comprise (and a few bottles of red wine as well), and the women's names have been changed to protect their privacy. So the next time you're engaging in pillow talk with your lady of the night, her fantasy may be more common than you might think. drum roll please.. Keep in mind that fantasies are a normal and healthy part of our sexuality. They are either taken from past experiences or may even be entirely imaginary. Sometimes these fantasies are taboo, or socially unacceptable, therefore they are only available through fantasy. But as you'll figure out today, the modern woman marvels at sex and sexuality. 10. Strangers in the night Many women relish the idea of meeting up with a mystery man and going to some no-name motel with him for a wild night of uninhibited sex. Sometimes women feel like the only people they can truly let loose with are strangers simply because they won't be judged. And who cares anyway? They'll probably never see the beautiful stranger again. Francine divulged her perspective, "The idea of sharing a passionate night with a stranger and behaving like a sexual predator doesn't just sound inviting; it sounds delicious. And leaving after we're done without even knowing each other's names is the best part." 9. The more the merrier Group sex was a popular one among the ladies. "The freedom of being nude in front of a bunch of people who are equally exposed, allowing different men and women to touch and penetrate your body simultaneously is incredibly erotic." Now don't mistakenly assume that all women want to engage in group intercourse, and gather up all your buddies for your next date (unless, of course, she asks you to). 8. Who's your daddy? If there's one thing that women are dying to do, it's dominate a man like never before. The creative ideas that flowed from this topic were quite interesting, to say the least. They included: * spanking him * ordering him to perform certain sexual acts * making him beg for what he wants * having him suck on their stiletto heels or some other phallic object 7. Lay me out on display In today's world of confident women, I was not surprised to learn that many of them fantasize about having an audience whilst engaging in sexual acts with a partner. I guess the idea of knowing that others are getting excited by their "performance" provides them with a feeling of empowerment. "Imagining that people are watching me while I'm taking my partner's manhood into my mouth gives me a feeling of satisfaction because it makes me feel sexier." Perhaps these women feel as though they're participating in an erotic movie... speaking abstractly, of course. 6. Sexually ravaged Although most women agreed that they fantasize about having a master, their role in the scenario differed. Whereas some women said that they would surrender to their master's demands, others opposed the idea and said that they would resist and disobey his commands. Vicky said, "Having him instruct me on how to lick and suck his member or at what pace to ride him will make me orgasm faster than I can say Yes, Master." On the other hand, Denise interrupted saying, "It depends. In some fantasies I obey, yet in others I fight him and refuse to do anything he says until he finally ties me to the bed and calms me with his rhythmic penetration." Whew, is it hot in here, or is it just me???

Bisexual Fantasies

Sometimes when you imagine a threesome with someone of the same sex, its a prelude to fantasizing about a more intimate, same-sex twosome. Or maybe the third opposite sex lover is just there for show, to guide or even force the two same-gender lovers to play with each other. Or maybe your erotic theater of the mind will just combine the male and female into one and imagine sex with a pre-op transsexual or shemale. This doesnt necessarily mean youre truly gay, though it could. It most often means youre truly bisexual, which I believe most of us are, and that your fantasy life is making up for what you repress in your real life. Just because you fantasize about having sex with someone of your gender doesnt mean you ought to do it. Same sex fantasies can signify a lot of different things for people who lead mostly straight real lives--from seeking personal validation to breaking societal taboos. Its funny; it used to be much more taboo for women to admit to any kind of fantasies, except the kind revolving around love and bodice-rippers, a.k.a. romance novels. But now that more women are creating porn and erotica, making it more romantic--that is, story and character-driven--younger women are unabashedly eating it up. Modern ladies also seem to have an easier time accepting their bi-curious fantasies than most men do. There are various sociopolitical, cultural, psychological and physical reasons for this. Women know that most men are turned on by two women together, whereas its still a rare, very open-minded woman who enjoys two men together. Our society is more homophobic than lesbian-phobic. Then there are the real-life, physical risks which tend to be greater between men, since penetration is more often involved, than between women. When fantasizing about sex with another female, most women imagine the other womans whole body: her breasts, buns, hair, lips (both pairs), clitoris, soft skin, seductive eyes, etc. When men fantasize about other men, they tend to focus on one part: the penis. Usually, they envision a big one. So Freud was wrong about penis envy. Women dont have it; men do. At least, a lot of men do. Certainly, Freud himself did. Even, perhaps especially, the outwardly homophobic male has gay fantasies. Why do you think a guy like that is so scared of gays converting straight men? Because in his fantasies, thats exactly what happens: a hugely endowed male dominates him, forcing him to have sexusually giving oral or taking anal--and he likes it, at least in fantasy (again, this doesnt necessarily mean hes truly gay). Masters & Johnson reported that heterosexuals often fantasize about homosexual encounters and vice versa, more often reflecting curiosity and other impulses than the desire to change the gender of one's real-life lovers. Norman Mailer went so far as to say that There is probably no sensitive heterosexual alive who is not preoccupied with his latent homosexuality. I would add at some point in his life, since such desires come and go. Our society tends to make things black or white, good or bad, male or female, heterosexual or homosexual. But the human sexual imagination is most definitely bisexual, even what you might call omnisexual. When Edna St. Vincent Millay went to a doctor for her headaches, he suggested they might stem from an occasional erotic impulse toward a person of [her] own sex. Oh, you mean Im homosexual? Millay responded, Of course, I am, and heterosexual too, but whats that got to do with my headache? Maybe thats what the Pulitzer-prize-winning poet and Vassar girl meant when she wrote my candle burns at both ends. Men are not from Mars, and women are not from Venus. Were all from the same beautiful, wild, sexual planet Earth, and were far more alike than we are different. Dr. Alfred Kinsey was among the first to show that were all on a bisexual continuum with absolute heterosexuals on one end and absolute homosexuals on the other end. Very few of us fall at one extreme or the other. Most of us are bisexual to some degree. That doesnt mean we like both sexes equally at all times. It just means most of us can potentially, under the right circumstances (boarding school, prison, a desert island, etc.), with the right person (the Perfect Lover), be aroused by either gender. Certainly, we can, and often do, enjoy being bi in fantasy.

sexual fantasies

One of the attractions of fantasy lovers -- even when your fantasy lover is actually your current partner, as often happens -- is that they're right beside you, and they know just what to do to make you feel good. Another benefit is that you can enjoy fantasy sex with someone other than your partner without repercussions, because it occurs solely in your mind. Fantasy gives you an outlet for all of the wild, lustful things that you've always wanted to do. You might be really turned on, for example, by the thought of doing it with your spouse in a convertible in the mall parking lot on a sunny Sunday afternoon. Chances are you're not going to try this one out for real, but you can go full speed ahead in your fantasies.

Sexual Problems

The amazing thing about sexual problems is nobody wants to talk about them. So everyone who has one thinks they're the only one. You Are Not Alone Millions of Americans experience common sexual problems, such as erectile dysfunction or dryness of the vagina. Many of these problems, while embarrassing to talk about with your doctor, respond well to certain medications. With the surge in Viagra sales, it is no wonder this is one of the most common difficulties experienced in life. Because it is an embarrassing subject, many people feel alone in their problems, even more alone than people who experience other, similar types of problems. You Are Not to Blame Sexual problems are often the result of simple learned behaviors and associations we make over years of conditioning. Other people's sexual dysfunction is related to a specific, diagnosable medical cause. Whatever the cause, you are not to blame. Sexual dysfunction is usually not caused by parental upbringing or by some conscious desire to have difficulties in the sexual arena. And if it is a problem you've been grappling with for years, it is not likely to just go away or cure itself overnight. What Do I Do Now? This information is here to act as a comprehensive guide to help you better understand sexual problems and find out more information about it on your own. I encourage you to learn more about your sexual dysfunction and some of the treatment options available to you, ranging from medication to behavior-oriented or couples psychotherapy. Criteria below is summarized from: American Psychiatric Association. (1994). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders, fourth edition. Washington, DC: American Psychiatric Association. * Exhibitionism * Female and Male Orgasmic Disorders * Female Sexual Arousal Disorder * Fetishism * Frotteurism * Gender Identity Disorder * Sexual Masochism and Sadism * Male Erectile Disorder * Premature Ejaculation * Dyspareunia * Transvestic Fetishism * Vaginismus * Voyeurism Female Orgasmic Disorder: Persistent or recurrent delay in, or absence of orgasm following a normal sexual excitement phase. Women exhibit wide variability in the type or intensity of stimulation that triggers orgasm. The diagnosis of Female Orgasmic Disorder should be based on the clinician's judgment that the woman's orgasmic capacity is less than would be reasonable for her age, sexual experience, and the adequacy of sexual stimulation she receives. The disturbance causes marked distress or interpersonal difficulty. The orgasmic dysfunction is not better accounted for by another mental disorder (except another sexual dysfunction) and is not due exclusively to the direct physiological effects of a substance (e.g., a drug of abuse, a medication) or a general medical condition. Male Orgasmic Disorder: Persistent or recurrent delay in, or absence of, orgasm following a normal sexual excitement phase during sexual activity that the clinician, taking into account the person's age, judges to be adequate in focus, intensity, and duration. The disturbance causes marked distress or interpersonal difficulty. The orgasmic dysfunction is not better accounted for by another mental disorder (except another sexual dysfunction) and is not due exclusively to the direct physiological effects of a substance (e.g., a drug of abuse, a medication) or a general medical condition. Fetishism: In psychology, the term applies to sexual urges and fantasies that persistently involve the use of nonliving objects by themselves or, at times, the use of such objects with a sexual partner. Common fetishes include feet, shoes, and articles of intimate female apparel. Symptoms: Over a period of at least 6 months, recurrent, intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors involving the use of nonliving objects (e.g., female undergarments). The fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning. The fetish objects are not limited to articles of female clothing used in cross-dressing (as in Transvestic Fetishism) or devices designed for the purpose of tactile genital stimulation (e.g., a vibrator).

All This Sex Talk - You Must Want It, Right?

Do you like sex? I certainly do. I love how close sex can bring me to someone I care about, and I love how it can deepen my understanding and appreciation of that person. I love how much healthy pleasure it brings into my life. I love how sex can bring me to delightful altered states of consciousness, and I love the feelings of acceptance and contentment and trust it can create in me and my partner. In fact, I love sex so much I've made a hobby of learning more about it. My site is going to share some of the insights I've gained as I've grown in my understanding of this fascinating and wonderful aspect of human experience. I know there is a lot of miscommunication and misunderstanding about sex. I'm 35 and I've been there. I remember my first sexual experience and how frightening that was. The boy I was in love with ripped off his pants in the front seat of his car and jumped me. Before both of us knew it, it was over. I'm talking less than one minute. Then I went through a one-woman sexual revolution (age 22-26) of my own. It wasn't until I went through therapy as an adult, recovered my self-esteem and read some books on sex and intimacy, that I discovered what meaningful sex was all about. And yes, it does help to have a knowledgeable and talented lover... ... but there's more. Don't you find it wonderful when a lover is really into what you two are doing together, and he or she seems actively, passionately, and completely absorbed in the pleasure you two are creating? Isn't it great when he or she is experiencing deep, overwhelming delight and directing that energy and appreciation back at you? It's a profound irony that one of the most effective things you can do to become a better lover is to learn to appreciate pleasure even more, but in my experience it's true. In my opinion, the three most important elements to becoming a better lover are learning to feel, choosing what pleases you, and empathy.

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